Post # 1
I just started shopping for my dress a month or so ago, and already feel a bit overwhelmed.
I have been to about 4 stores so far, and have a bunch of ‘prospects’. It seems like it will be harder to pick something than I thought! I pretty much end up liking most of the dresses I try on! Is this normal?
Going in, I thought I wanted a certain type of dress (sleeves, bling, etc), but now I am all over the map. Turns out the mermaid style looks amazing, and I am more inclined towards the organza type of material (soooo softttt!) because the bling-y tops aren’t comfortable when I touch them. When I picture myself at the wedding I picture something other than the stuff I am ending up liking!
I am getting a bit worried because I dont feel tear-jerkingly passionate about any of the dresses yet. I have only one more big bridal store in my city left to visit. And maybe one or two small stores. Eeeek..
Is this normal? Will I ever find the dress thats everything I’ve ever wanted? Mind you, I am not even sure I know what it is exactly that I want..
Post # 3
@sabz3003: Have you been taking pictures of the dresses your trying on? I would go through them and pick the one you liked best from each store and then see what they all have in common.
Post # 4
I THOUGHT I knew what I wanted.
lace a-line dress with sleeves or an illusion neckline
a ballgown that is strapless with no lace at all and some feathers at the top
I went to over 10 shops. 2 of the shops I went to more than once. I tried on probably 100 dresses. I was a mess.
Post # 5
If I were you, I would start with what you DON’T want. That will rule a lot out. Think about your venue and how you picture your day. You want a dress that “matches” your theme and feeling of your wedding. Don’t neccessarily hold out for tears. Not everybody cries. I didn’t.
I think the best trick is: in the dress you love, close your eyes, picture yourself at the end of the aisle, walking down to meet your husband. Open your eyes. Look in the mirror. If it’s the dress, you’ll know.
Post # 6
@sabz3003: I was straight with the bridal salon, I said to them I am tall, and I could lose a few. So what I want from a dress is to look not so much like I could lose a few and maybe not so incredibly tall. I described my body type and asked her to pull flattering gowns to suit that.
First dress and the first salon (having emailed before with my body type specs) was perfect. Sales people in salons have seen it ALL, they KNOW what’s best for what body type.
I adore my dress.
Post # 7
Nope, I had no idea what I wanted! I tried on every shape and style. At one point I thought I wanted a mermaid dress, out there were so many beautiful ball gowns I couldn’t resist. I bought a dress, had dress regret, and then bought another one that I LOVE!!!! I only figured out what I loved after joining wedding bee! Look through the gorgeous gowns on here and in magazines before making a decision! I still see other gowns that I’m like woah that’s so beautiful! How did I miss trying that one on?! I’m so indesicive, haha! I really do love the one I ended up with though. 🙂
Post # 8
I knew what I DIDN’T want and what I would like. I knew I didn’t want heavy satin, lace, heavy bling, illusion neckline, straps, halter, mermaid, sheath, too heavy, too bulky, too much of everything, something I couldn’t walk or sit in, etc. I really wanted organza or tulle, something I could walk in, with just an extra bit of jazz.
I ended up with a organza A-line dress, with an overlay, some beading, and a tiny bit of jazz. It took a lot of work, a lot of stores, and a TON of dresses to finally find “The Dress”. I think I tried on over 100 dresses in the search. I honestly did not have a “image” in mind in regards to my dress, but I knew what I did not want, and I knew what I mostly wanted.
Post # 9
Before I went dress shopping, I knew I wanted a pure white a-line dress with straps. What did I end up loving? Strapless fit-and-flare dresses in champagne lace/tulle. Go figure 🙂
Don’t hold out for tears – not everyone has that teary-eyed moment. I didn’t, but I love my dress.
I think it’s just a matter of finding a dress that suits your personal vision – that matches the look and feel you want for your wedding overall. Some dresses just won’t work with certain venues, themes, etc. So that’s one way to narrow down the field.
Post # 10
It took me more than a month to find the dress. I want sure what I want. But I knew I dont like ball gown, no silk, no organza.
Post # 11
I wanted a strapless mermaid in silver or ice blue with just a touch of bling. This is what I got:
Post # 12
I had very specific requirements for what I wanted in a dress. Lace, fit-and-flare or slim A-line, and absolutely no strapless! I like everything I tried on. My mom had me try on a tulle ballgown just for something different, and I hated it. I would have been happy with any of the dresses I tried on (except the ballgown of course). Can only pick one though and I love my dress.
Post # 13
@sabz3003: What to consider when picking out a dress: A list made by me!
When you find it hard to choose a dress because you look SO fabulous in all of them then go with these guidlines:
1) Does it match your theme or color scheme? Will it compliment the wedding?
2) Does the material bother you in any way or are you comfortable in it?
3) Is the venue outside? Will the dress make you sweat?
4) Does the dress feel heavy? Will you be weighed down at the end of the night?
5) Is it appropriate? Do you have kids coming? If so are you still okay with cleavage?
6) Can you easily find a bra for the dress?
7) Does it fit your budget?
8) Does it NEED to have something added? If the dress NEEDs a seperate purchase to make it look complete then maybe go with something that is perfect as is.
9) Is it a fashion statement for now or forever? Will it look dorky later in life?
10) Does it make you feel like a bride? No need for the tears but if it doesn’t make you feel beautiful or like a bride then move on!
tips: wear you hair the way you will for wedding: up or down because the dresses may look wrong with a different hairstyle than what you bought it in.
put on a veil or head piece! If you discover that you like it more than the last couple then add a head piece to complete the look (it might just help you feel like a bride)
Post # 14
I entered the store wanting a lace A-line and walked out with a satin fit-and-flare.
Sometimes the right dress is one that you least expected.
Post # 15
@sabz3003: I wanted a strapless ballgown with lots of tulle and ended up with a lace gown with straps. I loved everything and was all over the place with mermaids and other styles and didn’t hate anything! After making a list of things I was able to get through it all and found my perfect dress! It has’t been altered yet but I love it a lot and was so glad to have gotten it!
Dresses I tried in first dress hunt:
Dress I bought on my third dress hunt:
Post # 16
I had no idea what I wanted either! Actually that’s a lie, I knew that I didn’t want a Satin dress. At the first bridal store I tried pretty much every style on from lace to tulle ballgown to mermaid. Then every kind of neckline and sleeve option. The consultant made me pick one favorite, and I settled on a tulle ballgown even though their were a few I loved. The second store I tried on a whole bunch more styles, and once again my favorite was a tulle ballgown. Some great options at this point.
At the third store I right away told the consultant I was looking for a tulle ballgown because I loved that style. She told me she had just the dress, and turns out she did. I actually wasn’t sure about it at first so I definately didn’t have any tear jerking moments, but it really grew on me and so a two weeks later I went back and bought it! So I guess don’t rush into any decisions, take your time, try lots of things on, if you can take pictures, and then spend some time looking at those pictures a day or two later. Sometimes those photos can really change your mind!
Model pic of Essence of Australia gown I am wearing: