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Oooo, yes. I had that moment a few months ago. I had been asking my husband to cuddle with me in bed and he was complaining as usual, but when I mentioned he used to always cuddle with me he got quiet. I know that I had put on some weight recently and I was sensitive to it, so I asked if that's why. And he admitted that he was less attracted to me now. It took a lot of talking to get through it, but now we are both working out and trying to be better looking and healthier for each other. But I remember thinking at the time, "Why did I marry someone so shallow?"
Omg... I'm sorry ladies but I would freak out too if I experienced either one of those things.
I have been noticing (and have tried to stop myself when I do) that his jokes are repetitive and he speaks in a higher pitch when he talks to me....I had a little panic moment of "oh god, he's going to do that forver, I'm going to be hearing those jokes forever" moment.
It's refreshing to know that you ladies got married and still feel as if not everything is perfect. I think a lot of women feel as if they cannot talk about the things that bother them about their spouse because once you marry them you are supposed to love anything and everything about them because you agreed to love them for the rest of your life. It is nice to know that sometimes they still bug you but you still love and care about them just the same.
yep... we are trying to quit smoking and mine snapped the other day because a shot glass fell out of the cabinet for the third time when he opened it and it told him that if it falls, than put it somewhere else! and he was PISSED! i usually don't get smart and just move it later tp avoid conflict(he doesn't usually get in the cabinets but i had surgery and he has been taking care of me) i couldn't resist the urge to smart off! lol
I guess I had a lot of that before we got married. We were fighting a lot due to wedding stress and sometimes I would look at him and go "My god am I really sure about this?". We always talked it out. The problems haven't gone away totally but they're definitely better and we're much better at talking stuff out instead of flaring up at each other (ok ok, I'm better at not doing that... he never used to, he'd just sit there quietly and take my verbal torrent of anger).
@MissBrooklynA - I think you are right on the money with that observation, I have also noticed newly married women tend to hold in their relationship problems because they think things need to be perfect. I can see the flip side of that too though, I had a really hard time discussing that issue with most of my friends because they are all newly married or will be getting married soon, and I didn't want to disillusion them on what they perceived my marriage looked like.
I've been married almost two years and have not yet had that moment! Closest I came was one day I was lounging around and thought, I think I'd like to go get a puppy today! Then I realized that I would have to talk about it with hubby, and he would probably say no, and I realized that I miss being single and getting to make my own decisions, and I pouted for a while. But I have never for a second regretted marrying him.
I am with snmcdowell, I haven't had any shocking moments happen, but I have thought about making a big purchase and having to answer to someone about it. Not that DH would ever give me a problem about any of it, we are on the same page $ wise (thankfully!) but it is kind of a "What did I do?" moment when you go from 100% freedom to having to answer to someone.
I didn't get the impression that anyone was saying they regretted marrying their hubby but maybe I am wrong?? I for one have not regretted marrying him once but I have certainly had my fair share of these moments! I am pretty sure he has too. We are very different in terms of the fact that he is pretty OCD and I am not OCD at all, and I think sometimes the other does something (like, he obsessively cleans something or keeps track of things or something like that) or I do something (such as drop some crumbs or leave my crap in places) and I think we both think, My God, I'm going to have to put up with this forever?!
I have also had the moments where I stop and think, Whoa, I don't make big decisions on my own anymore, and this is what it's like from now on. It's pretty crazy.
Great topic! Our counselor calls that "buyer's remorse," which I think is a great name for it :) She says almost every couple experiences a moment (or moments) of buyer's remorse - it's normal and just be prepared for it. Doesn't mean you get divorced, but people aren't perfect, and that usually comes out a lot more after you get married.
I haven't experienced buyer's remorse yet, although it's only been three months ;)
This is funny! (I mean, I hope it is funny and not serious remorse, because of course that isn't funny :/ ) Everybody freaks out, especially if they are stressed or tired. As long as it isn't too violent or something... I have seen the best and worst of my FI, so I feel confident that I "know what I am doing/ getting into." But, like littlemissmoo- I have been having serious talks/ worry attacks this week (wedding in 5 days!!) -but we just talk it out.
monalisa I too agree with your first sentence. I see not regrets here in this thread, just passing, fleeting OMG moments.
15 years before I was married it was just me and my cat Travis. He could come and go into any room of the little house I rented as he pleased. He even had a kitty door that allowed him outside.
However, now that me and the new hubby have just bought our first home together Travis isn't allowed in the master bedroom (understandable...I guess) and there is no kitty door in the new house (yet). So the first couple of times he pooped outside of his litter box he was locked up in his room (yes the cat has his own room so I guess that's a good thing). This was not my decision.
*sigh*
I love my husband, being married, and I definitely love our new house but I surely do miss that part of being single and having my own place. If Travis could talk he would probably agree.
xoxo
I honestly haven't had that moment yet... but it's only been a little over 6 weeks. Give me some time... I'm sure it will come. 
I lived with FI right away when we started seeing one another, so I did a lot of adjusting then. He still lets me act like I am single, so I am happy about that. However, I did have to compromise- for instance- I used to sleep with my dog before FI. When he came along- those two would literally "have a fight" (it was funny to me) -she would push him off the bed! (On purpose- she is one of a kind ;) )
Thank you for posting this!! I am having major "buyers remorse" right now and my wedding is 5 weeks away. It is just a scarry time to think that all the little things that bug you will be with you FOREVER.
Buyers remorse - excellent! And yes, I still love my hubby and being married. But it was the first OMG what have I done moment and I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced the same. After all, no one is perfect!!!
One of my college friends mentioned a girls-only trip to Cozumel she's taking next week. I had instant flashbacks to our Spring Break trips to Jamaica and South Beach and thought "wow, I'll NEVER do ANY of those EVER again". I love vacationing with my husband, but there is a bit of nostalgia remembering those crazy carefree trips from younger, single days;)
We haven't had too many OMG moments, except that he has a weirdly cheesy sense of humor that gets really old (he is a high school chemistry teacher after all). We still go on vacations without each other, so I haven't felt like I missed crazy single vacations at all. In fact, those long weekends away with our respective friends make us cherish our time together even more
I had a moment when our kitchen ceiling was leaking and I was b*tching about it, DH bent down to mop up the puddle and when he stood he cracked his head on the cupboard door which was open (I'm too short to hit my head on those!) He yowled and when I went to touch him he yelled "Don't touch me!" He was literally like a bear with a sore head. I walked away and I remember saying to the dog, "I married an a**". It must have really hurt, he actually still has a bump from it (it was months ago). He did apologise later for yelling at me (which he never does) and I apologised for being a spoiled brat and not mopping up the floor myself :) Like someone else said, never regretted for a moment marrying him but that moment was a trial!
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Ah wedded bliss is grand but we all have our moments. I think there comes a moment (that hopefully passes quickly) when you think - My God, what have I done and the realization that you are stuck with this person now.
Mine came last Sunday. We spent 4 hours canoeing and had a great time. While canoeing, the thought popped in my head that I would like to take my BF canoeing at a nearby lake to cheer her up. She is recently unemployed and possibily losing her house so she is rather depressed. As hubby was putting away canoe supplies I said wait, leave the paddles and straps in my car because I think I would like to go to Raystown Lake in the near future... and before I could finish he snapped! He wanted to know WHEN I was going to tell him about my plans and ranted and raved. I was speechless! I told him that the thought had just recently came to me and that I had every intention of telling him. Like WTF?
Well to hubby's credit, he did cool down and about 15 minutes later apologized for being such an a$$. But until then I experienced my very first - My God, what have I done, who is this person? moment. Anyone else?