Post # 1
After months of weight loss I was finally able to try on my dream dress (Divina). The largest sample in my area (well, in a 5 hour driving radius) was a size 10 and I put it on last night after working my way down from a size 16. It was a great feeling. I love the dress, its beautiful and dramatic and while its popular here on the The Bee, its nothing like anyone in my family has EVER worn.
I’ve loved this since the first day I saw it on the runway at NY Bridal Fashion Week and knew it would be “the one”. When I tried it on yesterday I felt great in it (despite the fact that it was a little too tight) but didn’t get “that feeling”.
Is it because I’ve lusted over the dress for so long and knew it was going to be great on me? Is it because I had huge expectations of the whole crying, shaking feeling that you’re “supposed” to have? I have no idea but its making me second guess things. I’ve looked at thousands of dresses online and tried on about 35 samples before putting Divina on and nothing compares; nothing is as dramatic or sassy as she is.
Did you have that feeling? If not, why?
For the record, I haven’t purchased yet.
Post # 3
Just for fun, here is me in the dress (which was too small):
Post # 4
I voted yes, but my story is slightly different. As soon as I saw the dress in an ad I knew EXACTLY that it was the one. So when I tried it on(sample was huge) I still knew. But I’m like that though. When I go shopping I know exactly what I want from where and get it lol. No browsing for me haha. I didn’t have an envision crying and shaking, but I guess relief that it looked perfect on me. So I just knew 🙂
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Post # 6
@FutureMrsKelly2014: I fell in love with my dress as soon as I saw it on the mannequin. I’d seen it online, didn’t love it, went to the store to look at a different dress and saw this one and had an OMG moment. It took me 3 visits to the store to get up the nerve to make an appointment to try it because I was afraid it would be awful on me. When I have it on, I don’t want to take it off. It makes me incredibly happy. I didn’t cry, I wasn’t overly emotional, but I never wanted to take it off (even though it was a size too small). I think ‘that feeling’ is different for everyone. I voted yes – although I’m kind of in between your answers.
and that dress is STUNNING on you!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsKelly2014: I think the dress looks beautiful on you and it will look even better on your wedding day.
I did not have “that feeling” but I wasn’t looking for it. I think these bridal shows make us think that we need have it but we don’t. They give us high expectations which are not always met.
It looks like you will not regret purchasing Divina though. If you really want that dress, buy it and stop looking. Regret comes when you continue looking.
Post # 8
@Chicagochic: Thanks that does help! I knew from when I saw it. I’ve known for even longer that I wanted a mermaid dress. I’ve always been an hourglass shape and wanted that sexy silhouette. I was definitely relieved and very excited to try it on. My friend said she thinks I didn’t have that moment because I just always knew it’d be it, so I’ve had time to think about it and picture it so it wasn’t like just loving one randomly pulled off the rack.
I think TV has screwed up my visions of how I “should” feel. I didn’t bawl when I got engaged and I cry at tv proposals ALL THE TIME. Funny how things affect us differently than we thought they would…
Post # 9
@FutureMrsKelly2014: looks great on you!
I did not get that “feeling” either. I tried on the dress I lusted after and everyone was like “thats it its perfect” and I was all “meh”. I decided to try on a few more and the 5th one I put on everyone FREAKED and I think my mom and MOH were gling to cry. I was super happy with it and definitely knew I felt like a bride but no special “moment” per se. Looking back at photos of me in it makes me happy and I cant wait for alterations in Jan! While my two FSILs cry all of the time when they get happy I giggle so I think its like that everyone reacts differently!
Post # 10
Congrats- it looks great on you!
I didn’t cry or anything, but I’m not really a crier. My mom did, but I expected that! I had been to three salons before going shopping with my mom, FMIL, and FSIL. When the consultant brought five dresses in the room, she asked me to pick which one I liked best on the hanger. I pointed to the one I ended up buying! I tried on several more to be sure, but that was the one.
I felt very happy and comfortable in it, and I could easily picture walking down the aisle in it. I can’t wait until it comes in- it should only be a few weeks before I get to see MY dress!
Post # 11
I voted that I didn’t have that feeling because it definitely wasn’t a big emotional moment when I saw myself. However, it was the dress that I just felt super pretty in. I didn’t want to take it off, and when I was trying others on after it, I wanted to put it back on. I think that’s what really matters.
Not everyone is the type of person to get really emotional about what is ultimately a piece of clothing. I’ll even admit that when it’s hanging in the closet I have moments where I think about whether or not it really was the perfect dress. I then remember it’s not about the most perfect dress it’s about the feeling that I had when I bought it and the amazing feeling I had when I picked it up.
Good luck! That dress is really pretty on you!
Post # 12
@FutureMrsKelly2014: TOTALLY DID NOT.
i chose my dress analytically. tried on dress 1, then dress 2. decided if i liked dress 2 better than dress 1. tried on dress 3. decided if i liked dress 3 better than dress 2. tried on dress 4, decided my favorite between 2, 3, and 4. etc etc. i tried on a total of 13 dresses I think. i kept going back to dress 2, and once i had my mom, FMIL and my bridesmaids there it was an easy decision between my two favorites. i never went OMG THIS IS MY DRESS and started bawling, in fact i didn’t cry at all. my mom and two of my bridesmaids and even a stranger in the store did, but not me. lol
i did say, “this is the feeling, shape, etc that i was looking for. it is comfortable, bridal, romantic and within budget. and it is ME.” it made sense for my personality and our wedding, and i knew it avoided the one thing FI said he hated (ballgowns). but i never had that fairy tale meltdown moment, and that is FINE.
i just saw it as the most important shopping trip of my life, not this googly gaggly thing i was going to do then float up into the clouds and explode with joy. haha
Post # 13
i got the “i don’t want to try any more on” feeling. i didn’t cry with my dress (i did cry with another dress, but then i went to sit down and i couldn’t… so that dress was out. even though i loved it, and still do). but i got the “i don’t want to try any more” and the “this is me” feelings.
Post # 14
Thank you for your words! Its helped so much! The more i think about it, it is perfect and as TwoStates said, it is the feeling and look I’ve always pictured. I can see myself walking down the aisle in it and how it’ll look when the 12 foot tall wooden double-doors open up at my venue. I’m excited and you helped me realise I don’t have to have the moment for it to be right. THANK YOU!
Post # 15
@colorofmyheart: I’m getting more to that point. I didn’t try anything else on last night, just that one dress. I don’t want to look anymore now that I’ve had it on. Thank you 🙂
Post # 16
Not at all. I was just going to wear my grandma’s dress (all lace, she made it in 1961), but I still wanted to go dress shopping. I looked at some dresses and loved the really flowy ones, but also loved the dramatic skirts on some, mermaid shapes, etc. Those looked pretty awful on me, and I tried on a flowy sheath and it looked great so FMIL bought it for me. I DID have dress regret, but I got over it.