Post # 1
My wedding date is quickly approaching, and a few times I’ve gotten some unwanted advise or comments from friends, family and even strangers. I’m guessing most brides have experienced this at some point. If you have, what type of comments did you get and how did you handle it?
Post # 3
Oh yes, they are flooding in, mostly from FI’s family. His grandmother doesn’t understand why we aren’t doing things the traditional way. She’s stuck on the bride’s family paying for the wedding and the groom’s for the rehearsal dinner. People think we should get married by a minister even though Fiance is agnostic. FMIL doesn’t like that my girls are wearing short dresses and I’m wearing colored shoes. It just goes on and on. Driving me up the wall! We’ve just been ignoring them mostly. Sometimes we’ll just say we aren’t traditional or we have other ideas of what we like.
Post # 4
@desertrose: I think this happens to all of us at so many different times in our lives, but during wedding planning, it really made me angry.
DH’s father is so kind hearted, but he is cheap. So every time we would plan something and he would find out he would tell us about a friend he has in his religious community that would do it for $100 and that we shouldn’t be paying so much for things. He kept reminding us that he had 250 guests for $6k at his wedding. It was so hard for me not to lose it and yell “You had paper plates!!!!!”
Post # 5
It definitely happened to me. I just smiled, nodded, and replied, “I’ll keep that in mind.”
For some reason, certain people have really strong opinions about certain things when it comes to weddings. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, so I just tried to stay neutral. 🙂
Post # 6
In most cases, I just nod and smile and don’t do anything about it.
Sometimes I cave, though. For example… our guys are in tuxedos now and our girls in black Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from DB, rather than our preferred plan of black suits + LBDs.
If I hear the argument that “there are different shades of black” one more time I’m going to scream.
Post # 7
Well, my big day is almost here!! (April 7, 2012) & I have gotten a few remarks as to why we picked that menu, or location or the # of guest or colors or blah, blah. I simply reply: “You cant please everyone & besides it’s our day” ….I went as far as to getting my dress all by myself! All that mattered was that I would like it & know what would be flattering for my figure. Hope this helps 😉
Post # 8
Future Mother-In-Law called us high-tech panhandlers because we have a honeymoon registry lol. stupid.
Post # 9
Oh yeah. You just learn to smile and nod and then not follow any of their advice. lol
DH’s dad was really against us having a wedding. He was fine with us getting married, he just didn’t “agree with the way you guys are going about it.” His parents were hippies and got married in a field wearing jeans so… yeah. lol
Post # 10
My sympathy goes out to you ladies who are also dealing with unfair comments! Planning a wedding is hard enough; then having to deal with critics who don’t understand or support your choices makes it harder.
Post # 11
I haven’t gotten too much directly, but I do get things like my Maid/Matron of Honor adding bridesmaid dresses to her pinterest (which she knows I follow) that are like…super short upper thigh length, when I specifically told her knee length. Then adding some ridiculous comment gushing about how amazing the dress is. Not gonna happen! lol
Post # 12
It drives me up the wall when people say:
1. It’s your day, do whatever you want – Me: Umm, no. It’s OUR day.
2. You HAVE to do x, y, z. – Me: No we don’t.
3. It’s your wedding! You need to buy a, b, c – Me: Are we spending your money?
Post # 13
Just yesterday my 50 year old coworker said “Soooo, are you going to start training to get in shape for the wedding?”
Hahahaha, I mean, WHAT! Who says that?! Janice does, that’s who. I would have been seriously offended if it weren’t for the fact that I’m in awesome shape, although that just makes it even weirder… So I just awkwardly replied replied with “What! I already am in shape!” o_0
Post # 14
Yes I have received very negative comments about my wedding. A couple of people have questioned:
A. My colors (silver/grey and orange. My favorite color flowers are orange and I couldn’t see not caring my favorite flower on my wedding day! As much as I like pinks and purples it didn’t speak to me. I comprise on the silver for my fiancÃ© because originally I wanted orange and teal)
B. People telling me $10,000 is not a lot of money to spend on a wedding. So why I’m I so worried about the money aspect of the event. (Maybe it’s because my fiancÃ© is on disability and all of this money is coming out of MY pocket on top of wanting to buy a bigger house to start a family!)
C. My mother wanting to wear a dress with a split that is WAY to high! I had to explain to her it is not the time to show her a$$! With all due respect. 🙂
And on, and on, and on! I started out just smiling. Now I’m responding back. What happened to “If you can’t say something nice”?!
Post # 15
Don’t even get me started on unsolicited critiques about me possibly not changing my name…UGH. I started a whole thread about that.
Post # 16
@BrightGreen: OH, don’t even get me started on this one!
I workout several times a week, and one of my rewards (if I’ve worked out a certain number of days in that week) is a pizza bagel for breakfast. One morning, I posted something on FB about how awesome the pizza bagel was, and our best man’s wife responded “Don’t forget about the dress.”
I really do like that woman, but that comment pissed me off.