Should I go bridesmaid dress shopping alone?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

I’m so tempted to do this as there has been so much freaking drama around this whole BM dress thing…now one of them is saying she will come but isn’t sure of her budget and is thinking she will get something made.

Pardon? You agree to be in a wedding then decide you will figure out what you’re going to wear and get it made? 

I quit.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Jeeesh. I made the appointment about 3 weeks in advance because 2 of my 4 girls are out of state. One girl was coming in for a week so I took advantage of it. We picked a speculative dress with the three that were able to make it and the 4th went a week or so later to see if she liked it and she did. Wala. Done.

If I were you, I’d just go and do it yourself. If they wanted a say in what dress they wear they shouldn’t have kept putting it off.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That’s so frustrating!  All but one of my BMs came with me to shop for dresses (we went to one store, they picked one, it was really easy)… the other girl couldn’t come, so I went with just her a couple weeks later to make sure she was okay with the dress.

I think it’s ideal if you can get them to go, but since they are dragging their feet, just go without them.  Maybe snap a couple pics and send them before ordering, and be done with it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@BakerBee16:  Oh… Don’t get me wrong. I have one total slacker bridesmaid that hasn’t bought her shoes yet. Doesn’t seem like a big deal, right? Except I’ve been glittering all of our shoes (sparkle!). It takes a couple days though, and with the wedding next month AND out of state I’m getting suuuper busy. She just gives me the “yeah, I’ll get them soon” stuff. I’m thinking of just going and getting some for her myself this weekend.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Definitely go! You are the ultimate decision-maker anyway. 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

You have made every attempt to let them have a say. Too bad for them. Now you get to pick and tough if they don’t like it.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d just pick something out and say “Here’s what you’re wearing. You need to get your measurements and get them ordered by ___” (and make that date a couple weeks before the real deadline). I’ve been in 4 weddings and never gotten any choice over the dress I was wearing. And I was fine with it. Not the dresses I would have picked out on my own, but that’s part of being a bridesmaid. My only advice would be to consider their figure and try to stay on the cheaper side of things, if you think money might be tight for them.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BakerBee16:  Yeah. It’s nice that you tried. But at some point you just have to pick something. And I think you have reached that point. Alternately, you could do what I did which is just tell them to get a dress in a certain color and let them worry about it themselves. Honestly, that would be easier for you because you don’t have to worry about them meeting a deadline or ordering at the same time or whatever. I told my girls “Yellow, knee length, non-shiny fabric” and they found dresses on their own and they looked great together!

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