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  • poll: Did you have a DOC or not?
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    Nooo not a Doctor...but a Day Of Coordinator (DOC)

     

     

    Did you have a DOC or not? :  wedding doc Images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQnmYb4SUuiNEMue6EoOHCEBMB IGWznjiw5nL04coq5YPmnRMx

     

    This is a MUST HAVE! I don't know HOW I thought I was going to be able to do this without one. Can you be in 18 different places at one time??? Uhhhh NO! If you are a DIYer and can't really see giving full control over for your day, at least consider a DOC. She/He can help make sure YOUR day is exactly what you wanted it to be!

     But even more importantly, that DOC must be ON POINT! She/He has to know exactly what to do. Be ready for any and everything to happen. And when it all happens because it WILL happen be prepared for plan B, C, and D!!!!!!

     Suggestions on how to go about hiring a DOC.

    1. You must do an interview!!!! I did one at a local Starbucks. On paper everything looks great also you suggest her allow you to attend an event she (no longer doing he/she because I'm referring to someone specific lol) is coordinating. Or at least peak in. You need to see her in ACTION! If this is going too far...at least give her scenarios and see what she comes up with. This is the ONE thing I wish I had done. I do not think my DOC was prepared for plan D when it needed to happen. Actually if she was more prepared plan A would have worked...but anyway!!!
    2. POISE!!!!!!!!!!! You can't have someone that will be a deer in headlights when you can't find the ring bearer pillow or realize the tables are set up with no dance floor! They need to know how to make something happen!
    3. Specify the attire! Do not just assume she will show up looking her best. Everyone doesn't get that a wedding is not a casual summer dress event!!!!
    4. Preferably find someone with a STAFF!!!
    5. Just PAY THE MONEY! Don't try to get a deal. YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR!!
    6. HAVE THE BEST GROUP OF FRIENDS IN YOUR WEDDING PARTY

    Even with some of the flubs that my DOC should have corrected but did NOT, my girls jumped right on in and MADE IT HAPPEN! I'm so grateful!!

    Did you have a DOC? Did you have any issues?

     
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    eupenmalmody    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC - getting married in Philadelphia

    A Day of Coordinator was the best money spent on my wedding. She (and her team) were invaluable.

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    Our venue came with a coordinator.  Honestly she didn't do much beyond directing the catering staff.  The DJ was the most helpful for me.

     
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    Running Elley    June 19, 2011   Fresno, CA

    We didn't have one. We did A LOT of DIY, I had a very very detailed spreadsheet/schedule that the bridal party and involved family had. All of our vendors had a copy as well. It went off without a hitch and I felt very prepared/was really able to relax the day of :)

     

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    @eupenmalmody: Ahhhh her TEAM!!! :) So glad it worked out for you!!

     
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    Lemma    June 9, 2012   Ontario

    I'm having a small wedding of only around 50 people. Do you think I still need a DOC? What exactly do they do? 

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    @Running Elley: That is GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    @Lemma: I think you can make it work...just making sure you have people in place that know EXACTLY what you want to happen!

     
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    Entangled    September 17, 2011   Carmel, CA

    Yes - it was included with our venue.  They did a great job.  Everything seemed pretty smooth, though at the same time, we only had 65 people so it might have been fine without.

     
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    Lemma    June 9, 2012   Ontario

    @Donnica22:

    Ok thanks!

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    @Running Elley:  I did this too.  I gave each of my vendors a detailed document to help keep them on track and the bridal party had pocket sized timelines for the day.

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    I sooo didn't want my bridal party helping. They had done so much for me before this day. But I guess that's part of the job! And they stepped right up!!!

     
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    kala_way    May 28, 2011   Manhattan Beach, CA

    Nope, didn't have one and didn't need one. I think they work for some people and are really useful, but for some weddings they just aren't necessary.

     
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    PinkMagnolia    November 2011  

    I honestly just want someone to set up and I don't think it's worth $800. I mean I went to grad school and spent years in college and don't make $100 an hour. The only thing I want the DOC to do is to set up the venue, it's only 2 hours of work. I already have very detailed schedules and timelines.

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    @PinkMagnolia: Yeah I made all the plans I just needed someone to set up and put the plan into action! If you know someone...they can be your DOC??? I just didn't want to ask any of my friends.

    We also had guys that did set up. I think we paid them like $50!

     
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    dodgercpkl    October 15, 2010   California

    I was a budget bride, but still had a wedding planner. For me it was very useful!

     

    1. With her help I found an AMAZING caterer in So Cal that gave 3 wonderful meal options (that friends are still talking about!) for only $13 per person. I wouldn't have found her on my own.
    2. She referred me to a photographer that was amazing and that I very doubtfully would have looked at had I been on my own.
    3. She got me in touch with a baker that was able to make my cake dreams come true for an amazing price!
    4. She did my flowers for me at cost.
    5. My linens (including table cloth, overlay, and runner), dishes, silverware, glasses, etc, were all provided by her free of charge.
    6. And last of all her staff was WONDERFUL at my reception - setting everything up, making sure it was all moving smoothly, cleaning up afterwards.

    Every other caterer that I talked to or looked at, was either going to be 2x's (or more) more expensive then my caterer, or they would only give pasta for the price I got (I had tri-tip, pasta bar, bbq chicken, mashed potato bar, and won-tons with sweet chili sauce!) and the price for mine also included servers for the night which was again less expensive then other places I'd looked at. I'd guess that this alone saved us 2-3x's the cost of the price of my planner.

    Our photographer might not have been a cost benefit on cold hard paper, but he was a blessing to us nevertheless! My husband doesn't like having his photo taken, but our photographer was such a neat and fun person that my husband really was able to unwind and have fun! But then again, if you factor in some of the things that weren't in the contract - he spent 3 hours with us at our engagement picture session instead of the 1.5 in the contract; the contract gave us 6 hours of his time for the ceremony/reception, but he was amazing and ended up spending 6 hours on our ceremony day alone with another 5-6 hours for our reception day! I think this too would have ended up saving us 2x's (or more) the amount of the cost of our wedding planner.

    Our baker took our hopeful vision for our cake and made it a reality. We'd talk to several bakers and while some of them thought it could be done, the price was higher (in some cases MUCH higher). He also included an awesome cake stand free of charge that was just what I wanted and retailed for something like $200! I don't have a good grasp on what the true savings was on this, but I'd say over all that we probably saved a $300-400 (including the cake stand) with this baker over what I might have found on my own.

    Flowers are EXPENSIVE! I think if I'd not have had my planner, I would have really blown my budget with this, or ended up trying to DIY it. All of our personal flowers plus some of the ones on the tables at the reception came to a total of $161 (which is what a lot of brides pay for just the bridal bouquet!) and she did a great job of arranging them!

    I just did a quickie pricing of what it would have cost us to rent what our wedding planner provided for us for linens, overlays, table runners, china, flatware, glasses, and 12" tiled mirrors. The linens, overlays, and table runners alone would have cost us $300 to rent (less if we bought, but then we would have had to steam press them and other stuff that costs time and money). The plates, glasses, flatware, and chargers added in another close to $300, and the tiled mirrors would have been about $50 for all that we needed. So again, just in this, she saved me enough to cover her own fee!

    And then, last of all, there was set up and clean up. I don't know how to price this out, but since we didn't have to deal with the stress or time involved in it, I think it has to be factored in.

    Like I said, I was a budget bride. My final figures were at $6600 for my wedding (not including honeymoon, dress, or rings) and my wedding planner was $600 of that budget. I don't think we could have managed it for as low as we did without her help (or without compromising a LOT on our guest list and ceremony location).

    Last word on this: My planner wasn't perfect, and if I had it to do over again, I'd be much more specific on what I wanted her to do. BUT, overall, looking at the figures and the final picture of how things went, I have minimal complaints, and much high praise for her and what she was able to help me accomplish! I'd hire her again in a heartbeat. 

    Oh and as a note to those that say they want to be in charge too much to give it over to someone else, my planner was a full planner not just a DOC, but I did most of the actual planning myself because that's what I wanted to do.  She helped me with the things I needed help in and left alone the things I wanted to do on my own.  I think that has a lot to do with the personality of the person you hire.

     
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    MrsMcGyro    July 9, 2011   New York

    Our DOC came from the catering company. She was a superstar. Everything went smoothly and was exactly as we had discussed prior to the wedding.

     
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    Mrs.tobe    September 30, 2011   the middle of there

    Nope and I was really happy about it.

    Everything went off without a hitch. I spoke with one, but it only made me realize I had everything planned and accounted for and we were more than on track.

    We had a lot of details we wanted to incorporate and a certain way we wanted the day to go. I didn't feel like I wanted a DOC telling us differently. :)

     

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    I had a DOC but didnt pay for one, I had a team of 8 usherettes and the leader is a good friend of mine who has coordinated weddings in the past. She was excellent, she went above and beyond and did everything I asked for and more. She also found time to party and have and enjoy herself. She is just good at it! I'm so glad I had her and the whole team.. they also wore coordinating oufits which was cute! Sometimes I think it helps if the person actually knows you personally and cares about your wedding because for some DOCs its just another paycheck so they dont try to go above and beyond expectations

     
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    atalante    May 19, 2012  

    Did someone say Doctor?

     

    Did you have a DOC or not? :  wedding doc Wedding+3

     

    *clears throat*

     

    ..our venue comes with an Events guy, so I'm just going to assume he counts. So kinda. :)

     
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    bellarae    September 11, 2011   Georgia

    @Mrs.tobe: That is EXACTLY what happened to me! I met with someone, and then realized I had read enough wedding blogs and had already figured it out for myself. I gave 2 of my aunts a detailed list (with pictures) of how I wanted to tables set up, and the hubby and I made our own list of songs we wanted the DJ (another family member) to play.

    Our wedding was very DIY and I was worried at first that my family would feel like I was putting pressure on them, but they just kept telling me how special they felt to be included in my day. :) So it worked for me not having a DOC, but that's not to say it will work for everyone.  

     
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    squeak35    July 7, 2011   Cali

    Technically No. But one of my besties is an event planner so she took control when she needed to.  

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    @dodgercpkl: Such great advise!!!!

     
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    pengoala    September 4, 2011  

    This is great advice! We didn't have a hired DOC, but the director at the venue did most of it for us, so I tossed my cousin is as backup.  Worked out great!

     
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    dodgercpkl    October 15, 2010   California

    @Donnica22:  Glad to pass it on!  :)

     

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