Post # 1
Did you have an engagement party?
If you didn’t, do you wish you would have?
We just got engaged Feb 1. We are having a destination wedding in Dec 2014 with only our closest family and friends then a very informal second “reception” back in our home town for the family/friends who couldn’t make it to the actual wedding.
Should we have an engagement party? If so, when? When is it too late?
And do you register…?
ETA: We are moving a few states away in 3 or so months and will hardly see our family after that
Post # 3
We had two. One took place the day we got engaged and it was very informal. We were supposed to have a fancier formal one later on in the engagment but it never happened and I was quite fine with that. We had a second one Thanksgiving weekend in my husband’s hometown state with all of his family and their friends. Both just took place in someone’s house and were very fun. We got engaged in October and our second party took place about a month later. I wouldn’t have gone that much later since we only had a 4 month engagement!
ETA: We didn’t register. Some people brought gifts to the one in November, but nothing to the first one.
Post # 4
i would love to have an engagement party when SO and i do get engaged lol more of just family and a few close friends.
Post # 5
My maid of honor threw us an engagement party and I’m glad we did it. We had it in August in my future in laws backyard. It was nice to have everyone together and give everyone a chance to meet.
We didn’t register however we were in the process of moving out of our parents house and into an apartment and we got house warming gifts. We didn’t even expect gifts!
I didn’t think it was appropriate to register to gifts because it was a casual backyard get-together, however if it was more formal you may want to register.
Post # 6
We had an engagement dessert party the day we got engaged at his familys house, it was nice.
Post # 7
I never even heard of engagement parties until I joined WB.
Post # 8
I think it would be premature to register for an engagment party.
Post # 9
It’s a great reason to have a party especially if you are having a destination wedding because a lot of people won’t be coming. Its a chance for them to celebrate with you.
i don’t think you need to register. People will ask if they want to buy you a gift.
Post # 10
We had one! My mom threw it and I did the decor (I can’t get enough of that stuff.) Since we live in MA but our wedding is in NJ, we wanted to have the party up here to celebrate at home. Ours was mostly the wedding party, parents, and super close family and friends – I think it was about 30 people? It was so much fun!
We had a small registry at that point, but told people not to worry about gifts – most of our friends are traveling either up to MA or down to NJ for various wedding things, so we told people not to worry. A few people still bought gifts, but mostly people just brought wine or champagne 🙂
Post # 11
No, we didn’t. But we are in a LDR, so it’s impractical. Although I suppose the day after we got engaged we had a mini unofficial engagement party with his family (we were staying at his parents house, so it was them, us, and his sister and her partner). Lots of champagne was had! lol
I don’t mind not having one. I’m not big on parties anyway. The wedding itself is enough for me!
Post # 12
We’re not having one and I’m glad! We’re having a DW and we’re already so grateful for the number of people who want to attend. To have an additional engagement party felt greedy to me, plus we’re not huge on large parties. However, if you want one, have one!
Post # 13
We’re thinking about having a small, very casual, joint engagement and housewarming party since we got engaged right after Christmas and bought a house last week. It would mostly just be a few friends in the area hanging out at our house with drinks, possibly champagne, maybe some grilling, that sort of thing. Our families live hundreds of miles away from us (in opposite directions), so we can’t have a large party even if we wanted one.
Post # 14
Both my parents and my FI’s parents offered to throw an engagement party for us, but we declined. Neither of us like a lot of attention (my FI doesn’t even like celebrating his birthday… seriously!) and we didn’t want people to feel obligated to give us engagement gifts either.
But since you are having a Destination Wedding it could be a really good opportunity to get together with friends/family who won’t be there for your big day.