Did you invite gift bearers to your rehearsal?

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
42076 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 deleted- looked it up myself.


Post # 4
3777 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yes we did, but they were my Grandparents so they would have been there anyway

I would say yes, you should have them at the rehearsal so they know their cues.

ETA: During our rehearsal the priest asked for the gift bearers specifically and walked them through the motions. He also asked where they would be sitting.


Post # 5
14 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

We are not planning on it unless the priest tells us it’s absolutely necessary.  Our gift bearers are already very familiar with a Catholic ceremony, so they’ll know what to do.  We’re in the same situation; it adds too many people to an already oversize rehearsal dinner.

Post # 6
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we did for the purpose of inviting them to the rehearsal dinner as a thank you… i don’t think you have to as long as they are comfortable going ahead with it

Post # 7
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jg780806:  I have no idea who will be bringing up the gifts so no, they will not be invited.

Post # 8
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Tough spot. I’d say, don’t ask them to bring up gifts if you can’t invite them to the dinner, but it’s too late for that now.

Etiquette says they should be invited to rehearsal and dinner. Althought YOU think it’s an easy job, they may feel uneasy not have a rehearsal or practice.

With that said, expecting your in laws to pay for a 25 person  dinner is a lot.

My advice? Take a step back. Can your in laws afford it? Do they have financial difficulty? Did they verbally give you a person limit? Did you already give them a head count?

Perhaps, your fiance, can call his parents and ask them if they wouldn’t mind having 5 more people to the dinner–or even offer to pay for them ( they will probably refuse you paying, but its  a nice gesture)


I had about 20 people at my dinner. 



Post # 9
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@littlemisst08:  Same here. Our MOH and best man brought up our gifts so they were invited but would have been there anyway. I would say if they are part of the ceremony they should be at rehearsal and be invited to dinner. 

Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

The coordinator at the parish we are getting married at said we have to have gift bearers at the rehearsal or they cannot participate in our ceremony. Anyways, I think we will opt for someone already in the wedding party to bring up the gifts. They actually suggested we do it. 

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