Did you keep you single friends when you got married?

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Did you keep you single friends when you got married?
    You bet! The marriage didn't affect the friendships the least. : (46 votes)
    90 %
    I distanced myself in favor of other couples. : (2 votes)
    4 %
    I dropped them entirely in favor of other couples. : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t understand these threads about giving up friends after marriage.

    Is this something people really do?

    Post # 3
    Member
    1032 posts
    Bumble bee

    I get them all eharmony accounts as their bridesmaid gifts. Id hate not to be friends with them anymore. Hopefully they couple up before my honeymoon is over. 

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  EDubbs.
    Post # 4
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t understand this. If you change that much after you’re married then you weren’t a genuine friend to begin with or vice versa if they change. I could see it happening bc some bees say they don’t have time after they get married. I call BS on that but oh well for them. Every marriage doesn’t last forever. 

    I have all my friends now that I did before regardless if they are single.

    Post # 5
    Member
    41847 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

     

    musicalsteve82:  Steve- you have hammered this topic into submission already. If your fiancee is still not ok with it, you have a choice to make- her or your friend.

    Post # 6
    Member
    116 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    this is a thing? why would you change your friends after marrriage ? if u have to drop ur whole life because of marriage then u need help, sorry. yes the dynamics might differ as u are newly married but totally dropping ur friends? then u were never a real friend to begin with

    Post # 8
    Member
    537 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    “Look, I know we’ve been friends for 10 years, but now that I’m married and you’re not, we just can’t hang out anymore because marriage.”

    What?

    Post # 9
    Member
    1753 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    musicalsteve82:  If you really want advice about this topic you will need to provide us with more details… who is this friend that your fiancee has a problem with and why?

    Putting endless polls on this board is incredibly annoying and unhelpful .. this must be like your 8th post about the same topic.

    Post # 10
    Member
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    musicalsteve82: Seriously, Steve, Jesus… If you make one more post about this crap, half this community is going to scream. Pick your wife or pick your friend, but for the love of christ, stop asking people here about it.

    julies1949: x1000

    Post # 11
    Member
    8669 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    You seem really determined to lose your friends because you’re [getting] married. Either drop them or don’t and be done with it.

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    Post # 12
    Member
    2791 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    Why are all the poll options “yes”? No I don’t plan on ditching my single friends. Sure, we do hang out with 1 couple (not married) more than some of the single friends but that’s mostly because they live the closest to us. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

    The only time I’d ditch a friend post marriage is if they were not supportive of my marriage, or trying to hook up with my spouse or me. Otherwise, of course they’re still my friend. If your wife is demanding you drop any friends that the above situations don’t apply to…she has issues and you guys need some counseling. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    987 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    musicalsteve82:  Steve, they say the definition of insanity is doing the exact same thing over again and expecting a different outcome.

    If I were you, I would stop posting on Weddingbee and start googling a local Psychiatrist…..

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