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So I've been considering off and on for years whether I want to be on birth control. I feel like it would be really convenient, for FI and me, much more convenient than any other contraceptive. But I have always been scared sh!tless of the side effects. The idea of pumping hormones into my body gives me the heebiejeebies and I have heard so many horror stories about birth control pills.
So I'd really like to hear how many people, on average, experienced noticeable side effects, and just how severe they have been. I know this is sort of personal, but the more detailed you're willing to be, the better--I want to know all the possibilities!!
Thanks in advance everyone.
Only positive side effects here - dramatic reduction of cramps, PMS, bloating, etc. But it took finding the right Pill for my body - I need a lower hormone pill, and had to switch off the generic which made me slightly nauseated if I took it in the morning and didn't curb my cramps the same way.
I think I do have them. I was actually just saying yesterday how I might go off the patch after this cycle.
I get bloated in the stomach area, enlarged breasts (which might be a perk for some but not for me since I'm already a size D and am petite), and I feel sick to my stomach sometimes. I also feel like my sex drive is less, which is the number one reason I want to go off the patch - it's messing up our newlywed life. But then we stand a higher chance of pregnancy too which we definitely don't want right now. So I don't know what to do anymore.
I don't think it would be that bad to be on bc for a few years. You just have to find the one that is right for you. I started off on some pill that made me feel really nauseated. I switched to the patch right after that because I had been on the patch years prior and I knew it had minimal side effects for me at least. But now I still feel like I am having the side effects mentioned above.
I was on the pill for the past 10 years, and actually just decided to come off them, for a number of reasons. It was great to be on them for the pregnancy-avoiding reasons, and because it kept me on a regular cycle, which was nice, because I'm a very scheduled type of person. However, it wasn't worth the migraines it was causing, I was concerned about the hormones affecting my rep. system for being on it for so many years, and most importantly, my sex drive was NON EXISTANT. I was actually turned off by anything sexual, including my FI. It's been 2 weeks since being off, and sex drive has changed to what it should be for someone my age & in our happy perfect relationship.
Of course, these are all questions you should talk to your Dr., and maybe your mom if you're comfortable (family medical history & all), about. They'll know your body best.
Either way - you'll find out what works best for you! Good luck!
PS Sorry if this was TMI. lol
No! There is no such thing as a TMI post in this thread :D Thanks for your responses everyone.
lilyfaith and amariem25, I am really glad to hear that you guys found pills that worked very well for you with little to no side effects, except for the sex drive thing for you, amariem...which is of course nothing small. I'm sorry to hear that's causing a problem for you, especially as a newlywed, and I really hope you can find some solution!
I would LOVE it if the pill helped decrease my cramps and bloating, because every other month (apparently one of my ovaries hates me and the other doesn't), I get PMS/the period from hell. And amariem, I realize it was a problem for you, but I would NOT AT ALL mind the increase in the boob area! So if I could have those side effects and nothing else, I'd be a very happy camper. Also, I could easily withstand a decrease in sex drive--mine is way higher than FI's and it's actually our number one source of major arguments (actually, come to think of it, it is the ONLY cause of major arguments between us).
@simone: I'm glad to hear things are working out so well now that you're off the pill! I know my family's medical history inside and out, and know that my mom was never on the pill, so she wouldn't be much help there, but my medical history doesn't suggest there'd be any reason for me to have problems with it, aside from maybe complications due to my history with depression (though I've been off anti-depressants for almost five years now and haven't been depressed in at least three). I guess I'll just have to talk my gynecologist about it.
I have been on 2 pills and there are good and bad to both. For almost 4 years and I was on ortho-tri cyclen lo and no cramps, great skin, larger breasts and everything was great for about 3.5 years. Then I started to go a little nuts, or for real I developed pmdd. I talked to my doctor and we switched and now I am on yaz. Still no cramps or anything, I do get more breast tenderness but I had the same before I was on any pill. I know yaz is a little contreversial at the moment, but its all about the hormones and how you react to them and what each of us went through doesn't mean you will or you won't. I LOVE being on BC as I like knowing exactly when I will get my period. The only downside and its pretty big...my sex drive is not what it was and it takes a little more effort for me to want it.
I was on Ortho Tri Lo for about 4 years, and now it got switched to Sprintec Lo.
I have had shorter (like one or two days of normal flow, then extremely light for a few more days) periods and reduced cramps. I've have really clear skin while on the pill too.
I went on the Pill after having a lot of weight gain as a side effect from the patch, which thank goodness I haven't had as a side effect from the pill.
The only negative that I can say about the pill is that it really lowered my sex drive. And I can definitely tell the difference in my drive when I'm on my period week and taking placebo pills vs. a week taking pills with hormones.
So it's a good contraceptive method, but in actuality we probably have sex less often because of how low my sex drive gets. Sometimes for that reason, I consider not being on it, but I'm worried about how I would react after having been on it for almost 5 years.
I didn't have a great experience with the pill (I tried it for 6mo). It turned me into an emotional wreck all the time. My FI barely had to say anything and I would be in tears. Not a good thing, since it was at the beginning of our relationship! Also, I gained about 10 pounds.
However, my best friend had a much worse reaction. She had been on it for years, then while on a plane ride got a blood clot. She had trouble walking for a year (and that is not an exageration!) And now she has to wear compression stockings while on flights and needs to take an asprin every time (shes long off the pill). She also had several friends that this happened to. Remember, a blood clot can be deadly...
So I'd recommend NOT taking the pill. Our bodies were not meant to have a bunch of crap pumped into them daily like the american health system has come to promote...
I had a mediocre experience with the pill, but my MOH had an awesome experience (10+ years, no problems in any way!), so it totally depends on your body. I'd recommend trying it out, with the caveat that it's not the only good BC out there. I gained a significant amount of weight because the pill made me absolutely STARVING all day long, so when it caught up to me I switched to the Paraguard IUD (which is hormone-free). I LOVE having an IUD! It does cause heavier periods than I've ever had, so I'm pondering a switch to the Mirena IUD (which only has localized hormones and reduces your periods to almost nothing), but overall I highly recommend IUDs. It's awesome to have (literally) "built in" birth control. It's so cool!
I was fine on the depo shot, the patch, and I am currently on Yaz. I had pretty awful side effects from the mirena and other combination pills. It varies so much by person and I usually get side effects from everything!
I've been on the same pill (Yasmin, and now the generic version of Yasmin) for six years now, with virtually no side effects. My periods are lighter and my cramps are much better (I used to get cramps that would all but knock me out for three days). I do suspect it's lessened my sex drive somewhat, but not to the point where it's hurting our relationship or anything.
I went on the patch for about three months at one point, and hated it. I gained ten pounds. Would not recommend.
Just out of curiosity, veganglam, what form of contraception do you use now?
Have you looked into other methods? Like Sympto-Thermal Method or other FAM's? I, like you, don't want to put that crap into my body and honestly, the STM is easier than taking a pill imho.
The alarm goes off in the morning and I stick a thermometer in my mouth while I regret my alarm going off and just want to snuggle in bed longer. The BBT remembers my temp so I either hit snooze and sleep 5 more min or jump in the shower... and you just are aware of what your body does whenever you go to the bathroom. It's actually REALLY amazing and freeing learning what your body does. i.e. this month because of my temperature dropping I KNEW that I was about to start my period. That day I got it :-) It helps you prepare too. i.e. I took pain relievers BEFORE the period started and cut the caffeine that day and NEVER got the cramps I usually get day 1.
It's free, it IS easy, and it's MUCH better for the environment. (And you're not pumping your body full of chemicals and hormones for 25 extra days to protect your for the 5 days a month you could become pregnant.)
If there's no medical need, I highly rec. looking into STM.
Im on the pill and its great b/c I get my period on the same day every month which I loooove! However, like some of the other bees have said, my sex drive is SUPER low. Like, sometimes I feel BAD for my BF b/c we'll start to makeout and get into it and Ill just have to stop :( Thats the big downside for me. Other than that my boobs got 1 cup size bigger and my skin is clearer :)
I have been on a variety of pills since I was 15 years old for ovarian cysts (Mircette, Ortho Lo, Ortho Reg, Sprintec, Ortho Tri Cyclin and a bunch of others). While most held my cysts at bay I did still have one rupture while on the pill. I also experienced drastic mood swings between extreme anger and extreme sadness. Some helped with acne, some made it worse. Some helped with cramps, some didn't. All caused extreme nausea. I believe it really takes a lot of trial and error to find the right pill for you.
In my case I decided to go off the pill and switched to Nuva Ring for the past two years. I love it so much. I no longer have the extreme mood swings (which caused lots of problems in my personal life), have not had a cyst rupture (yet), no nausea, and it is sooo easy and convenient.
Best of luck to you and hope you find the right contraceptive for you!
I've only been on the pill (Loestrin24) for only a few months now, but I have had zero negative side effects.
And it definitiely has given me a lighter flow, and reduced my cramps.
I've been on the pill for years.
Pros:
Shorter period and know exactly what day it'll come-love it!
Obviously, the best is knowing pregancy chance is super minimal
Cons:
More moody
Much lower sex drive
Few scares when I've forgotten to take it (only has happened a few times in many years though!)
I'm going off the pill just after our honeymoon because we are ready to have a baby. I can't wait to see if my sex drive improves!
My recommendation is to try it and see what happens,. Everybody reacts differently and has different side-effects. And you can always try different pills to find the best one for you! :)
I initially started taking BC before I was sexually active due to excessive amount of pain (like crawl up in a ball and not get out of bed pain) and bleeding during menstruation (TMI sorry!). Anyways, I had to try a few different ones before I found the one that works for me. I have now been on BC for about 5 years.
A majority of the BC on the market right now is considered low dose (compared to in years past) which helps reduce the side effects. In terms of bad side effects I have experienced: I was allergic to the adhesive on the Ortho Evra patch (obviously not the meds fault, just my body's reaction) and while on Seasonale (take active pills for 84 days), I had really heavy spotting for about 6 weeks and decided that wasn't the medication for me.
Overall the effects have been very positive for me - the pain is much less (hardly there sometimes), bleeding is a lot lighter, and of course the reduced likelihood of pregnancy. My sex drive seems to be fine while on the medication.
Just keep in mind that for any medication (whether it's OTC ibuprofen or BC), you have to weigh the pros and cons of taking the medication to determine if it's right for you. (Just as an example, when you take ibuprofen for a headache, the major pro would be hopefully getting rid of the headache, and the major con would be the potential for stomach issues). Having this conversation with your physician would probably help to clear up any concerns you currently have and help you decide if BC is the right option for you.
I had no side effects from BC.
I was on ortho tri cyclen lo from age 18 to 26. I then switched to Seasonique from age 26 to 28. I liked Seasonique the best because my period only came 4 times a year. It didn't effect my periods after I stopped them either. My periods come each month like clockwork. (Some people think those 3 month BC mess up your body or something, so I just had to say that.lol)
I got on Ortho Tri-Cyclen (now the generic Tri-Sprintec) because of terrible cramps. I still take Aleve before my period starts to head off cramping, but they are much better now. My periods are lighter, too. The only caveats are I noticed some weight gain around my hips and I sometimes have spotting. I was a bit nauseous when I first started, but taking them at night eliminates that.
I've been on bc for about 11 years - never had any side effects and never got pregnant on it. My periods are light and highly predictable, and I think it's probably helping keep my skin clearer than it would be otherwise. No weight gain or anything. I'll stay on the pill until I want to get pregnant.
Why not give it a try - if you don't like it, you can always stop taking it. If you take it and notice side effects, you can stop taking it and they will go away, so it's not that high risk a choice.
I was on BC for 2 years. I developed major varicose veins in my right leg. The doc was very concerned that I would develop a blood clot on seeing this and took me off them. I also had major mood swings.
On the positive side, my periods were much shorter and lighter (why I started taking it in the first place).
Like Miss Riley, I also use Nuvaring and I think it's fantastic. One of my gfs tried it and had some side effects though, but I think she was an exception. Most people I know who have tried it love it. It's so easy since you only have to worry about it once a month - the only con that I have found is that it doesn't feel as good to have sex with it in. But I usually just take it out and put it back in afterwards, no biggie. :)
I've been on the pill about 2 years now, and while it's definitely helped my skin clear up, helped with cramps, and kept my period to EXACTLY 5 days (not necessarily a light flow tho), it's also had some negative side effects: namely boob increase and weight gain. However, I will say that I was at an unhealthy weight when I started taking the pill, and I also had moved in with my FI shortly before starting the pill, so who knows--some of the weight gain might have been from that as well. And I wouldn't say that my boobs grew so much as some of the weight I gained went to my boobs, which was probably needed due to my low weight previous to being on the pill.
I've been on the pill for 4 years now. I was spotting A LOT on one pill, so I switched, but I had had an extreme family tragedy at that time, and I'm pretty sure the spotting was stress-related. Since I've been on my new pill (3 years), I've been super happy with it. I used to be super irregular (21-35 days), and now I know not only the day, but also the general time period of the day that I am going to get my period. I really don't look forward to going off it and going back to the irregular periods again. I was surprised to hear about the low sex drive that many women seem to have on the pill. I started it long before FI and I started sleeping together, so I can't really compare the before and after. However, after reading several threads on the topic, I told FI that a side effect of coming off the pill might be a higher sex drive, and he said, 'OMW - your sex drive might increase even MORE than now?' So...yeah.
I've never had any bad side effects of note with low hormone birth control. I take Apri right now.
Do you have a sister? Does she take anything? My sister and I always compare notes before we sign up for a new med to see if the other has taken it and what her experience was. Saves us a lot of trouble!
I went on the pill because of extremely horrible period pains. I definetly have side effects (some stuff is caused by health problems too but here they go):
- No sexual desire
- Headaches
- Weight gain
- Problems wearing contacts (it's a side effect in the literature look it up!)
I'm thinking of switching to the Paragard IUD like BostonBrideToBe. I'm hoping that the surgery I had will stop some of the cramping so it won't be bad without hormones. Have to find a doctor that will do it now!
I am on Yasmin and I LOVE it. I have tried a variety of other pills but this is by far my favorite. It has drasticly decreased all of my negative period side effects, there has been a min drop in my sex drive but nothing that FI can't overcome and get me in the mood
I hated taking the pill (ortho tricyclen lo), but only b/c I would always forget it. The side effects were minimal (maybe b/c I would always forget it...). Then I used the Nuva Ring for about 2 years, and I LOVE that. It's low, site specific dosage, and much easier for me than taking a pill. I did experience a lower sex drive, but my skin also improved (I've always had acne). However, it's gotten to be very expensive, depending on insurance.
As a cheaper alternative, I've just recently gotten a Mirena IUD. My insurance wouldn't pay for BC, but it will pay for an IUD b/c it's an 'in-office' procedure. Weird. So far, it's not too bad. It works for 5 years, with no upkeep. I like this part. It does have a small amount of hormones, but there is another one - Paraguard I think - that has NO hormones, and uses copper as a sort of spermicide. IUD's are very effective BC, and I think they're often overlooked. The placement can be painful, but you can ask for a Valium beforehand as long as you have a ride home. :) Mine wasn't too bad - it's like bad cramps for a few minutes.
Good luck in your choice!
I've been on Apri for about 5 years and it's been great! Before I started on the pill my periods were SUPER heavy,long and painful...sometimes putting me out of commission for the first day. I also had bad acne. Being on the pill my periods are cramp free, much shorter and it comes exactly 2 days after my last active pill, within a 4 hour timeframe every month so I'm never caught off guard. Absolutely no mood swings...but then again, I'm very mellow and have never been moody. My skin is totally clear! Haven't even had one pimple since I've been on the pill!! I was hoping for the increase in breast size...unfortunately that didn't happen for me. Unlike the majority of women that get on the pill, I lost about 8lbs after I started the pill...not good when you're already thin. I've had no problems with contacts which I was worried about when my doctor was listing possible side effects.
I have to agree with others though, there is a decrease in sex drive. Mine's didn't disappear but it is lower. I also never had any headaches before I got on the pill and now I get maybe 1 headache every 3 months or so which isn't too bad. Good luck deciding!
I tried at least four different kinds of hormonal birth control (that I can remember) and hated them all. I have been on Sprintec (the generic of Ortho-Cyclen), Yasmin, Ovcon 35, Nuvaring. On all of them I had spotting and got my period several days earlier than I was supposed to and it was lighter but lasted longer. I also experienced a decreased sex drive. On Yasmin I experienced horrible emotional side effects (crying at the drop of a hat, severe depression). I still experienced PMS symptoms like I did when I was off the pill with all of these. The best of these was Nuvaring, which I liked because it was continual and I didn't have to remember to take the pill every day (but I still got side effects). My sister, on the other hand, has been on Yasmin for years and is happy with it---it's unpredictable how it will work for you.
Finally I gave up on hormonal birth control and now I use the sympto-thermal method (STM) of natual family planning (NFP). I like not pumping my body and then the environment full of hormones, the lack of side effects, and that it doesn't cost $35 a month or more (after you buy a book and a thermometer, it's free). If you're interested, you should check out the book Taking Charge of your Fertility by Toni Wechsler. If you're using some sort of barrier method now, with NFP you would only have to use it ~30% of the time to prevent pregnancy; the rest of the time you would not have to use anything.
I think the important takeway from this thread is that everyone's different, and your body's reaction to different combos of hormones will vary.
I took variants of Ortho Tri Cyclen for close to ten years with a few trials of other pills mixed in, and had both positive and negative side effects. I also had different reactions to some of the ortho generics, which are theoretically supposed to be identical to the brand name, but aren't always in practice. Ortho (and its generic Tri-Sprintec) was the best for me in the end, and I absolutely couldn't take Yaz, which I tried at one point; I know other women who are the exact opposite. Finally off it now b/c of moodiness and contact issues and (more importantly) because it's less of a concern now if other methods fail, but on balance it was worth it for the years when I was in my 20s and not in a position to have a child. (We do sympto-thermal now too; I like many aspects of being hormone-free, but do miss the crystal clear skin, short/predictable periods, and lack of cramps that came with the pill!) My old ob/gyn also felt that for women with endometriosis, being on the pill minimizes the potential for infertility treatment if you don't want children till you're in your 30s, because it can help prevent long-term damage related to endo, which was one reason I chose to stay on it long-term.
I think the biggest thing is to be proactive about choosing and managing birth control, whatever the method---if you're taking the pill, understand which one you're on and what hormones it uses, and what the other options are. (Different pills use different hormones in different doses, and you might find that one is great and one is awful for you.) Find a good ob/gyn who is responsive to you being actively involved in that conversation. I'd start with ortho or one of the other "big" ones only because they're very tried and tested, so you have a good body of literature on what the good and bad side effects might be. (When I was on Yaz, it was only a few years old and it was hard because women were just beginning to report some of the negative side effects, so they weren't well documented; my doc would have to go digging into the research to try to figure out if something was a side effect or unrelated.) Give it at least six months to see how you do---it can take your body that long to recalibrate to it---and if it isn't working, choose something different to try. For all of the horror stories, there are plenty of stories of people who've been on the pill for years with great success, so it's really hard to know which category you're in until you give it a spin---good luck!
I'm planning to stop the pill after this month. I've been on it consistently for about 2 years now, and like a lot of the posters here, it took me a while to find one that didn't turn me into an emotional and physical wreck.
To be honest, the no-fear-of-pregnancy thing is nice, but other than that, I haven't enjoyed being on the pill. My sex drive has literally reversed. I get turned off at the idea of sex and intimacy. I'm 24!!! That shouldn't be happening. My periods are predictable and shorter, but the cramps are still there, and worse in some ways, because it's like a long, dull ache rather than just a few hours of intense on-and-off cramps, which is what I was getting before.
Moreover, I just don't feel like a WOMAN. I don't know how to say it any other way. I'm not ovulating, and that's weird to me. I feel...dead. Like I've dried up. Sex is uncomfortable because things aren't happening like they should "down there". I feel bad for my fiance, because he's great in bed, and I'm often just a killjoy. There have been dry spells that have been so bad, I crawl into bed with him, and just cry, because I can't bring myself to want to do anything with him.
We learned about NFP just a few days ago, and decided to commit to learning the method. I'm so excited!
So, my advice to you is to pay attention to how you feel now, without the pill. If your cramps are debilitating, or your periods terribly irregular, you might find some benefits. But, if you can commit to a non-pill method of birth control, that would be my suggestion. You'll probably feel more like you.
Hope this helps!
Birth Control has some very positive and very negative side effects for me. It greatly decreased my cramps (yay!), helped me have a regular cycle, and I barely had any PMS symptoms. I did get bad headaches frequently, got dizzy when standing up, had absolutely NO sex drive, had weird changing appetites, and one kind of BC that I tried gave me sharp pains in my stomach. Overall, I tried 4 or 5 different pills+ the nuvaring, each giving me pretty much the same annoying side effects. I talked to my doctor and she said that I am "sensitive" to hormones and even the low-dose pills will be too much for me. I ended up getting off BC six months ago and it feels so good to not take a pill every day!
All positive here, too. I went from having miserable cramps that made me shaky, weak, and sweaty to having a period that lasts 3 days. I barely even notice it.
I was previously on Alesse for years, and switched to the Nuvaring about a week ago. So far, so good. I had mild cramps the first day I put it in, but it stopped and now I don't even notice it's there.
i've only had positive side effects, like lighter periods, and i've been on ortho tri cyclen and the generic version for about 3 years.
Oh I forgot to mention which pills I have been on. I was on Yaz (which was the best pill overall I think), then Lybrel, and now Loseasonique. I also tried the patch and didn't really like it much.
Wow, thanks for the tremendous number of and detail in your responses, everyone!!! This has been a really helpful thread. We're currently using condoms and he usually pulls out as well (he's really paranoid). Although it seems like most of you, with some exceptions, reported mostly manageable side effects, I think we're going to stick with what we do now for awhile. I get REALLY squeamish over medical procedures and dramatically altering my body in general and I don't have any family members who have been on birth control pills so not the faintest idea how it might affect me. I would probably be really ill at ease taking the pill, and potential negative side effects are another story. It would be really nice to lessen the symptoms of the terrible period I get every other month, and to regulate it a bit more as well (it's not completely regular and I've gone as long as two and a half months without getting one, though in the past two years or so it's been a bit more regular than it was for the first seven), but I just don't think it would be worth it for how uncomfortable I'd be taking it.
I think we might look into 'natural family planning' sorts of methods over the summer and see if any of those might be of use to us. I might still talk to my gynecologist about the prospect of going on the pill next time I see her but I really don't think it is for me, at least not right now. But I am so glad to hear that it works so well for so many of you (and that those of you for whom it didn't work quite so well seem to be doing better off of it). I guess that's the beauty of there existing so many methods of birth control--none may be perfect, but everyone seems to find one that works for them.
So thank you again everyone! I've really appreciated all of your responses in this thread.
I HATE homonal BC. It makes me feel like crap---I have enough crazy hormones. I stopped taking it a few years back---although it's super convienent, I've never considered going back!
It sounds like the original poster already got the info she needs, but I figured I'd post in case anyone else finds the info helpful too.
I was on the pill for about 6 years, and in many ways I was very happy with it. Lighter periods, cramps were better, helped with acne, no pms, less bloating. And unlike a lot of others on here, I had no negative effects on my sex drive. However, it's amazing how many things hormones affect, because I also had other side effects. More spider veins, larger vericose veins, I shed more hair than previously (the pill affects your hair growth cycle). I also got some stretch marks because my body gained about 10 pounds in the first month. None of these were bad enough to make me quit the pill, but if I had known about them before taking the pill, I probably wouldn't have started the pill.
I'm now using NFP and the symptothermal method (in combination with a barrier method when needed) as mentioned by other posters, and I love it. I do have painful cramps now that I'm not on the pill anymore, but like another poster said, I can predict the day of my period from my temperature readings, so I just take Aleve before it starts.
I was on Triphasil for about 12 years...never had any negative side effects...the only things I experienced were lesser period time and dramatic decrease in cramps..
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