Post # 1
FI and I just got engaged, on Valentine’s Day, and I was thinking about an engagement party. I know it’s not mandatory (well technically none of this is lol) but I was wondering if you bees have had any.
A little background on us, FI and I are in our late 20s, we’ll probably be funding most of the wedding ourselves, but right now I need a full time job in order for us to be able to. So we won’t be having a wedding any time soon… possibly the end of 2014 if we’re lucky.
Post # 3
We had a Save-the-Date party. Basically, because most of our guests are from the NY/NJ area, we decided to host a party up there in lieu of sending out save the dates. We did a big potluck, and used the money that we would’ve spend on printing and mailing on beer and wine instead.
Post # 4
Nope, I feel like its just another excuse to ask people for gifts, the bridal shower and wedding are already enough celebration!
Post # 5
@annasaf83: when my FH proposed he threw the engagement party for us that night he had it planned for weeks him and his sister and my mom caz he wanted a date set ; ) it was part of the whole thing so i did not get to plan it ; ) less work for me but i do love planning a good party.
Post # 6
Sort-of. We just had a big get together at the house for a birthday (husband’s)/ engagement party. BBQ and Beer…..nothing too special but it was a great excuse to get everyone together and have fun. I know people that throw really big parties and go out club hopping, but we were on a pretty tight budget.
ETA: We did not ask for gifts…. I did not even know people expected gifts at those things.
Post # 7
We did and I’m glad we did, it was a good time for our families to meet, they probably wouldn’t have met until the rehearsal dinner if we didn’t!
My maid of honor threw the party for us, we had it about 1 month after we were engaged because my grandma was in town.
We weren’t expecting gifts but our close relatives brought gifts because we were getting our own place at the time.
Post # 8
Nope. Won’t be having a shower either, unless someone throws one without my knowing
Post # 9
Yep, I had one. Everyone in my family has them and most of my friends have as well. We just cooked barbecue, had a caterer for the sides (was actually very inexpensive, and since we were having 60 people, way easier than cooking all that food), had some cakes, and then did a party plus toasts. It was fun. Most of my friends who’ve had them JUST did barbecues… my family though likes to always have a caterer. But it’s totally unnecessary, especially if you do a potluck.
It was nice because most of our out-of-town family/friends won’t be able to make it to the bachelor/bachelorette parties and shower because they’re too close in time to the wedding, but since the engagement party was last year and coincided with a holiday, EVERYONE made it. We literally had like fifteen people travel from out of state to come to the engagement party, which made it tons of fun. Our parents met for the first time, some of our attendants who’d never met were able to, and I was able to go bridesmaid dress shopping with my girls even though two of them live out of state.
@soy: I have never been to an engagement party where there were gifts. I didn’t think it was a gifting event like the shower or wedding. A few people brought cards to ours and the mother of the mutual friend who introduced us gave us a wine stopper, but even that was more than we expected.
Post # 10
Nope. I have 6 mths to plan the wedding and wouldn’t have time coordinate it. I think Save the Dates are the best way of an engagment announcement.
Post # 11
My fiance and I were going to throw a small one as a means to formally introduce our two families to one another. Especially since the first time they met was when both of the parents were waiting at the hospital after we had been in a car accident.
I was planning on having maybe 8 people there, but now my mom has sort of taken over (which i’m thankful for) and is turning it into a giant family and friends get together.
We are not asking, or expecting gifts. They are not traditionally given at these events, but we really wanted our families to meet. This seemed like such a great way! Also, no one in my family has formal weddings. They just have babies or head to the courthouse…so they’ve been itching to do something.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
My MOH and BMs planned a surprise Engagement party at my MOH’s new house. We were in town checking out venues and then we went over to her house to check it out and see the puppies. We got out of the car at her house and all of our friends were standing around grilling. My parents were in town with us looking at venues, but FI’s parents and grandparents drove down and my brothers flew in for it.
There weren’t any gifts exchanged. It was just a lot of chatting, eating, and drinking.
Post # 13
Kind of, it was more of just a familly get together and dinner (which we do periodically).
Post # 14
Yes, we had one and I am so happy we did! My parents threw one for us at our summer home on the lake and my aunt is a phenomenal cook and did most of the food for us. We had about 75 poeple – extended family and bridal party. Great excuse to get everyone together!
Post # 15
We didn’t have one, but we got engaged right before Christmas, so we got to see our families shortly after we got engaged.
Post # 16
We are have a 5.5 month engagement, his family is all over the country, our friends are spread out, and we are LDR, so logistically it doesn’t work for us. Also, we don’t like attention on us, and wouldn’t have wanted one anyway.