Post # 1
My boyfriend and I went ring shopping several times. I had no idea really what I wanted, which made the process very overwhelming and very confusing. We picked out a ring online, but it was online only, so we had to order to be able to see it. It came, we liked it, and decided to keep it. He has the ring now and has hidden it from me until he is ready to propose. That part of building the suspense is definitely working. I admit I went looking for it briefly twice and can’t find it! Lol. I am thinking he will propose sometime next week when we go on vacation, but I have no idea on anything else.
I am worried I won’t be surprised enough! I almost wish I hadn’t looked at the ring when it arrived. Have any of you bees had a similar situation? Was your proposal a surprise or did you know it was coming and what the ring looked like? Is it possible to still feel surprised even though I have seen the ring?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
He picked out both my ering and my wedding band. 🙂 I was completely surprised. Honestly I had no idea he was even looking.
Post # 4
He picked out the ring totally on his own. the only conversation we had about rings was 8 months before he proposed and it was 2 sentences – “I always thought you’d like something antique” “yes, I would”.
that was it. when he proposed, I didn’t even know he had a ring.
Post # 5
We had discussed getting married and I had loosely told him that I would want a Canadian diamond. But he managed to keep the purchase a complete secret and he definitely surprised me with the proposal (while on vacation in Bermuda). Since I’m Swedish, where engagements are usually far from a surprise, I’m very happy that I wasn’t involved in the process of selecting the ring. I love the fact that it was a surprise and not a mutually agreement/me deciding as that’s what the majority of Swedish couples will do. Each to their own of course, but I always wanted to be a little swept of my feet in this single aspect and I was!
Post # 6
i showed him pictures and he had something custom made.
we went band shopping together.
Post # 7
@Lrroma181986: My SO and I went ring shopping together and we both picked out the ring. The ring I tried on in the store was in white gold but the one we ordered was rose gold and we also upgraded the diamond. He picked up the ring almost 2 weeks ago and I chose not to look at the final result so in a way it’ll be a surprise. He’ll be proposing sometime before mid August so exactly when and how the proposal will be happening will also be somewhat of a surprise. I know exactly where the ring is and so far I’ve held back from peeking…..though I have to admit that I was concerned about the size so I tried it on in complete darkness, with my eyes closed tight, once…yes, I’m a weirdo
Post # 8
Kind of? More like, he sent me photos of stuff he was looking at and i’d say “yes” or “no”. Then he took it from there. 🙂
Post # 9
I helped pick mine out (and it was very overwhelming – I tried on over 100 settings!). I was still surprised when he proposed 🙂
Post # 10
We picked it out together. I wanted something affordable from the antique store, but aside from that I had no idea what I liked in a ring so it was one of those situations where I had to look around and figure it out as I went along. I didn’t even know what kind of stone I wanted. I ended up picking out something with a clear stone that is definitely not a diamond, but it looks like there are 2 little diamond chips on the side. I love the band- it’s gold and has designs carved in it.
He bought it that same day right in front of me but he hasn’t presented it to me yet.
Later on we were looking at modern rings online and I didn’t like any of them! Neither does he. It turns out we have pretty similar taste in rings.
Post # 11
I helped. We were at the mall grabbing food and saw that the place that sold Moissanite was having a trunk show the next day. We said what the hell and went to look. We had no intention of buying, he just planned on seeing the styles I liked.
It’s funny, he showed up about 5 minutes before I did and found one he thought I would like. I tried on every single ring they had and I fell in love with one that I just couldn’t take off. I could absolutely see myself wearing it until the day I died. It was perfect for me. It turns out, that was also the one that he had spotted. We bought it that day (though it was custom order, we put sapphires on the side).
Post # 12
@Lrroma181986: I think the surprise of a proposal would far outweight the surprise of what the ring actually looks like. The proposal is such a happy and overwhelming feeling, I wouldn’t worry about already having seen the ring!
Post # 13
He proposed without a ring, using a little bit of string from a silly friendship bracelet I made him, and tied it in a bow on my finger 🙂
Then we went shopping for a ring together, and found a diamond house where we chose my exact stone, together. I loved the whole process. So exciting! 😀
You will still be surprised and over the moon, I am sure! Pics when he does, please! 🙂 x
Post # 14
Mine was a complete surprise 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
He proposed with a family heirloom placeholder ring (that fit on my pinky finger), and then we went shopping for the permanent ring. We were engaged for 3 months before my custom e-ring was ready.
I am not a fan of big life decisions being a surprise. Surprise me with flowers delivered at work? Yes. Surprise me with one of the most significant decisions of my life? No. Just no.
Post # 16
We picked out the ring together. I knew when it was delivered and tried it on multiple times before the proposal. I also knew exactly what day the proposal would happen on and where. I was still totally overwhelmed by the proposal. For me the sentiment is far more important than the surprise factor.