Post # 1
While my FI and I are not actively trying to conceive right now, we have had many talks that concern my ability to conceive. I have an irregular cycle among other issues, as well as a wonky family history.
My question is – did you know before you started TTC that you would have issues? Or, did any of you expect to have issues, and didn’t?
Post # 3
I didn’t expect any problems and we have had no luck after 2 years of trying. My sister gets pregnant without even trying. Honestly, I knew that women had troubles conceiving but I had no idea how common it was. Before I came here I thought I was alone in the world.
Post # 4
@Birdee106: aww 🙁 Best of luck and baby dust your way!!
Post # 5
I expected to have issues, and I did. If I could go back in time, I would have talked to my doctor about my concerns on the front end, so that maybe I wouldn’t have had to try unsuccessfully for a year before getting help.
I think if you have legitimate concerns, you should express them and maybe you’ll get some tests under your belt before the standard one year waiting window.
Post # 6
I honestly, naively, thought I would get pregnant on the first try. I don’t know yet if we will have problems (only cycle #3), but it was a shocker that I (I’m stating I, because DH is really just obliging me with BD, but not making the dietery and lifestlyle changes I’ve made) have to put in so much effort.
Post # 7
I thought it would take me a year, but I got pregnant on our third cycle trying.
Post # 8
My cycles have always been all over the place so I definetly suspected a bit of trouble but I didn’t want to get it checked out earlier because I guess I was afraid of what i would hear, well now I’m with FI and we are ttc and I’ve recently been diagnosed with pcos so I suggest if you think you may have trouble to talk to a doctor now so that when you’re ready to ttc the doctors already have all your info there to start helping you if you do have trouble 🙂
Post # 9
I’ve always had irregular cycles anywhere from 5-8 weeks, usually around 6 weeks. I’d told my doctor this and she said it wasn’t a big concern, so I didn’t worry and thought it was great not to have a period that often. Well, since coming off BC in September, my cycles have been 90 something dats, 42 days, and I’m on day 39 and still waiting on an O, so at least 55 days. I had no idea I’d be this screwed up for this long after BC… had I know, I probably would have never taken BC. I was only on it for 2 years.
Post # 10
@stillme: If you don’t mind me asking, and you don’t mind sharing, what made you think you would have issues?
I currently have a very wonky cycle, ovary pain during ovulation and at least 50% of the time during intimacy, as well as my mom has PCOS, grandmother had Endo, and my paternal aunt has been trying 10 yrs with no luck.
Post # 11
I didn’t have issues TTC this time but to be honest, I had no idea how hard it is in general. I think the media (and perhaps other people) make it seem like it’s super easy. I know it’s totally naive of me but in some ways, I really thought it was as easy as one try (e.g. one broken condom, one imperfect round of BCP). I foolishly thought that it is something that one could “schedule”, like we are planning to have a baby in x year. If we start now, we’ll have one by this month.
It wasn’t until we were ready to TTC and we were doing the research and consulting with medical professionals that we really learned that it’s not that easy. It also seemed like recently, it’s more common for people to come out of the woodwork about MC. However, I feel like people online are much more open about their experiences than people I know in person.
Post # 12
@StevieJo: Thanks for sharing. That’s probably a good idea. I’ve brought it up with my doctor before, but the last time I went in for severe cramping and bleeding for 14+ days, they just told me it was probably cysts and sent me for an US, which of course by the time I got it scheduled, everything was fine again. But, no diagnosis of anything. Maybe now that I(‘ll be) married (in a few months) they’ll take me more seriously. I even told them about my family history of problems.
Perhaps it’s time for a new doctor…
Post # 13
Like lilbluebird, i thought it would be simple…that we would decide we wanted to get pregnant a certain month and we would. Had I known that getting pregnant is not THAT easy, I wouldnt have put so much effort into trying NOT to get knocked up!! I totally didn’t expect it to be so hard!
I came off BCP in May 2012 and my cycles have been crazy… 55 days, 72 days, 40 days…all over the place. I had irregular cycles before going on the pill and didn’t think it was a big issue, but it seems like it can be an indicator of not ovulating each cycle and possibly other fertility issues. We’ve been actively trying since August 2012. We were able to get pregnant in December but miscarried in January. So we’re still trying!
Post # 14
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@MargaritaVille: I definitely thought I would have problems getting pregnant. My mom had two miscarriages before me and tried for 5 years before having a successful pregnancy. But I got pregnant 6 months of getting off the pill and am now 10 weeks pregnant.
Post # 15
The first time was not planned (18 years old) but this time honestly I thought we would have trouble. I have known people who have their first kid right away without problems then their second kid takes 4+ years to conceive. Even my mom told me to be patient it will be a while (she thought 6+ months) before we would get pregnant with our second. It took us till the 2nd cycle.
Post # 16
@MargaritaVille: My symptoms were just that I always had irregular cycles. Sometimes my period would come every 28 days, and sometimes it’d be months (I would induce after 3 months per doctor’s orders). That was it. No family history of infertility, and I don’t have any other symptoms of PCOS, but I figured that with such an irregular cycle, something had to be up.
Sure enough, after trying for a year with no luck, I went through all the tests and was diagnosed with PCOS. I wish I could have just had this diagnosis earlier and started fertility treatment sooner. I told my doctor about my irregular cycles and my concern in relation to TTC, but because I framed it as a fertility issue, insurance would not cover any testing until I’d breen trying for a year. If I had framed it as a general health concern with no mention of TTC, insurance would have covered the tests. I wish I had known this before I’d opened my mouth and mentioned TTC!
Anyway, good luck to you. I hope this helps!!