Post # 1
Is it rude to ask someone before the RSVP deadline if they received their invite in the mail?
Our RSVP deadline is quite a ways off, but my parents friends haven’t RSVP’d yet, and my parents seem to think it’s because they didn’t get the invite, so they want me to send a second invite. I’d rather ask them something like “We’ve had some trouble with the post office, and I just wanted to double check you received your invite?”. Is this ok? For no apparent reason, they won’t ask their friends if they received it, so I was wondering if there was some ettiquette thing I was missing.
Not that it makes any difference to the question, but my parents both know the RSVP deadline, and they also know none of my siblings have RSVP’d yet either. So I don’t see the rush to assume it’s because of a lost invite.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t see the problem with your parents contacting them and asking them.
Post # 4
Yeah, I’d let your parents contact them if they’re really concerned about it. I would also assume that they just haven’t sent the RSVP back yet; not that it was lost.
I’d just wait until the RSVP deadline and make them the first on your list to call. Whether they just haven’t sent the card back yet, or it’s been lost in the mail, you’ll be in contact with them about the wedding and they’ll know they’ve been invited either way.
Post # 5
My parents would have no problem saying something to their friends. Maybe like… “OH did you get your invitation? Aren’t they cute/pretty/fun?”
Post # 6
I don’t see a problem with asking if they received it. I wouldn’t harass about the RSVP yet though, but asking if they got it is fine.
Post # 7
@Mulan05: if they are super worried I’d just call them myself and say that you know some have already gotten lost, and/or returned so you wanted to ensure it arrived.
or just wait till the deadline and then call