Did you go ring shopping with your SO/FI/DH?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you help your SO/FI/DH pick out the ring?
    Yes, I picked out my ring : (105 votes)
    54 %
    Yes, I picked out several and he picked the one : (24 votes)
    12 %
    Yes, but I had no idea what my final ring looked like : (11 votes)
    6 %
    No, but I showed him pictures of what I wanted : (9 votes)
    5 %
    No, but we talked about what I wanted : (17 votes)
    9 %
    No, I was completely surprised : (21 votes)
    11 %
    Other (Explain) : (7 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 4
    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I didn’t go shopping with him! BUT we did randomly try on rings at a ring store and everything was what I DIDN’T want hahahahaha

    Post # 5
    9204 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I knew the exact ring I wanted, so I went with him to show him to make sure he liked it too, and so we could find out the right size. Then he bought it shortly after 🙂

    Post # 6
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @His-Sunshine:  We went together and picked out the size stone and all that. I had chosen two different settings I loved, and he ended up picking the one I loved more. What’s funny is I had totally forgotten what it looked like until he proposed.

    Post # 7
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @His-Sunshine:  If by shopping you mean I picked it and he was there, then YES. 😀 I was very happy to choose my own ring. 

    Post # 8
    7915 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I knew percisely what I wanted and he took me to the store to parooze them in person. I said this ones lovely! And he said “too small” at which I swooned because it was a lovely 1 carat. He’s been looking at 1.5 which is more than I ever dreampt of/expected. I also let him know slyly (commenting on a friends ring) that hers was TOO big. A concept he didnt know existed to girls lol. I just wanted him to know that I do not want 2 carats, even though thats what my BFF has. I also told him that if its between two sizes- go for the quality (color/clarity) over the extra .2 carats or whatever.

    For some reason actually trying them on and seeing the prices was past his boundary of my involvement…which I did not protest.

    Sooooo…. I went back to the store on my own to try them on and be sure, and to get sized. And for funsies I did try on a 2 carat and yeah… too big for me!


    BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT I am still patiently awaiting so TBD how this one turns out!!


    Post # 9
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We went together, we bought it together and I couldn’t have been happier.

    Post # 10
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Yes we went ring shopping together, but he didn’t buy it when I was with him.  

    Also I just wanted to add that I’m so glad I did go with him, because what I thought I wanted turned out to not look good on my finger, and I chose something I never would have expected.  

    Post # 11
    303 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @His-Sunshine:  I was completely surprised! We had one conversation about engagement rings – but not specifically about mine. He baited me with a conversation-starter something along the lines of “It shouldn’t matter what the engagement ring looks like, it’s the symbolism behind it that is important.” Of course, I had to comment on that! I didn’t realize he was actually fishing for information about the kind of ring I would like. I managed to let him know I would love a platinum ring because I don’t wear yellow gold, and that I have always loved the look of square cut diamonds.  Two months later, he proposed in New York after having picked the ring at the Tiffany on 5th Avenue shortly after that conversation. It is a stunning solitaire – he chose well!

    Post # 12
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It’s kinda tricky. When H and I went ring shopping together we soon found out that I liked round cut solitaires. So, while I wasn’t really sure how big the ring would be, how thick the band would be, if it would be 4 or 6 prong – I did know it would be a round solitaire. So with that, I really wasn’t surprised and I guess I kind of picked out my own ring – or in the very least unintentionally narrowed the requirements very severely 

    Post # 13
    5812 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @His-Sunshine:  You need to add another choice. I went shopping, for the most part, on my own. I picked what I wanted and gave him the info.

    DH and I have completely different shopping styles. He hates crowds, hates “bothering” the salespeople and likes to be in and out ASAP. I on the other hand, have to see, touch everything. I cant leave a stone unturned. If it was up to DH, he would have gone into one store, looked at the rings in the display case and pointed to one. Boom, done. Even better if he could do it online, with only 5 choices put in front of him.

    I went to 5 different stores, even went back to a few. Tried on well over 100-150 rings. If I had to drag DH through that, we’d never have gotten engaged.

    Post # 14
    10 posts
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We went together with a plan, I pick out 3 rings and he will pick the final of the 3. We actually ended up loving the same ring that I decided to try on at the last minute. So much for our plan.

    Post # 15
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Yep, he knew exactly what I wanted. He has no taste at all so I couldn’t leave it up to him! 

    Post # 16
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    FI flat out told me that he does not care at all what my ring looks like, and had me pick one within the budget we set together. I spent a few days looking online, sent the link to the one I chose to his phone, and he paid part of it right then and there (currently on layaway).


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