Post # 1
that you aren’t supposed to say “congratulations” to a bride? I just learned this today…
Funny thing I was at hallmark the other day picking up something for the wedding and the salesperson said “congratulations, or ooops, I should say….best wishes!” I said thank you but found it odd that she corrected herself but didn’t give it much thought.
Then today, i went with my mom to macy’s and the sales person there did the same thing! She corrected herself and it was too weird so I was like okay lady, what is up with this best wishes thing? She said that ettiquite says saying “congrats” to a bride implies she’s won the groom when actually it’s the othe way around…you are only supposed to say congrats to the groom and best wishes to the bride.
I had no idea. I’ve been saying congrats to other brides this time and maybe I just didn’t get the memo? Or maybe this is for those who are sticklers for ettiquite.
Anyways…just found it curious is all.
Post # 3
Hahaha I should tell my Fiance this 🙂 he won a prize with me 😉
Haha how funny – I obviously didn’t get the memo either and I am fairly sure heaps of people said congrats to me 🙂
Post # 4
Wow I never knew this! thats quite interesting.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard this but it sounds incredibly outdated. Women haven’t been a ‘prize’ for decades.
Post # 6
I’ve known this for ever — or since I was a schoolchild, which is practically for ever. But recent actuarial research supports the practice: men who are married have longer life expectancies than men who are unmarried; women who are married have shorter life expectancies than women who are unmarried. Obviously it is the male who gains overall benefit from marriage, and should therefore be congratulated … and the woman who needs our best wishes.
Post # 7
I actually did know about that rule, but I often break it and say congrats anyway. It just sounds better in my opinion.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
That is curious, I say congratulations to brides ALL the time.
Post # 9
@aspasia475: I’ve read that too! Sometimes I think about forwarding those studies to my Fiance to let him know that he is getting the better end of the deal 😉
I’ve heard of the “Best Wishes” vs “Congratulatuons” debate as well, but I find most traditional etiquette a bit silly, anyway. Everyone, including my mother, has said “congratulations” to me.
Post # 10
never heard that…sounds really outdated
Post # 11
@fresitachulita: Interesting! I never knew that, thanks for sharing! Everyone said congrats to me and I didn’t think anything of it, so I guess it was ok haha.
Post # 12
I did not know this. Learn something new everyday!
Post # 13
I feel like I’ve heard that before. I liked being congratulated though! It’s better than the lady who said “Thank god” when I told her I was engaged!
Post # 14
ha, that sounds so sexist!
Post # 15
@CocoaBean: hahaha!! My Dad said that to me 🙂
Post # 16
Yes, I knew that, and yes, it is outdated. I still follow that tired piece of etiquette to an extent. I’ll say best wishes to a bride rather than congratulations. In cards or written correspondence to the couple, I write both congratulations and best wishes.