(Closed) Did you have an egagement party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

my mom threw us one at our house about a month and a half after we were engaged. we knew we’d be having a large wedding so this was just a small dinner- immediate family only just so everyone could become acquainted. she had catered italian food and we made red rose arrangements on silver table cloths since it was december and we were planning to wed the following winter. it wasn’t anything crazy, just a nice way to initiate the engagement.

i know some people like to go bigger, but it just depends on your style 🙂

 

oh yeah, CONGRATS!

Post # 4
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435 posts
Helper bee

Congratulations!  I think they are pretty common and anyone can host  We had one at my parents house.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are having an engagement party this Aug.  It’s nothing fancy, just family and bridal party.  We are having a 2.5 year engagement, so we thought why not have an engagement party.  It will actually be held in the basement of the church where we will get married and all the aunts offered to bring food.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am the youngest of 5 and the last to get married. All of my siblings had engagement parties.  We didn’t have an engagement party because our families are all over the map. FH and I are here in WA. I have siblings all over the US and then my parents are in southern CA. FH’s family are in northern CA, NY, PA.  We’re already having our wedding in WA so we (along with our families) couldn’t think of another reason for everyone to spend $$ on travel for a party.  As a result we are having an Out Of Town Guest reception the night before our wedding.  Its kind of like a reception before the reception, LOL Tongue out  In all seriousness in my words an engagement party is so both families can introduce their new ‘jewels to the crown’ if you will. Thats what my grandmother has always said, HAHAHAHHAHAHAH 

To answer your questions. To me, yes engagement parties are normal and my family and friends have had them.  I don’t think they’re expected and you def. don’t have to have one if you don’t want one….

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

I wanted to have one and wish I would have just thrown one myself.  But, it didn’t happen and -oh well!  But, I’d definitely encourage you to have one.  Usually you wouldn’t throw one yourself, but I don’t think it’s all that ‘wrong’ if you decide to.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t have one. I didn’t really want to actually. I feel like I just wanted to devote the very beginning of the engagement to long talks with my fiance about what we wanted. (However, we did have fun telling everyone we were engaged-just not at a party.) Plus, I feel you would have to be super quick at deciding who to invite (and you really should invite them to the wedding-they’ll expect it now) getting invites out and having it done quickly. I think the excitement about being engaged lasts a lot longer for those engaged but if you wait too long for the party, people will just be confused on why you’re choosing to have one now and we just didn’t want to mess with it. Plus, we were going to be starting the new school year in a couple weeks. Just my opinion!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

FI’s mom threw us an engagement party about 6 months after we got engaged.  The delay was partially because we live in different states and I was in his state for a summer externship.  Really it was more of a meet his family’s friends party.  Just sandwich platters and desserts in the backyard, nothing crazy.  However, I have known people to go all out with their engagement parties, catering, dance floor, dj, etc, but in my opinion that borders too closely to throwing an early wedding.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have only been to 2 engagement parties, and those were for friends who live in another state.  They’re definitely not common in my circles of friends and family.  So no, we never had one and I am totally OK with it.  We’re having enough celebratory stuff going on with the wedding!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I think the great thing about engagement parties is that they can be anything you want.  Plus they are totally optional. 

We  had a very casual pool party in the backyard for our closest family and friends.  I don’t even think many people brought gifts.  It was just a nice relaxing day with everyone getting to know each other. 

But don’t feel stressed if you don’t want one it’s totally up to you.

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