Post # 1
SO and I have plans to get engaged soon. In 8 months, it’ll be our 10 year anniversary and I’d like him to propose on our 10 year anniversary (the 4th of July).
Is it strange to know the day you’all get engaged? Btw, he is letting me design the ring and is having it custom made, so I’ll know what the ring looks like and the day he is proposing. I would just really love to get engaged on that day, even though it wouldn’t be a surprise…What do you think?
Post # 3
I had NO clue FI was even thinking of proposing, after 8 years. I am glad it happened that way though.
Post # 4
There are no rules! Do what feels right to you and your SO.
Do you have any pics of what your ring will look like?
Post # 5
It is up to you and your SO to decide whether you are both okay with the date not being a surprise. For me – I wouldn’t want to know the exact day, and I know it is important to my SO to make it a surprise when it does happen. He is also picking out the ring himself, it’s just what works for us! But if your SO is fine with doing it on a day that you choose, maybe he could keep HOW he is going to do it a surprise… that way you can still have giddy anticipation feelings all day wondering exactly when it will happen!
Post # 6
Well I picked out the ring I wanted so I knew we were close. I figured several months would pass before I got a proposal. But what made it such a surprise is that DH went and both bought the ring AND proposed THE VERY NEXT DAY.
Just bec someone picks the ring out doesn’t mean theres no surprise left 🙂
Post # 7
I picked out my ring (but it wasn’t bought that day), so I was glad that I didn’t know the exact day so I had some surprise left.
Post # 8
@shortie1848: This will take a lot of imagination on your part, but picture graduating side stones in milgrain bezel setting with a 4 prong set center stone. The center stone will be set in white gold and the accents will be set in 14 k yellow gold, my fave color gold.
Post # 9
Nope, not a clue! In fact, as we got in the elevator on our way home the night of the proposal, I was jokingly bitching about how he hasn’t proposed yet, and he was teasing me about all of his manly-proposal-powers.
Five minutes later, we were at home and he proposed, haha.
Generally, I’m a bit of a control freak, but I’m so glad that the proposal date was a total surprise. It overwhelmed me with emotion, even though I knew we had the ring (and I had been practice-wearing it for a good while).
Post # 10
@IheartUFC: I am not yet engaged, but my SO already told me he wants to propose while we are on vacation for Spring. I will know as soon as we get in the car that he will be driving me off to the proposal site, which I somewhat know too (a beach) I told him the rest better be a surprise.
He’s going out of his way to make the proposal lovely, so I don’t worry about knowing when it will happen. I’m sure it will still be shocking/surprising either way.
Post # 11
FI and I chose my ring together, so I knew that a proposal was coming. I didn’t know when it would be and was actually pretty irritated because I felt that he had no reason to wait. He was stashing my ring on top of his refrigerator for crying out loud. Sometimes he would say “oh in the next six months” or “the more you ask, the longer I’m waiting.” It turns out he was just trying to throw me off and irritate me. He proposed on a Friday night. That morning he had apparently called my parents and asked if they wanted to be there. They were headed to their beach house and told him to carry on with his plans. My mom called me up sounding weird and said, “make sure your nails are done. Just do it! Kbye!”
Post # 12
@IheartUFC: I knew FI was going to propose while we were in New York in Central Park. He kept saying all kinds of things that gave it away, even though he thought he was being sneaky.
It was still exciting and emotional because I didn’t know exactly how he would do it. I think you should let him plan what he wants and let there be some element of surprise.
Post # 13
@IheartUFC: I can relate completely! SO and I began our relationship in 9th grade and we are now finishing up our degrees! I was at a wedding one time and a complete stranger asked me how long we had been together. At that time, I told her 7 years. And she said ‘And you’re NOT engaged yet?! I’d dump his ass!’ I thought that was sooo RUDE! My SO and I had definite plans to eventually get married but were not in any specific stage. He overheard her comment and later asked me when he thought was a good time to become officially engaged. I said ‘Hm.. Well.. By our 10-year anniversary would be nice. We’ll be done with school & have been working awhile.’ We’re natural planners so it doesn’t bother me that it won’t be a complete shock. I can’t stand being out of the loop, lol. It also gives us something we BOTH can look forward to instead of 1 person knowing, and worrying if the other person will say yes or not.
I have an idea of my ring as well. He was so lost and had no idea where to start so we would browse mall shops to get a feel of what I liked. Now, I’m getting antsy, just thinking about it!
We’ve known for a while that this was coming, and even though it won’t be a total surprise, I have a feeling that when he asks me, I’ll be overflowing with tears and joy and it won’t even matter that I knew! Haha!