Did you get a bunch of RSVPs right at the end?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nope. We had 100 of 300 people not RSVP at all, they didn’t get a seat

Post # 4
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes, we had a lot come in the week following the date the on the RSVP. We also had to call up several people to see if they were actually coming (most were).

Post # 5
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

kimmo416:  Unfortunately some people just don’t send an RSVP back (how rude). Our deadline is in just over a week and we are still waiting on 16 RSVPs to come back (5 of which we know for sure will be coming and 3 we are pretty sure won’t be coming). I think it is normal to call people to find out, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I would wait a few days after your deadline to message/call to find out.

Post # 6
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I only had 62 of 94 cards by the due date whinch was July 31. I actually just got one back yesterday

Post # 7
2322 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

kimmo416:  No…I got a bunch never though!

Post # 8
22 posts

I’m stressing out big time over this. Not sure what the numbers are exactly, but I know we are still waiting to officially hear from about 60 people of 168. People have been telling us that they are or are not coming, which I find just as rude as not sending back the card. don’t they understand that that was the reason I sent an RSVP card and a stamped, addressed envelope?? Do people not understand courtesy and etiquette anymore?!

Post # 9
3646 posts
Sugar bee

No, they don’t seem to understand courtesy and etiquette anymore (getting thank you cards is like pulling teeth, too). Or they simply don’t care. And we’re talking about a lot of guests who are in the same age range as the bride and groom, and have  gone through the RSVP experience, with equal frustration. 

Getting RSVPs for showers is even worse. For both, if the guests don’t plan to attend, they simply don’t respond. I had to purchase and send 85 Etsy invitations, for 101 guests to attend my daughter’s wedding. About 10% never responded to me – and I mailed them a letter giving them an extra week to respond, one week after the due date. Now I’m worried about no-shows. UGH! 

Post # 10
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mrsdal920:  Yes to all of this.  My numbers are similar to yours.  My final date is Monday.  Some of the people just got married recently and you would think they would understand how frustrating it is.  I’ve never ignored a RSVP date in my life.  You would think people would try to avoid the awkward phone converstation by just filling out the RSVP.  

Post # 11
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

What gets me is that its bad ettiqute not to put in a stamped return envelope for the rsvp yet they think its ok to just call instead of mailing it back and saying “oh of course we are coming” like i should have a crystal ball and already know. This is the one thing about my wedding planning that I am hating is this rsvp business!!


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