Post # 1
I know my SO is going to propose, eventually. We have tentatively decided the wedding should be sometime next fall, so all I’m waiting for is the official proposal/ring. I let him know a few months back that it should probably happen sometime in October because we’ll need at least a year to plan.
Did your FI drop any hints/did you find any clues that he had bought the ring or was planning to propose soon? I don’t want to get my hopes up and find it very hard to believe that he is keeping it this good of a secret, because there have been literally no signs or hints from him.
I should also mention that we went ring shopping two months ago, and that he likes to leave things (gifts) for the last minute. He bought my birthday present the day of! Has anyone else had this same problem? I’m kind of driving myself crazy over here.
Post # 3
I was there when he looked at the ring, then he told me he bought it the following week. He gave me a timeframe of when he would propose. First he said 2012, then narrowed it to the first 6 months of 2012, then narrowed it further to the first 3 months of 2012. I guessed the date, he didn’t give it away, or say yes when I asked him if that was the date, but I am very happy that he chose the date he did (our 3 year anniversary) Knowing didn’t ruin the surprise at all, it was still perfect 🙂
Post # 4
I knew exactly when it would happen, and… lo and behold!
FI didn’t drop any hints though, and leading up to the day I started having doubts because he was hiding it so well, and usually I can smell a rat a mile away when he’s up to something! Apparently he had the ring about a week or two before asking, and he had “hidden” it in plain sight inside a glass TV cabinet we had upstairs, but he just knew that I would never look in there.
I just knew him, and knew what he wanted in a proposal and how he would want it to happen. So I was confident he would do it on this particular occasion.
He told me afterwards when he asked my dad for his blessing, and when he went to get the ring and I was shocked that he had been able to cover so well!
Fingers crossed your SO is the same way, and it will be happening for you soon!
Post # 5
I think we all know it’s coming or else we wouldn’t be “waiting” lol I’m like 80% sure it’s going to happen in October but I really don’t know he’s planned anything or even has a ring! I snooped all through out his apartment and his phone and found nothing nada! He laughs at me when he sees me doing this (it’s not like I do it behind his back) I’ve been doing it since I met him. I never thought I was the type that needed to be in control lol. This is just one of those things I can’t plan for nor control…it makes me super excited!
Post # 6
FI said it would happen in 2012 and I knew a ring was in the works, but I was completely shocked when it actually happened bc I definitely didn’t expect it then.
Post # 7
@Evanstobe: I knew everything. We had a discussion about our future, and we both knew we wanted to get married. So we started shopping for rings together because 1) I had no idea what I wanted and 2) my FI explicitly told me he didn’t want to pick it out alone.
We discussed budget, and I started comparing styles and prices. I always asked for his feedback, but he generally preferred that I be happy with the ring. We decided on my ring together, and he ordered it from Blue Nile. I knew when it was coming, and I could barely contain my excitement!
As far as the actual proposal goes, I had told FI he could do whatever he wanted but that I really didn’t want anything elaborate. I left it up to him, and it was perfect for both of us. I know a lot of women would hate what I just described, but I personally wasn’t comfortable with the whole surprise aspect. I love that we do things as a team, and this was no exception to that sentiment.
Post # 8
I had absolutely no clue. In fact, I didn’t even think my fiance was anywhere near ready to want to get married. Somehow he managed to pick out a ring that’s so *me* without me noticing anything and hide the whole thing up until the moment he got down on one knee. I guess it helped that we weren’t living together, but still, in hindsight he did drop some hints that I didn’t pick up on because marriage was the furthest thing from my mind (and his, so I thought!).
Post # 9
My mom spoiled it for me…She said something like, “I think he is going to propose, you should say yes.” I said, “OMG mom, why did you tell me.” XD
Post # 10
@Evanstobe: I was never “waiting” but I had no idea the proposal was coming. It was 3 months into our relationship (we were living together though).
Post # 11
Nope! No idea nada! We hadn’t gone to look at rings, hadn’t seriously discussed marriage, wedding, any of it. I just figured we’d think about it when I was done grad school, or seeing the light at the end of the tunnel at least. Or maybe I’m just blind, because when we came back from vacation everyone was like “how could you not have known???” I wasn’t aware that “waiting” was a thing or that I was supposed to be waiting for something to happen.
Post # 12
@Evanstobe: Two HOURS before we got engaged, he referred to engagement as “That thing that might happen some day in the distant future.”
Post # 13
@ImmaBee: My SO and I are the same exact way! I was with him when he picked it out and I have a pretty good idea of when he is going to do it.
Post # 14
I thought it was at least 8-12 months away. I was completely shocked.
I did think something was up just a few seconds before he proposed….something seemed really weird with him and I thought “is he going to do it? no…no not now, it’s too soon…he didnt want to do it this soon.” and BAM!
Post # 15
I knew it would happen eventually. We’d talked that we wanted to get married. We had discussed if we’d get married here or in Scotland where DH’s parents live. but that was it – very vague, general conversations about “the future”. I had NO clue he had a ring and didn’t realize he was proposing until about 2 minutes before it happened.