Post # 1
I used to be completely not interested in diamonds at all. I thought all girls who dreamed of the day a man gives her a diamond were totally brainwashed by debeers and boring (I’m going somewhere with this, stay with me!)
then when I was 31, my FI had been dating for 2 years. I was at the grocery store one day and glanced at a cover of martha stewart weddings. on that cover was a picture of THE RING. it was an ascher cut on a really simple white gold setting. I remember staring at it like a deer in the headlights and all I could think was “I CAN HAS SHINY RING …..NOW PLEASE?” I had never seen that cut before. I had no idea diamonds could be so artistically cut and beautiful! that was my ring epiphany.
it was another 3 years before we got engaged. it was a total surprise and he didn’t ask me what kind of ring I wanted, so I didn’t end up with my dream ring. but he did a good job picking out an art deco solitaire, I adore it.
anyway, I’m sure other bees had ring epiphanys too. I’d love to hear the stories!
Post # 3
I had a bit of a turn around like that, too.
I was like you and kinda poo-poo’ed the whole ring thing. Then I met my FI when I was 36. The more we went looked into getting engaged, the more it just made sense for us to get a diamond ring. We picked my ering together. We looked into lots of other options like antique rings, specially made rings, etc. But in the end, we found something we both liked.
I still cringe a little when in public women huddle to do the whole show-me-your-ring thing. But when it does happen, I am happy with what I am wearing, especially knowing it’s special to both me and my FI.
Post # 4
yeah i suppose i did… i still haven’t found “the ring” yet, but i have one for now, but i never noticed peoples e rings before and now i always notice them.
Post # 5
@janie-janie: I was the same way. I just wanted a band with tiny diamonds. I didn’t want a ton of money spent on my finger. It felt weird. But, one day we were just walking down the street talking about a place called Black Diamond Mines and he turned and said “Do you like the simple diamond or rings with diamonds on the side?” I was so confused, we were talking about mines then questions about diamonds! lol!
Anyway, I just told him I would proudly wear whatever he picked out.
Then… that night! I couldn’t sleep, OMG, was he going to pick out a marquise cut? A pear shape? yellow gold? I would be sad if it was shaped that way, only because my fingers are tiny. (NOT to insult anyone with that shape, just not ME).
So I sent him a quick email, I said I’m only doing this because you did question me about my opinion. I’m glad I did! I know exactly what I’ll be getting. He hasn’t given it to me yet but I know what it will look like. I’m glad I told him.
I hadn’t thought about it much at all, then, panic!
Post # 6
I always knew I wanted a sapphire, but I just thought “All sapphires are blue.” All I’d ever seen were the dark bluish black sapphires in local jewelry stores.
Then I saw a woman once with a hot pink STAR sapphire ring and my sapphire addiction toook off running!
Post # 7
I had a very similar experience to yours. I never really noticed other rings and didn’t figure I would have much of an opinion about the one I wanted, I would just be happy to get one. Then, I saw the gorgeous rings in the Tacori ads in magazines and it kind of clicked! My tastes have changed since then, but it really opened my eyes to how unique and special engagement rings can truly be.
Post # 8
When I realized that I could get something custom and not a diamond, I did. Before that, all the rings kind of looked the same.
Post # 9
I always wanted an opal, but my mom kept telling me that it wouldn’t last forever. When we started looking at jewelry stores, I looked at some diamonds, and then I was done for. They’re just so sparkly, I couldn’t resist them. I’m still really in love with non-diamond engagement rings, but I definitely love mine!
Post # 10
yeah, non-diamond engagement rings are beautiful. I wanted a colorless stone that sparkled, it didn’t have to be a diamond. I would have asked for a moissanite or white sapphire if I had heard of them before the engagement. I suppose I still wouldn’t have gotten my dream ring anyway – it turns out you can’t get moissanite in an asscher cut! that’s a crying shame.
I walked by this super high end jewelry store the other day – the kind of store that makes tiffany look like wal-mart. they had a huge asscher cut diamond ring in the window. I don’t know what CTW it was, but it looked roughly 12-15mm wide. YOWZER. it was soooooo beautiful! I wouldn’t want it though, I’d be convincecd that I would get mugged!
just for fun, I wanted to ask how much it cost, but I hate going into fancy stores so I just walked on by.
Post # 11
@janie-janie: I CAN HAS SHINY RING …..NOW PLEASE?
LOL. I guess I never had this moment since I have always loved diamonds!
Post # 12
i remember i’ve always wanted something quite simple. the cut of the diamond really wasn’t something i had thought of until the first time i chaperoned a church youth gathering in wisconsin. we had some free time so my friends and i were in the mall that connected to the hotel and we stopped to look at the jewelry store and i saw a princess cut diamond ring and was like “ooh THAT!”
lol i made sure to mention in EVERY male friendship I had that i had known since highschool that i wanted a simple white gold band with a half carat princess cut diamond for an e-ring (so that if i dated someone and they were friends, my guy friend could push him in the right direction). and… i got it. mwa ha.
Post # 13
My epiphany was an asscher too!!!! And my boy did so good asking my best friend, who i’d been to sneakily try on rings at Tiffany’s with, which one i liked. Seriously, SERIOUSLY there is no cut like the asscher as far as I’m concerned!! I just LOVE IT.
FYI – I tried on a 3.1 ct asscher at Tiffanys when i was there (it was a display, not for sale, flown in from NYC for a function they were having) and they said it retails for $144000. Granted, it was an internally flawless perfect cut D colour. But yowzers! It was set in yellow gold which isn’t really my thing, but i did think about running out the store and living off the money i could make selling it on the black market.
This is my ring – not a tiffany’s but definitely stolen from their catalogue of settings!
Post # 14
@rosworms: “and… i got it. mwa ha.”
LOL! nicely done 🙂
I told my closest girlfriend what kind of ring I wanted, hoping my FI would ask for her advice. but he didn’t turn to any of my friends. that said, he listened to my “hints” that I wanted something small and that it must not be a blood diamond. he noticed I wore jewelry with a lot of square shapes in the design. my diamond is not a square cut, but it has a square shape around the setting. it’s vintage (thus skirting the blood diamond issue), and the art deco setting is totally simple and cool. yay for having a FI with great taste!
Post # 15
@ScarletBegonia: SO PRETTY!!! *swoon*
Post # 16
@janie-janie: That’s really beautiful.