Post # 1
Or did it just happen on its own?
FI and I never had to sit down and “DTR”. We were just inseparable after we met, so it was very obvious what the relationship was from the get-go.
If you had to “DTR”, did you bring it up or did your SO?
Post # 3
We defined it after about a month of dating each other. We’re both 29 and with a lot of experience in relationships, we felt it works best without assumptions. He brought it up.
Post # 4
He brought it up about 2 months into dating. I think it’s essential to discuss it directly, as most people these days date multiple people at once and that’s considered acceptable, at least where I live!
Post # 5
We both knew what it was so there was no discussion. However, he kept introducing me as just megz06 and not his girlfriend. I was slightly annoyed and brought it up to him, and he said he just assumed people knew I was his girlfriend, so it wasn’t the fact that he didn’t feel the same.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
No, my fiance doesn’t just do hookups, he only does relationships. I never felt the need to DTR
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Cory_loves_this_girl: LOL, DTR! I think this is hilarious when I see it in TV Shows because this has never happened to me in real life.
Post # 8
I agree that while most of the timeit’s obvious where you are, it’s still important to communicate and have the discussion so there is no question.
Assumptions are a dangerous thing!!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
We had two different views of what our relationship was until about 4 months in, when something major happened, and we couldn’t avoid talking about it anymore. I agree that assumptions can be dangerous and communication is important.
Post # 10
@peanuthead: In my case at least, it was obvious by things that were said. For example, introducing each other as bf/gf. Besides, we were pretty much together 24/7, so neither of us would een have been able to be seeing other people on the side lol.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Yes, but I don’t remember who brought it up. I think it’s a good idea to make sure you are both on the same page and although you both may be thinking it, it’s a good idea to verbalize it so you both actually know it.
Post # 12
For us, it was pretty obvious but we still came out and said that we were dating.
Post # 13
Well, after a few dates he just asked me to be his girlfriend, to be exclusive. So he brought it up I guess. 🙂 we were sort of each others first serious relationship (his first ever), so the only way for us was sort of the straight forward way. 🙂 He was one of those guys that told me exactly what he wanted almost int he first month. I appriciated his complete honesty, and wanted the same thing! 🙂 2 years later, he proposed and we’re getting married this year!
Post # 14
About 1 month in, he sat me down and said that he’d like to be exclusive if I was willing. It was so formal and cute I just couldn’t handle it. We both knew we weren’t seeing other people, but I always think it is best to spell it out, and so does he!
Post # 15
I think he told me after a few weeks he didn’t want to see anyone else. A month after we met/were dating he asked me to be his girlfriend. I actually turned him down (haha) because I wasn’t ready. But I was ready about 2-3 weeks after that. He asked me again a month after he asked originally and I told him that was what I wanted!
Post # 16
Sort of. After a month I was all cas…”so, are you my boyfriend?” and he said yes, and that was that. I knew he wasn’t dating anybody else, but I wanted to make sure we were on the same track.