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So I was talking to a friend of mine today who is also planning her wedding, and she said she doesn't think she and her FI will have a chance to eat at their wedding. In fact, she said most of the weddings she has been to (and she's been to a lot!) the bride and groom have just had someone make them a plate and they eat it at the end of the night in their hotel room. I'm not gonna lie, this really upset me lol. I am very much looking forward to having a second to sit down with my new hubby and eat dinner. I know it won't be a long relaxing dinner and I definitely want to have time to visit with guests, but I guess I just can't stand the thought of not getting to enjoy some of the food I have paid for. So my question to you bees is, did you get to eat at your wedding? If you're not married yet, are you planning to eat at your wedding? Thanks!
Hell yeah I plan on eatting! My friends and family know better than to get between me and good food!
Nope, I barely ate.
We did a cocktail style reception with plenty of passed as well as 4 stations that were open for 2-3 hours. I only ate a few bites that the caterer put in the back room where I kept all my stuff and when I went to bustle my dress that is when I grabbed a few.
I wasnt all that hungry also. I think in part because of the corset dress I wore. It was comfortable, but pulled tight so my stomach was restricted.
P.S. I SWORE I wasnt going to be that bride. But I was. The caterer packed up leftovers that we ate the next day.
We did...actually, we ate a lot because we were starving lol. We got to our reception about 30 minutes before everyone else because our crazy driver was going 90mph the whole way. So we had plenty of our appetizers. But during our sit down dinner, no one got up to socialize - we had planned to save the walking around and talking for after our cake cutting/first dance (so our photographer could get photos of everything important before leaving)
Oh I'm eating. I'm not getting up from my seat until I am done eating. I have never been to a wedding where I didn't see the bride and groom eat.
I only ate a little bit. I didn't have much appetite due to all the excitement and my corset dress was really tight. DH ate like 3 plates though and I definitely ate a lot at the end of the night after changing into comfy clothes. Also we got to take all our buffet leftovers home so I don't feel like I missed out at all.
I ate my entire dinner. We had a plated meal, and the servers were so ON IT! They took my plate away and kept it warm every time I was gone for a visit during dinner. When I came back, they had it back in front of me before my butt hit the chair. Guests ordered their drinks at the bar, but the servers never let my drink go dry (unless I requested it). I wouldn't have known to ask for this kind of special service, but it really freed me to enjoy my meal and my guests.
Our dinner was at 9 or 9:30 p.m., and I'd been busy all day w/o a chance to eat. I can't imagine skipping dinner too. I'd have been plowed after one champagne toast!
Ummm heck yea we are going to eat! At weddings where the bride and groom go around and visit tables during dinner, they usually dont get to eat but we are greeting guests during the cocktail hour to avoid this problem. We are even considering having the DJ say (in a light hearted manner) to "let the bride and groom eat" during dinner so we have a chance to eat and have a few minutes to ourselves.
Oh honey do whatever you want. If anything PLAN on eating. Make it a part of your itinerary.
There is no way I am not eating my BBQ feast! Its just unthinkable. Why plan a wedding you can't eat at. Thats just silly!
I have never been to a wedding where the bride and groom didn't eat
I had a chance to eat, but I wasn't that hungry. IT was disappointing because I was really excited about all the food. I had a super small wedding, so it was easy to mingle with people and I didn't need to do it during dinner.
I was MOH at my friend's wedding a few years ago and I was so excited to be at the main table and to be able to talk to my friend a bit. She and her hubby NEVER SAT DOWN. Not once. I barely saw them the whole night. It happens and it's ok. If you want to make time to eat, you will! Just don't get too busy.
I planned to eat, and I did get to dish up my plate (we had a buffet), but I only got one bite; actually, it was one bite of an appetizer, then I was directed elsewhere. My husband got to eat because he just dug in, but I had to chat with everyone, and then the sun came out, so we were rushed outside real quick for a few pictures, and when we got back our plates had been wisked away :-/
We did have leftovers delivered to our room for later though, but I just ate some leftover cake and drank some wine. We were able to take some leftovers home and we ate them the next day.
I will definitely eat. Around here (thankfully) the folks a the head table are served first and left alone by guests until the meal is served and finished. Then speeches are given, cake is cut, and the mingling begins then.
I need my food, and I may growl if someone tries to keep me from it ;-)
I know how "not eating" can be. We had well over 60 people at our engagement party, and I didn't eat. Eeryone wants to talk to you and wish you well! The one time I did get something in my mouth, someone was right there waiting to talk to me. I would have had to talk with my mouth full the whole night!
I ate my entire dinner, as well as several appies before during cocktail hour. I was not about to miss out on that amazing food!
The only thing I didn't get a chance to have at the wedding was an actual slice of our cake. We each fed each other a bite during the cutting, but we were too busy partying later when the cake was served to get a real piece then. BUT we took the top tier home with us and ate it over the next week before we left for our honeymoon, so I can't complain.
We ate, but in a huge hurry. I snacked a tiny bit at the cocktail hour, but not much because I was always moving and talking to people. I didn't really eat my salad (I was in the bathroom). I scarfed down my entree, and then DH and I made the table rounds while everyone else was eating. And my only bite of cake what was DH fed me.
The only time I really ate (other than the dinner entree) was right after the ceremony. We had a Jewish wedding, and right after we got married we had "yichud" which is when the bride and groom go off by themselves for a little bit to cement their bond. Our DOC had arranged for a bottle of champagne and a cheese plate to be in the room, and once I took off my shoes, DH and I ate and drank and snuggled for 20 minutes before rejoining the party. I'd definitely recommend it (even if you're not Jewish)!
I totally thought I'd dig into my delish dinner at our wedding, but I just could. not. eat.!! (and i love to eat!! :) )I think all of the emotion, nerves, excitement just made it impossible. I made myself a plate, sat down, maybe had 1 or 2 bites, but my belly was not interested in food OR alcohol!! I never understood when brides said they couldn't eat at their wedding, but after my experience, I totally understand. My problem wasn't even being distracted by guests... oh well, everyone raved about the food. i'm glad our guests enjoyed it. don't worry about eating, or not eating, just do whatever is best for you in that moment! :)
I ate my whole meal :) We were both starving so there was no way I wasn't going to eat!
Of course we are eating! Unless you are nervous and feel like vomitting, why wouldn't you?
We had a buffet brunch reception, and we went through the buffet first. We filled our plates and went to our sweetheart table, and scarfed our food down while everyone else was heaping food on their plates. I shouldn't say we scarfed though-- I was bound and determined to eat that yummy brunch food, so I finished my plate. DH was too worked up and ate just a little bit. We were able to make the rounds to visit with our guests after I was done.
If eating is important to you, make sure your parents and DOC know so that they'll give you 10-15 mins or so to eat without pulling you away.
I am so glad to hear that most of you ate/are planning to eat at your wedding! I also get really grouchy if I don't eat and I don't even want to think about how drunk I would probably get off two glasses of wine if I didn't eat all night. For you ladies with buffets, how did you do it? Did you just go through the line first and sit down while people were starting to go through the line? I guess I am just worried that we won't have time to visit with all our guests (about 200), so it's nice to hear first hand experiences. Thanks ladies!
We both ate!! We had a buffet dinner for our at-home wedding, and someone had to tell us to start because no one would start the buffet until we did, lol. Then we sat down and ate our dinners. It was great.
I had a bite of everything, but never finished anything. I never even got to try the late night table :(
Oh we'll eat alright. Well, I better eat anyway, I have hypoglycemia! 
In our families we get our food first, and eat until guests are settled. I am a GOOD eatter. Plus, the only thing other than the beer FI is excited about it the food. lol
My DJ/bartending manager did say though alot of weddings she has done the bride eats very little. She offered to make sure that if after dinner to ask the caterer to make up left over plates for us, and keep it safe since she wont be leaving until we do. (she is AWESOME!!!)
We ate. We had a plated dinner. It was sooo good. The servers were really quick. They served the head table and then quickly served everyone else. We ate while everyone else was beginning to eat as well.
We also had a receiving line after the ceremony. So, I wasnt under alot of stress to personally go say hi to everyone right away.
One thing I am bummed about - we missed the passed appetizers. During cocktail hour, we were taking pics with the photographer. We had the servers go grab us a few, but some choices were already gone. The mini grilled cheese sandwiches went so fast that we didnt get any. Guests were raving about them all night. I still wished we had gotten to try them. We ordered 800 apps for 67 guests - they didnt last long. I was shocked. I was sure we ordered too much. We had a hungry crowd.
Oh I definitely ate my entire meal and it was not rushed either. There was no question that I was going to eat dinner - I was HUNGRY! We missed most of cocktail hour as our photographer asked us if we wanted to do a few more pictures and we agreed, but we knew we were going to eat our dinner so it wasn't a huge deal.
We did most of our pictures before the ceremony (we ran out of time, hence the additional few photos during cocktail hour) so that cut down on time of our reception we missed. We also had our ceremony and reception at the same place (at a golf course) so there was no travel time between the two. When we were announced into the reception, we went straight over to the cake table and cut the cake then so as not to be interrupted during dinner. Once dinner was served, there weren't any interruptions until the very end of dinner, when I happened to notice the sun was peeking through the clouds just before sunset (it had been overcast all day) and asked our photographer if we could get some pictures. As a result, I missed dessert but that's ok, there was leftover cake to eat later.
I know a lot of weddings I've been to, the couple circulates amongst the tables during dinner but we opted not to do that. We had a receiving line as people were walking up from the ceremony space to the ballroom and so we greeted everyone then. It worked out really well for us and as our food was spectacular, we were really, really glad we got to eat our entire meal!
I nibbled on my food. So, no, I did not eat my food. I was just so busy. I would sit down and have a bite of food and look up and see a guest I haven't greeted yet. So I would have to get up. I didn't have a receiving line and although I didn't want one, it would have been nice to greet everyone, so I wouldn't have to do it during dinner.
I guess I would suggest to have food brought to the bride's room so I could have some time alone to eat. But then again, I would be too excited and gitty to eat.
My husband and I ate at our reception. After all the time we spent picking out the food you better believe I was going to eat it! We had a buffet and the main coordinator had us go up to get our food first. That way we got to eat while everyone else was going up to get their food. I also made sure I got to eat a piece of cake.
I didn't really get to eat the appetizers from the cocktail hour nor the candy from the candy buffet but that wasn't a big deal to me.
i've heard both: bride and groom get to eat and others that haven't. and one couple that told me the groom got 2 meals because he ws really hungry and asked for another.
i plan to eat ..just as i plan to drink..and dance...i figure i am paying a lot of money for all of these things so i want to enjoy alll of them to the max!!!!! {edit}i hope i'm not being unrealistic abot this statement!
Luckily its customary in these parts for the bridal party to be served their food first. Usually they then eat while the rest of the reception is getting their food and then once everyone has it the toasts start. All the weddings I have been to here, I have never not seen the bride and groom eat.
Oh my dear lord I can not even THINK about NOT eating! LOL!
Seriously, we are on such a tight budget, but my mom is paying for the catering. We have picked out what we wanted, and I am going to eat my heart away and I really don't even care if I take forever since I'm such a slow eater. But I doubt I will be able to eat before hand, so I am going to be starving by the time we go to the reception. I'M EATING! and I'm eating EVERYTHING! haha
At 60 a pop hells to the yes we're both chowing down. We're the first table up, obviously!
We barely ate at our wedding...kind of a bummer since we paid a lot for food. I think the emotions and nerves that my fiance and I had through out the day got the best of us and we just weren't hungry for dinner...
We had a cocktail style reception as well with heavy apps. We had the caterer make us a plate and we forced ourselves to eat during the reception. I literally felt sick and the last thing I wanted to do was eat, but the food was so good and we wanted to taste it, damnit!
I will say that eating took a lot of effort though and I totally understand how you could not feel like eating or just skip it all together. But, you need fuel to keep going through the night!
My FI said we are going to eat! No need to talk to guests while they are eating he says. They can talk afterwards. It is a small wedding too (52 guests) mostly family. I am not paying for our plates for them to sit there! I get cranky if I don't eat!
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