Post # 1
I just went shopping for my BM dresses yesterday with my sister and best friend and we found something perfect. We decided on the Bill Levkoff 478 which is an empire strapless style gown in the color navy. It looked great on my sister and best friend and was very flattering yet the neckline was modest enough where we aren’t looking at all cleavage. My only predicament however, is my third BM who wasn’t able to come shopping with us. She is a curvier girl and wears about a size 14-16. She’s concerned about her “saggy” boobs (her words not mine) and is wondering about adding straps. Personally I would have prefferred all the girls stay in the same style, but I also don’t want her worrying about the dress falling down.
Here is the dress:
Did any of you bee’s have maids that added straps to strapless dresses? If so could you post pics to give me reference?
Post # 2
One of mine is, but they’re not wearing the same dresses to begin with. She is 10, turning 11 right before the wedding, and while she doesn’t need the support since she’s not very developed yet, we all agree that straps are more age-appropriate for her. This is the dress, but I don’t have any pics of it on her. My color is blue
Post # 3
crisy003: I think it’ll be fine. Besides, it’s WAY better to not have them completely and utterly uniform than having a wardrobe malfunction and give all your guests the double janet jackson. Even if her dress doesn’t fall down, I think her comfort and piece of mind is WAY more important than having her match everyone else.
If it’s really THAT big a deal, a [good] seamstress can probably do detachable straps that you can remove for pictures, and maybe even the ceremony, but she can put on for dancing. However, it’ll probably be an added expensive when altering the dress – and I think you should offer to pay for it.
Post # 4
MangoSong: paying for alterations was never a concern since I’m already paying for the girls’ dresses myself. My thoughts at this point is that if I do decide to do a strap for her, I might want all three girls to have added straps as well. I do like your idea of the detachable strap though, that way I could still get the look I was envisioning for pictures/ceremony but then they could have peace of mind on the dance floor. Good idea!
Post # 5
My MOH had straps and it worked out fine! I might alternate if this bridesmaid isnt your MOH or it might look off (ex: if four, have two with and two without). She is to the right of me!
Post # 6
If the bride I am in a wedding for picks a strapless dress, I am going to add straps of some kind. I don’t do strapless and would be soooooooooooooooooo uncomfortable wearing one in front of lots of people. Especially because the have a tendency on me to fall and therefore I yank them up constantly. Not what anyone wants to see. And at least for me, I will be way more worried about it for the ceremony when everyone can see me. Straps big enough for comfort will still barely alter the look but make you bridesmaid way more comfortable and to me that is worth it not being exactly what you wanted.
Post # 7
crisy003: I think the removeable strap is a great idea– but I don’t think you should force all the girls to wear straps. If you choose the removebale– you’ll likely have them OFF for the pics and ceremony I would guess? Who cares what they do at the reception…..they don’t all have to put the on at that point.
Post # 8
All my bridesmaids have had cap sleeves added to their dress. When the dresses came in even though they weren’t falling down they were all standing around pulling them up, so all felt more confortable with the sleaves added.
I’ve also had custom swarkosvki beaded straps added to my wedding dress also.
Post # 9
I am having 2 BM’s – one is probably 14-16 and the other an 8, both are busty and for this reason I’m giving them full reing on deciding what type of straps, sleeves or neckline they prefer.
Yes I want my photo’s to reflect my vision, but more importantly I want my very best friends to feel comfortable and look beautiful. I know I’d appreciate the same courtesy as a bridesmaid. As a bigger gal myself, I know that having the dress be comfortable and flattering for my larger BM is of utmost importance.
Post # 10
For busty bridesmaids, they could choose off shoulder, one shoulder or short sleeves dresses.
Post # 11
Being “forced” to wear a strapless dress would be enough to put me off being a BM. I would hope that my friend would care more about my comfort than about whether straps looked bad on her pictures. Also, I hate strapless bras and would be asking for straps/sleeves mostly to hide my bra straps so detachable straps for photos would be a waste of time.
Post # 12
crisy003: 2 of 6, in my daughter’s bridal party, added the optional spaghetti straps (matching fabric-Lazaro), because they were busty. One was the maid of honor, who also added a bling embellishment, to the belt. The other was a bridesmaid, who added them halter style – she had long hair and I don’t think anyone noticed the straps. Peace of mind = priceless.
Post # 13
LaPetiote: Let me makes things clear. I never once implied that I was “forcing” any of the girls to wear anything they didn’t want to, also I never said I was worried about straps “looking bad in pictures.” In my OP I said that I would have preferred them all be in the same style, but I didn’t want her to worry about the dress falling down. Obviously I’ve made it clear that I’m trying to at least be accomodating to my friend’s preferences, even though it isn’t what I had envisioned.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
crisy003: have you asked any of the other girls if they prefer straps?
my stepmom ordered a strapless bridesmaids dress to wear. and they ordered the extra long version, so they’ll cut fabric off the bottom & will turn the dress into a halter. it could be cute if half your girls have the halter, and the other half strapless. so all you need is just 1 more girl to agree to straps. and i bet you’d be surprised at how many of them would probably prefer straps
Post # 15
My bridesmaids all wore the same Bill Levkoff dress, and it came with detachable spaghetti straps. Since the dresses all needed to be hemmed anyway, they had 3 options. Strapless, spaghetti straps that came with the dress, or using the hemmed material to make wider straps. 2 chose strapless, 2 chose spaghetti straps. In the pictures, they still had a consistent look, and everyone was comfortable, which was my primary concern.
The other thing to remember is that everyone is going to look a little different anyway. Different heights, hair colors, styles, accessories, etc. So no one will notice straps.