Post # 1
So we’re having our ceremony and reception at the same location, but we still have to pay $5/chair (ahead of time) for the ceremony. I know it’s common courtesy to go to both the party AND the ceremony, but also know that’s not always the case. The wedding is a friday evening and labor day weekend. I’m wondering if any of you bees have any experience yourself or from friends about what percentage of the rsvp’s attend both the ceremony and reception? Thanks!!!
Post # 3
At all the weddings I’ve been a guest to (both family and friends), I would say maybe 30-50% actually go to BOTH the ceremony and reception. My family is a huge believer in attending both so we’re not disrespectful, but there’s usually WAY more people at the reception than the ceremony.
Post # 4
Hey! I grew up in the Ville.
I have definitely noticed the trend of not attending the ceremony but attending the reception which is kind of a pet peeve of mine because the ceremony is the most important part! From my past experience there was maybe half of the guests at the ceremony. If you are having a Friday night wedding, of which we went to 3 last year, I would say less than half of the guests attend the ceremony. A lot of people don’t see the need to take a 1/2 day off of work just to get to the ceremony when they can make it to the reception on time. Hope that helps!
Where are you getting married?
Post # 5
We haven’t had our wedding yet, but I will be very upset if our guests don’t show up to both the ceremony and the reception. I have never been to a wedding where guests showed up for one, but not the other.
Post # 6
Thanks girls! It’s so tough to judge. Some people I’ve asked have said about 50% show up to the ceremony, and one even said only about 5% didn’t show up for the ceremony! Yikes, big gap! But I agree, the ceremony is the most important part and it’s just rude to deliberately only show up for the ceremony.
Post # 7
My FH has thought it was weird that I have insisted we always attend the ceremonies. Normally, even though you are invited to both, in his fam/friends circle it has generally been accepted practice/believed that friends only attend the reception. SO weird!
Post # 8
I’ve actually not gone to the ceremony before, but not from lack of trying- I couldn’t get off work in time. We really tried, though! I would never, EVER do it on purpose.
Post # 9
we didn’t get enough “no’s” to really have that problem.
Although, there have been a few guests that I’ve told if they couldn’t make the ceremony they were still more than welcome to celebrate the day with us.
ie. Our Lead Pastor prepares for Sundays on Saturday morning… the time of our ceremony.
AND another older couple we love and are close with lead intercessory prayer Saturday morning.
I really would LOVE for them to make it for ANY of our day that they could, we just love them so much…
BUT I also don’t have to pay ahead of time (although I’d probably just go ahead and have them a seat)
I guess it depends on your “crowd” of people
Post # 10
meganmp1 I understand what you mean. That’s another thing that I can’t be certain of either. Even if someone plans on making it to the ceremony, certain circumstances that day may lead to them missing the ceremony-like traffiicc!!!
and baletrina, I forgot to answer your question where I’m having it! It’s not going to be here, it’ll be a little further, in Arlington Heights
Post # 11
Yup, had some people not come to the ceremony..good friends too whose ceremony I attended.
Post # 12
@lauren810c: wow, that’s not very nice of them! Close friends should definitely be there. I’m sorry girl!
Post # 13
I had a few people who attended the reception but not the ceremony, but they all talked to me about it ahead of time.
Post # 14
@SapphireSun: thanks, i’m hoping that’s the case for us too. i know not everyone can predict traffic and whatnot, but at least if they know ahead of time, i hope they’ll let us know honestly!
Post # 15
Wow, I’ve never heard of people just showing up for the reception. In my group of friends, we love the reception more… but feel that our “ticket” to the reception is going to the ceremony. The only time I’ve seen people at the reception and not the ceremony is if they were running late. I have been to several weddings where people were invited to only the ceremony and not the reception. Sounds mean, but I’ll explain. I was involved in a college ministry that was on several close-knit campuses. When the leaders got married, everyone at each campus felt it was their right to go to the wedding… but people can’t afford to let every single person they know attend. So they compromised and said everyone is welcome to the ceremony, but we have to limit attendance to the reception. Even then there are probably like 300+ people at the reception who were invited. 🙂
Post # 16
I would go with the 50% rule. I have to say it is very common in my culture to attend the reception and not the ceremony. Usually only the closest family attends the ceremony and everyone goes to the reception. I am planning on 40 or less at the ceremony and 130 at the reception. I actually really love it because my vows will be very personal. Anyways just thought I would give another point of view.