Post # 1
My FI and I are saving up to pay for half our wedding, my parents paying for the other half. We know that we won’t have enough to book a honeymoon before the wedding, and the thought was that we would use the gifts from the wedding to plan the honeymoon after. However, lately I’ve been wondering if it might not be better to skip the honeymoon altogether and save the funds for a down payment on a house (we are renting). Anyone else face this situation? What did you do?
Post # 3
I think that’s what we’re going to have to do. (Save for downpayment instead)
I have to admit, I am very disappointed about it. Although our wedding was destination (Las Vegas) we were only there for four days and I didn’t really get to do anything that I wanted to do. I was SO busy with family stuff and wedding stuff and felt a little ripped off by the end of the trip. I was really looking forward to being able to have a trip together where we were both able to have a good time, just the two of us.
Maybe we’ll be able to take a grand vacation on our one year anniversary.
Post # 4
We went on a honeymoon and I am so glad we did. We weren’t going to because we didn’t really have money but his mom ended up paying for a sweet little getaway. Even if it’s not some grand honeymoon it’s nice to have some quiet time to enjoy after all the craziness of a wedding.
Post # 5
9/10 times I would say save your money, no matter the circumstances. I am really frugal. BUT you only get one honeymoon (knock on wood!), so I would at least go on a short get away and pinch pennies in other aspects of your life.
Post # 6
@redheadem: I agree!
We paid for 90% of our own wedding. Own a condo we are renting out and are renting our townhome. We took a familymoon to Mexico with a trip we “won” at a silent auction and took a honeymoon to Paris 6 months later. My DH is pretty frugal and wanted a staycation in Chicago. My mother who is also frugal convinced him that this will be a dollar well spent. Expensive? Yes. Worth it? YES!
You only get one really good excuse to take a long, expensive vacation once in your life. Everyone understands and accepts the honeymoon. Go for it! There is never going to be a good time to go, there will never be enough money. Take the time to go and enjoy each other.
Post # 7
We did honeymoon, we actually got married while on day 5 of the honeymoon.
If I were in this situation, I’d take a small mini-moon, like two nights’ away somewhere close with nice dinners. Then save the rest for a home. Does your parents’ offer change if you decide to not go on a big honeymoon? Maybe they’ll just give you that money for a house instead.
Post # 8
We had a strict budget for our honeymoon and stuck with it. We’re going to use our wedding gifts for the down payment.
Post # 9
you only get to honeymoon once so go for it! FI and I don’t travel often and normally we’d just save our money but this is our one excuse to go somewhere nice together and not feel bad about it! We’re planning to TTC soon after the wedding, so it might be the last vacation alone for a while! 😉
You could always do a mini moon!
Post # 10
We are having a destination wedding so we will be staying at the resort for 11 days while our guests are staying for 7 days. We will be able to enjoy a few days alone which is nice and we get to have our wedding and honeymoon all in one 🙂 We take a trip somewhere every year so we will probably take a bigger trip on our one year anniversary
Post # 11
We had a destination wedding with all of our family & friends and right after that took a week long honeymoon alone. It was one of the best decisions ever and I’m so glad we did it. I’d go on the honeymoon & start saving for the home after the wedding! 🙂
Post # 12
My DH and I were in the same boat, paid for half of our wedding, parent’s paid for the other half, really pinching pennies. While we do own our house we really couldn’t justify spending soo much money on an elaborate honeymoon when we’re working on remodeling. We compromised and went on a mini-moon to Lake Michigan, which was about 3-4 hours away, for 3 days/2 nights just to get away. Consider doing something like this instead. We still really enjoyed it and are hoping to do the same thing next year!
Post # 13
Thanks for all the feedback!! I had a feeling the “you only get one honeymoon” argument would win. I tend to feel that way too. I’ll know better later next year what our budget really looks like. Maybe we could fit the honeymoon into the wedding budget and us the gift money for the house fund! 🙂