Did you include your parents names on invite? Did they expect it?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did you include your parents names on the invite?
    Yes : (79 votes)
    31 %
    No : (81 votes)
    32 %
    They cared strongly about this : (30 votes)
    12 %
    They were indifferent : (66 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think its a cultural thing.  My cousin did but my brother didn’t.  For my cousin she did it to honor her mother and late father (he’d died just the year before).

    Post # 4
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Our parents demanded it.  My FMIL also said that the women’s names go before the men’s (which I don’t like, but it wasn’t worth arguing) and because women go first her and her husband went before my FFIL and his wife.  AND all six parents came before either me or my FI’s name, since they are both contributing to the wedding. That annoyed me to, since FI and I are contributing the most LOL.

    Post # 5
    2322 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @engleman10513:  I will because they’re paying for most of it.  Seems like quite literally the least I could do, guess I’ll have to let them move in with me when they get old and senile…sigh.  😉

    Post # 6
    1275 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @engleman10513:  We will not be including parents’ names on ours. His mother is deceased, his dad will not be contributing financially and neither will my mom. My dad might help but we aren’t going to just put his name. We put their names in the engagement announcement in the newspaper. Maybe we’ll do the same for the wedding announcement and call it a day.

    I also don’t care if they get offended 😉 I have been pretty good at disregarding every decision they are trying to influence so far. Open your wallet or shut your trap! We paid for our own college and now are footing the bill for the wedding and I’ll be damned if we don’t do it our own way if it’s our money!

    …. Sorry for the rant. Can you tell I just got off the phone with my mother who is mad that we aren’t having a full service bar? Wine and beer and signature cocktails will be plenty unless someone else wants to pay the difference – we don’t even drink!

    Post # 8
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think my parents assumed they’d be on it. His aren’t from the US and weren’t aware of the tradition, either way. We WANTED to put them all on it, however. Our situation is a bit odd, since FI’s parents are paying for the reception we chose to put all four of their names at the top, before ours, instead of breaking it up with our names in the center and his parents below.

    Post # 9
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We didn’t put our parents on.  Not even a “together with their parents/families” line.  We paid for the whole thing.


    Honestly, we didn’t even ask any of our parents about it.

    Nobody has ever said anything.

    Post # 10
    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @engleman10513:  My parents are paying but his parents are paying for rehearsal dinner and wedding flowers and honeymoon, so it will be something like:

    Bride’s parents

    invite you to celebrate with us as 



    son of

    Groom’s parents

    are married

    Post # 11
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with jennmariee.  My parents paid for the wedding so their names were on the invite.  I figured it was the least I could do since they were paying for the whole thing! I always thought it depended on who was “hosting” IE – paying.  If DH and I had paid I probably would have just put our names on the invite.

    Post # 12
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Traditionally you put on the names of whoever is helping you pay but I’m not sure how many people actually do that anymore. We just wrote “Together with their parents” because we really didn’t want 6 names written above ours (all were helping pay). I don’t think MIL was too happy but it was just way too busy with all of the names on there.

    Post # 13
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Just got our invites and we didn’t put either of our parents names on them. Our parents don’t care / are indifferent to this.

    Post # 14
    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I didn’t. My parents are paying but his dad isn’t able to contribute anything. My parents didn’t care though as our invitations were pretty informal anyway. 

    Post # 15
    2 posts

    We put my moms name. She is paying for most of the wedding and it was important to her.

    Post # 16
    2358 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Both sets of parents contributed greatly so both sets of parents r in the invite. They did not expect it. Honestly though, I would’ve had their names on there regardless of whether or not they gave us any money. for us, it was a respect thing to add their names.

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