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Maybe I'm just sensitive this morning (it IS a Monday) but I've been feeling a bit like the posters who are always on are especially popular, but us newbees are almost phased in. It kind of sucks to feel like no one has any help for those of us who aren't on as often! Anyone else felt this way?
@tee22: I felt this way when I first signed up. Actually for a long time. I was on before under another username and didnt feel as connected to the community but I couldnt figure out why. I took a break for about a month and then re-joined under this name. What I tried to do was to respond to people more than post my own thing, respond to specific people in threads, PM people that I felt I had something in common with or wanted to talk to something about. THe more you are out there, the more people get to know you. Ive been here over a year and it has taken some time. You will notice that the more well known bees have also been around for a while or just post A LOT. Dont let it discourage you though!!
I haven't looked at any of your posts specifically, but I think everyone feels like that a little when they start off here. People are just more likely to respond to your posts if they know who you are. The best way to meet people is to post on other people's posts. No one likes feeling like someone is here only to get advice and never to help others. Also people like really specific questions, and mostly with pictures. Do you like dress A or B, etc. Just some ideas :)
Another tip is to watch what time of day you post. If it's late your post will not show up on the main board when people get up in the morning and some people only look at the main board.
Hmmm... I don't really remember having a hard time but I think it's because Miss Tattoo (who was on here a lot back then) took me under her wing.
I'm also super outgoing so I started PMing users to talk about their weddings, dress, etc.
I do a lot of voting on dresses and congratulating on engagements too.
I'll be your friend! lol
I know I don't post enough to be well known, but I'm not worried about anything. I give and take friendly advice whenever I can, which isn't often.
Hi there! You've already gotten some great advice. Just wanted to say hello :) The more you're on the boards commenting on threads, starting your own for advice, and reaching out via PM, you'll get to know more people and feel the camaraderie. I've been on a month or so, got some great support through my personal dress regret, and also attended a local meet up, all of which really helped me connect. Hang out a while, you'll find your groove :) * hugs *
You're all so helpful, I really appreciate it!
Smileyd, thanks! That helps.
I don't think so. I respond to whatever topic I'm most interested in. I don't care really who posted it. I will say that I read far more than I post but I reconize people and will try and remember to check back for updates or see where they are in the planning.
Sure, all the time! But, I figure everyone else has their own lives too, and mine is just not as important to everyone else (although, I must disagree 
). I submitted a new post about veils earlier, and there is still no responses, so it's not just you!
I'll be your friend!
I'm relatively new as well :) i agree with the other ladies, the more you post and respond, the more people get to know you.
I've also noticed that I remember people better when they have a picture or a unique name. And that is getting me thinking.... that perhaps I should put up a picture myself!! ;-)
I think it's like anything else - it takes awhile before you start to get to know people and they start to know you. At first, I am sure no one knew me (probably most people still don't...) and I didn't always know who everyone else was but then I started to recognize people who helped me choose a wedding dress and other people who live in my area or have similar hobbies.
It also seems like there's a night shift and a day shift... if you tend to only post at one time, you'll probably see more of the same "shift" of posters around.
@tee22: awww don't feel bad, I have been here for a while and I still feel this way. Its nothing personal I am sure, it just happens sometimes :) I will be your friend, I could always use one haha...
Everyone has to start somewhere, right? ;) Just post, be responsive, etc. etc. And stick with it! Once you've been on here for some time, you get to know the other posters.
@Entangled: The shift thing is true! I only really come on during the day. I creep from my bb on the weekend but usually am too lazy to post lol.
*waves* I'll be your friend too :)
Sometimes I feel like I don't fit in... more because I have a very 'different' dress, a low budget, no one from my area uses WB and my wedding is farther off then a lot of other peoples but I just post a lot in hopes that when I need some advice I get a lot of posts in return... it seems to be working out pretty well =D I made a post about not fitting in before and a lot of people were super kind and made me feel better! Just keep posting =)
I feel the same way. I always see a lot of the same posters and people responding. I've just been trying to respond to more things instead of just reading them.
@LaviniaRose2013: Aw, I was going to post on your thread, but I'm not a ballgown gal :(
@minie77: Put a picture up!
@tee22: Also, just like PP's have said don't be afraid to get your name out there and post, ask questions, ask for advice, whatever you want or need! Everyone will get to know you. Sometimes we all feel like this. Honestly.
I'll be your friend too!
@tee22: Do you feel like people aren't responding to your posts?
If you are feeling that threads you've started aren't as popular as other people's it may be because that topic has been talked to death in the past ... so, if it's something that has been responded to over and over, the likelihood older members are going to chime in is relatively low (IMO). Or, it could be that there are fewer people that can relate to the question, so responses are limited, etc.
You all make great points! And now I feel like I have a bunch of friends here. :D
I've definitely felt that way a few times. Just try to do your own thing! Post and reply to those you find interesting and people will start to recognize you!
I've been on WB a long time, but don't post often & don't always respond to other threads so I'm definitely NOT a "popular Bee"... LOL! I have never posted any personal pics or have too many personal details, and I've noticed that those who do get a lot of response. Someone esle mentioned posting pictures, polls, etc. def. will make you more "well known". I have gotten to "know" a couple of very nice ladies through PM's and it's just nice to have a group to vent to at times and to celebrate our bridal successes with. I got married Feb. 2011 and still my go to site is WB. I feel like a "nerd" bee sometimes and I'm ok with that. LOL. Just keep on the boards and you'll be fine. Welcome!
I did and still do sometimes feel like that!
No worries! We will all be here to help!! :)
@Mrs.tobe: Well, I'd love to see your veil anyway! The ballgown part was just to make it a little easier to categorize. There are so many veil and gown types! :)
@Entangled:&@tranquility: There is totally a night shift/day shift thing going. I'm usually on the night shift because of work (and we have a few chats), but I love all the day bees as well! :)
@LaviniaRose2013: I actually haven't ordered mine yet 
But I am ordering from Occansey Designs. http://occanseydesigns.com/
I'm trying to decide between a single layer waltz length, or cathedral though... 
@LaviniaRose2013: just responded to your veil thread! Another thing to remember about threads asking for specific pictures....sometimes I will see those types of threads while Im at work. While I do have a bunch of pictures that I have already uploaded to weddingbee sometimes Ill see a thread asking for a picture and be like ugh thats on my home computer! So then Ill try to come back to it but a lot of times I dont remember!
@tee22: Just remember, it's okay if you don't always feel like you fit in. Sometimes I connect with a particular poster on a specific issue, but then we don't connect again for months. There is a lot of flow on WB... as long as you have respectful, interesting things to say, people WILL pay attention.
@minie77: Awwww! Pug!!! So adorable!
Hooray for avatars!
@minie77: She's so cute!I love little smushed faces :)
Mine is my English bulldog Dozer, he'll b 7 next month. I've taken to calling him "lil' gray face" or "Gandolf the Gray"
He's so handsome :) I love little smushed faces too. And the tongue sticking out! Priceless!
I totally agree with all the ladies above. Comment on threads that interest you, congratulate the newly engaged/married, and start threads (but try a search first to make sure that the subject isn't covered twice daily).
And as some gals have stated, there's a flow to the WB. I'm usually a night owl and I know a few of those bees pretty well. There are also bees that use the WB mostly during work.
I'm sure as you're around longer you'll find more 'friends.' It's true, I felt the same way you do for quite a while, but now I've got some awesome bee-pals :-)
Oh definitely! My posts rarely "jive" with other posters and many of my posts are largely ignored. When I vote on polls, my choice is almost always the least popular. I always figured it was either because of my age or the fact that I have an ol' aging hippie's perspective.
@NDBee:The advice about searching the topic before you start a thread is a great one! A lot of times I won't respond to a thread because it's something I've seen asked 5 times already that week and responded to already.
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