Did you help your fiance pick out the ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you know that your fiance was going to propose?
    Yes, I helped him pick out the ring : (206 votes)
    73 %
    No, I was completely surprised : (46 votes)
    16 %
    Other, describe : (30 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    He picked out both my ering and my wedding band. 🙂 I was completely surprised. Honestly I had no idea he was even looking.

    Post # 4
    3699 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    He picked out the ring totally on his own. the only conversation we had about rings was 8 months before he proposed and it was 2 sentences – “I always thought you’d like something antique” “yes, I would”.

    that was it. when he proposed, I didn’t even know he had a ring.

    Post # 5
    3047 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We had discussed getting married and I had loosely told him that I would want a Canadian diamond. But he managed to keep the purchase a complete secret and he definitely surprised me with the proposal (while on vacation in Bermuda). Since I’m Swedish, where engagements are usually far from a surprise, I’m very happy that I wasn’t involved in the process of selecting the ring. I love the fact that it was a surprise and not a mutually agreement/me deciding as that’s what the majority of Swedish couples will do. Each to their own of course, but I always wanted to be a little swept of my feet in this single aspect and I was!

    Post # 6
    6171 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    i showed him pictures and he had something custom made.

    we went band shopping together.

    Post # 7
    675 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Lrroma181986:  My SO and I went ring shopping together and we both picked out the ring. The ring I tried on in the store was in white gold but the one we ordered was rose gold and we also upgraded the diamond. He picked up the ring almost 2 weeks ago and I chose not to look at the final result so in a way it’ll be a surprise. He’ll be proposing sometime before mid August so exactly when and how the proposal will be happening will also be somewhat of a surprise. I know exactly where the ring is and so far I’ve held back from peeking…..though I have to admit that I was concerned about the size so I tried it on in complete darkness, with my eyes closed tight, once…yes, I’m a weirdoEmbarassed 

    Post # 8
    30284 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Kind of? More like, he sent me photos of stuff he was looking at and i’d say “yes” or “no”.  Then he took it from there. 🙂

    Post # 9
    2699 posts
    Sugar bee

    I helped pick mine out (and it was very overwhelming – I tried on over 100 settings!). I was still surprised when he proposed 🙂

    Post # 10
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    We picked it out together. I wanted something affordable from the antique store, but aside from that I had no idea what I liked in a ring so it was one of those situations where I had to look around and figure it out as I went along. I didn’t even know what kind of stone I wanted. I ended up picking out something with a clear stone that is definitely not a diamond, but it looks like there are 2 little diamond chips on the side. I love the band- it’s gold and has designs carved in it. 

    He bought it that same day right in front of me but he hasn’t presented it to me yet.

    Later on we were looking at modern rings online and I didn’t like any of them! Neither does he. It turns out we have pretty similar taste in rings. 

    Post # 11
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I helped. We were at the mall grabbing food and saw that the place that sold Moissanite was having a trunk show the next day. We said what the hell and went to look. We had no intention of buying, he just planned on seeing the styles I liked.

    It’s funny, he showed up about 5 minutes before I did and found one he thought I would like. I tried on every single ring they had and I fell in love with one that I just couldn’t take off. I could absolutely see myself wearing it until the day I died. It was perfect for me. It turns out, that was also the one that he had spotted. We bought it that day (though it was custom order, we put sapphires on the side).

    Post # 12
    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Lrroma181986:  I think the surprise of a proposal would far outweight the surprise of what the ring actually looks like.  The proposal is such a happy and overwhelming feeling, I wouldn’t worry about already having seen the ring!

    Post # 13
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    He proposed without a ring, using a little bit of string from a silly friendship bracelet I made him, and tied it in a bow on my finger 🙂


    Then we went shopping for a ring together, and found a diamond house where we chose my exact stone, together. I loved the whole process. So exciting! 😀


    You will still be surprised and over the moon, I am sure! Pics when he does, please! 🙂 x

    Post # 14
    1414 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    Mine was a complete surprise 🙂

    Post # 15
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    He proposed with a family heirloom placeholder ring (that fit on my pinky finger), and then we went shopping for the permanent ring. We were engaged for 3 months before my custom e-ring was ready.

    I am not a fan of big life decisions being a surprise. Surprise me with flowers delivered at work? Yes. Surprise me with one of the most significant decisions of my life? No. Just no.


    Post # 16
    458 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    We picked out the ring together. I knew when it was delivered and tried it on multiple times before the proposal. I also knew exactly what day the proposal would happen on and where. I was still totally overwhelmed by the proposal. For me the sentiment is far more important than the surprise factor. 

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