Did you give any rules/tips/requests for the proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did you give any rules/tips/requests for the proposal?
    Yes : (92 votes)
    48 %
    No : (98 votes)
    52 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He asked my parents which was more obvious than me asking him too. I did ask that it be photographered and he really liked the idea so he had my BFF photograph it. Other than that just sooner than later! lol

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    My two requests were that he would ask for my Dad’s blessing (*not* permission), and that it would be private. I didn’t want it to be at a restaurant, etc. And it was perfect. 🙂

     

    Post # 5
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    All I told my FI is that I wanted it to be a surprise and I didn’t want it to be in a restaurant, y’know because of all the people. I figured if I put too many “rules” on a proposal it may never happen – or it will and it would be boring because I never gave my SO any room to be creative.

    Post # 6
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    1083 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wanted him to ask for my dad’s blessing and for it not to occur on a holiday. 

    Post # 8
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    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I voted “no” but actually I did request one thing-that he tell my parents beforehand. Way more traditional than I would want but I knew it was important to my parents haha

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Not a single rule.

    Post # 10
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    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I requested that it not be in public.  I have some social anxiety issues so the idea of a public proposal gives me a panic attack.  He kind of messed that up, but it was only partially his fault.  He did it at our favorite lunch place which is usually pretty empty, but it happened to be packed that day (not that it matters, I would have hated it if there was even one person there).  So apparently I should have been much clearer.

     

    Post # 11
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    1002 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I did not have any requests.  My proposal was a complete surprise for me.

    Post # 13
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    8009 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I asked him to ask for my parents blessing. Also he asked me to marry him once (quietly while in a car with my whole family?) and I told him to never ask that with out a ring again!

    So yes, two requests. 

    Post # 14
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    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 1993

     No. I was just happy he asked. 

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We’re a binational couple, so we had to have some parameters, as we discussed and agreed that the proposal would happen during a certain visit. I then told him I wanted it to happen by a certain date so that we still had enough time after to enjoy being engaged together before I had to fly home.

    I also asked that he contact my parents and let them know his intentions and ask for their blessing. I actually stood behind him while he wrote his message to them (emailed it, but no way to communicate otherwise).

    I also told him I would like it to be a private moment.

    Post # 16
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    288 posts
    Helper bee

    Nothing over the top…we were looking at a celebrity proposal the other day that involved a castle, a white horse and carriage and candles laid out in the shape of a heart. Nope. Not our thing at all. We both looked at each other and went “ugh” lol.

    Otherwise, I don’t really have any requests. I personally feel the asking the parents thing is antiquated (we would be getting married regardless of what anyone else thinks anyway!). If you put all these parameters how you want him/her to propose, how will it feel special?

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