Post # 1
Maybe I’m just sensitive this morning (it IS a Monday) but I’ve been feeling a bit like the posters who are always on are especially popular, but us newbees are almost phased in. It kind of sucks to feel like no one has any help for those of us who aren’t on as often! Anyone else felt this way?
Post # 3
@tee22: I felt this way when I first signed up. Actually for a long time. I was on before under another username and didnt feel as connected to the community but I couldnt figure out why. I took a break for about a month and then re-joined under this name. What I tried to do was to respond to people more than post my own thing, respond to specific people in threads, PM people that I felt I had something in common with or wanted to talk to something about. THe more you are out there, the more people get to know you. Ive been here over a year and it has taken some time. You will notice that the more well known bees have also been around for a while or just post A LOT. Dont let it discourage you though!!
Post # 4
I haven’t looked at any of your posts specifically, but I think everyone feels like that a little when they start off here. People are just more likely to respond to your posts if they know who you are. The best way to meet people is to post on other people’s posts. No one likes feeling like someone is here only to get advice and never to help others. Also people like really specific questions, and mostly with pictures. Do you like dress A or B, etc. Just some ideas 🙂
Post # 5
Yep, I think we all feel like that once in a while!
Post # 6
Another tip is to watch what time of day you post. If it’s late your post will not show up on the main board when people get up in the morning and some people only look at the main board.
Post # 7
Hmmm… I don’t really remember having a hard time but I think it’s because Miss Tattoo (who was on here a lot back then) took me under her wing.
I’m also super outgoing so I started PMing users to talk about their weddings, dress, etc.
I do a lot of voting on dresses and congratulating on engagements too.
Post # 8
I’ll be your friend! lol
I know I don’t post enough to be well known, but I’m not worried about anything. I give and take friendly advice whenever I can, which isn’t often.
Post # 9
Hi there! You’ve already gotten some great advice. Just wanted to say hello 🙂 The more you’re on the boards commenting on threads, starting your own for advice, and reaching out via PM, you’ll get to know more people and feel the camaraderie. I’ve been on a month or so, got some great support through my personal dress regret, and also attended a local meet up, all of which really helped me connect. Hang out a while, you’ll find your groove 🙂 * hugs *
Post # 10
You’re all so helpful, I really appreciate it!
Smileyd, thanks! That helps.
Post # 11
I don’t think so. I respond to whatever topic I’m most interested in. I don’t care really who posted it. I will say that I read far more than I post but I reconize people and will try and remember to check back for updates or see where they are in the planning.
Post # 12
Sure, all the time! But, I figure everyone else has their own lives too, and mine is just not as important to everyone else (although, I must disagree ). I submitted a new post about veils earlier, and there is still no responses, so it’s not just you!
I’ll be your friend!
Post # 13
I’m relatively new as well 🙂 i agree with the other ladies, the more you post and respond, the more people get to know you.
I’ve also noticed that I remember people better when they have a picture or a unique name. And that is getting me thinking…. that perhaps I should put up a picture myself!! 😉
Post # 14
I think it’s like anything else – it takes awhile before you start to get to know people and they start to know you. At first, I am sure no one knew me (probably most people still don’t…) and I didn’t always know who everyone else was but then I started to recognize people who helped me choose a wedding dress and other people who live in my area or have similar hobbies.
It also seems like there’s a night shift and a day shift… if you tend to only post at one time, you’ll probably see more of the same “shift” of posters around.
Post # 15
@tee22: awww don’t feel bad, I have been here for a while and I still feel this way. Its nothing personal I am sure, it just happens sometimes 🙂 I will be your friend, I could always use one haha…
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
Everyone has to start somewhere, right? 😉 Just post, be responsive, etc. etc. And stick with it! Once you’ve been on here for some time, you get to know the other posters.