Post # 1
If not, how long did you wait before the date was set? Did he set it or did you push him to do it? I got proposed to, but I feel like an idiot when people ask me when we will get married and all I can do is shrug.
Post # 3
We had a 2 year engagement, so we didn’t even have a definite date until about a year after we got engaged. We used the first 6 months to just enjoy it, without actually making concrete deciions, just slowly talking about it. We decided on the month, but that was it, until we started nailing down vendors
Post # 4
@Pixie79: We got engaged in July 2010 and didn’t decide on a date unitl Nov 2011. Our date is Aug 4, 2012. My standard response whe people asked me when we were getting married was “When we get around to it.”
Post # 5
It wasn’t immediate, but we had already talked about marriage and when we wanted to get married. We actually thought we’d get married on August 11th but our venue wasn’t available so we made it the 25th.
Post # 6
No, I find it so odd that people, even those who have been recently married, ask the date right after you announce your engagement. Hello people! I’ve got to find a venue first.
Post # 7
We had a 2+ year engagement and set a date within the first three months of our engagement. We decided on the date together, and luckily, because we had a longer engagement, we didn’t have to worry about venues being booked yet.
Post # 8
We didn’t pick a date immediately- but pretty close to getting engaged. We got engaged Oct. 26, 2011, and our wedding date is Sept. 29, 2012. We probably picked our date mid-November. Either way, I knew it was going to be a short-ish engagement, so I wanted to get the date picked asap!
Post # 9
We talked about our wedding date before DH proposed. So as soon as he proposed we were able to answer the “when’s the wedding” question.
Post # 10
we haven’t set an exact date yet, it all depends on university/tafe, and when we can afford to live together and get ourselves established 🙂
Post # 11
We would have if we could have, but we were going through immigration processes and had to wait until we had the final approval before setting a date. The day we got the approval though we did indeed set a date!
Post # 12
We picked our date about a week after we became engaged. Our engagement was exactly a year long, to the day. 🙂
Post # 13
We haven’t set a date, but like a day after we got engaged FI laid out this check list of things that have to happen before we get married (so presumably before we set a date, too) which is just that we both have jobs, we have at least 1 car, and we have the savings to pay for the actual shindig. And also that we wait till after his sister’s wedding.
He said just last night he’d like a fall wedding, October specifically, so it’ll probably be October 2013 if that’s the case. I’m so glad I have a FI who brings this stuff up on his own 🙂
Post # 14
We got engaged in October and originally I had wanted March (all 5 of our kids miraculously had Spring breaks at the same time!) but, my wonderful son had already booked and paid for a trip to FL then so that was out. Looking back I am glad! Our wedding would have been in TWO WEEKS! EEK! Not enough time (or money!) to get it all done by then.
I was more interested in firming up the date than the FI but not because he doesn’t want to do it, LOL but more that being a guy, he was TOTALLY clueless as to how much time and effort it takes to plan these things. He teases me that his job is to show up, and that the only “detail” for the wedding he is interested in is ME. (Awwwwh!)
Being a DW for most of our guests, I knew we needed STDs to go out several months ahead since our wedding will be tourist season here at that time. I also knew that a summer wedding would work out much better so we can have our wedding on the beach and reception at our pool. We knew it would be a short engagement, even considered eloping or just going to do it sometime. But, I knew that would not make us, nor our families and friends, happy at the end of the day.
Ultimately it’s whatever works for the two of YOU!
EDITED – I just realized I never answered the question! Engaged Oct 1, set the date a few weeks later, sometime in October.
Post # 15
We didn’t set an actual wedding date until just recently and we got engaged April 2011! We threw months around but weren’t sure when we’d have any money to pay for anything; then his parents offered to pay for the wedding so now we can save for after
Post # 16
Nope. We eventually set one about six months later, and now we’ve pushed it out a year from that… with no concrete date. Engagement was Dec 2010.