Post # 1
So I’m just wondering.
When we got back from our wedding (we got married overseas) we got an 8 week old kitten.
I’m just wondering how many other newlyweds went down this path?
Did you do it for any particular reason (staving off the cluckiness perhaps)?
Or just because you wanted a new addition to your new family?
Someone told me that the stress of a new pet can cause strain on the new marriage. But I’ve found that our mutual love for our adorable little boy has only brought us closer together.
Post # 3
@anonforapost: My parents received a puppy as a wedding gift from my uncle. She lived to be 18 years old and my parents will be married 32 years this week!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Nope, but it is one of those “next steps” things. I totally want a puppy (and so does FI), but we have to get past him being away on a job for a few months (I can’t take care of a dog on my own either, since my job and commute take me away from home for at least 12 hours straight) and also gotta work on putting up a fence around our yard. We want one as a new addition to our family!
Post # 5
DH and I got a dog together when we were dating. I was the one who wanted to get a dog, and my husband didn’t really love or hate the idea. He ended up totally falling in love with our precious girl. We decided we wanted to get a second dog towards the end of this year. About a month after we got married though a rescue dog came up that sounded like she would fit in well with our family. We took our dog to meet her and they loved each other. So, we ended up getting a dog shortly after getting married, but that wasn’t really the plan! It has turned out great for us. Our first dog is doing so well with having a sister. They are best friends and they love each other. We’ve also fallen in love. She is absolutely precious. She was abused and neglected before she came to us, so we’ve all been learning how to slowly introduce her to new things in life that’s she’s never experienced. It’s been a wonderful experience for our family.
Post # 6
I work with a local animal rescue and I cant tell you how many pets – even purebreds people get as gifts and then they end up in our local high kill shelter. its a lifetime commitment and so many great animals to chose from out there by adopting not buy you can even search by a specific breed rescue on petfinder.com
Post # 7
@anonforapost: my mom gave my brother and his wife a dog for their wedding gift
adopted. just so we dont get a crazy thread going.
Post # 8
I had a cat before I met DH. My cat needed a playmate. He was bored and fat. So less than a month after the wedding we got a 7 month kitten. I guess it was a wedding gift to each other.
Post # 9
Oh, I wish we could!
We already have two dogs, and will be trying for babies right after we get married so sadly no more cute cuddle animals for me! 🙁
Post # 10
@anonforapost: Pets should not be gifts, unless the giftee KNOWS about it and is prepared and complicit. Surprise animals are never a good idea. Animals cost more than their intial adoption fee or breeder fee, so it’s the gift that keeps on demanding, and someone who hadn’t expressly said “I want a dog/cat and I am ready for one now” is so likely to abandon it later when things get tough (and they will get tough.)
Besides, the idea of someone picking out an animal for me sounds awful! I am very good at finding a good fit in terms of a pet (or getting them to find me) and wouldn’t trust that job to anyone else.
The couple getting an animal for themselves is different though… we got a dog about a year before getting married and we DEFINITELY fought about it and had issues for awhile, adding that to our lives turned out to be a big stressor until we ironed out all the kinks. I’m not sure I’d have wanted to be doing that right after the wedding. But iron them we did, and things calmed down and now we’re a happy little family. 🙂
Post # 11
@anonforapost: I thought you meant literally like someone gaave you a pet..
We got a dog. literally as a wedding gift!
Best gift ever!
I used to pet sit for the little pup and then her owner couldnt take care of her anymore and asked if we would take her for a while. We happily agreed and then about two weeks later he asked us to keep her as a wedding gift
We’ve always talked about how we felt she belonged in our family and couldnt be happier. We already had another dog and they get along great and really having two dogs isnt much different than having one so there wasnt extra stress
Post # 12
Agreed that pets should not be given as gifts. After the wedding we will still be apartment living and back to LDR for a year. The breed of dog I would like is not a good apartment dweller, so it will just be my two cats until we have a house and yard appropriate for a dog.
Post # 13
We already have a puppy but I like the idea of a new addition after we get back from our honeymoon!
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@anonforapost: YES!!!!!! I hinted very heavily to my now-husband that we should get kittens as his wedding gift to me, and the sweetheart paid attention. Love them, they’re so sweet and playful. The little one isn’t fully litter box trained and that’s been a little stressful, but we’re working on it.
You should post a picture of yours! And not to be too nosy, but did you ever think about getting two? It’s hardly any more work and they really do keep each other company…
ETA: adopted from a shelter and from someone who had kitten they were getting rid of – I would never buy a purebreed pet when there are so many out there without homes
Post # 15
We are getting my aunt’s cat, as she passed away last week. While it’s relatively close to our wedding (11 days), it’s not direcly a “wedding gift”.
Post # 16
@lolot: hmm about the litterbox training – its an innate behavior for kitties. try an open box at first if she / he is going outside maybe a vet check to make sure theres no underlying issues