Post # 1
I’m putting together the schedule for each of the wedding party / family members and FH asked me where his mother would get ready. Since they are staying at the same hotel, I just assumed that she would have her hair and makeup done with us (in my room) but when it came time to actually get dressed she would go back to her room and then get ready to leave the hotel with him. He seemed to think she should be getting ready with me and that if I didn’t offer it I was unnecessarily excluding her. Since I sort of assumed that this would be private time with my mother, my BMs and myself, I disagreed with him. What are your thoughts? Did your MIL get ready with you
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I won’t be. She’s getting her hair and makeup done with her family, and joining us after our first look for pictures. We’re both very content with this arrangement!
Post # 4
My MIL met us at the venue after we were all ready and getting started with photos. I love her, but it’s a good thing that she wasn’t with us all day getting ready. She’s really high anxiety and was totally stressing me out! My sister actually asked her to leave our “getting ready” room at one point because she was making me so crazy (bringing in guests to introduce me, making comments about my dress, etc).
Post # 5
Sounds like you have a pretty good compromise there. She may not want to get dressed in your room. My advice: don’t offer it if you don’t want her there, and don’t make a big deal of having time with your mom and girls.
My situation was different so I couldn’t vote. I saw my MIL along with my mom and aunts before the wedding; they were all helping set up. Then my husband and I got dressed together and had our last moments alone, peeking at everyone outside through our room’s window.
Post # 6
We never discussed it, which was unfortunate. She didn’t have her hair and makeup done with us but met us at the venue and just came in the bridal room and started getting ready with my mother, bridesmaids, and me. And because she was allowed in then, she just kept coming back and bringing everyone with her. By the start of the ceremony I felt like I wouldn’t get to surprise anyone with my dress! I should have asked her to stop but that just didn’t occur to me at the time. I expected her to hang out with my husband but that didn’t happen. Definitely set some boundaries and think it through now so you are prepared.
Post # 7
My FMIL will be getting ready with her family (FI’s two sisters). I will be with my bridemaids and mother the entire day for hair, makeup and getting dressed. We will have our first look at our home (so we can include our puppies in some pictures!) and then we will go to our venue. All family members who are not in the wedding party will meet us there for family photos. We actually don’t even have plans for FI to see his mom until family photos as he’ll be with just the guys all day for a bourbon tasting and getting ready. We’re both content with the arrangment 🙂