Post # 1
Browsing through the boards I kept seeing posts about knowing your SO went ring shopping, or knowing the proposal was coming so I was just wondering how many of you knew the proposal was coming, and did you want to know?
I know for me, my requirement was that I wanted to have absolutely no idea when he was going to propose. I wanted it to be a complete surprise and it was!
Post # 3
I definitely wanted it to be surprise, but I also knew I didn’t want a “traditional” ring, so I was kind of on the fence about whether it was better to know and help pick the ring, or be surprised and possibly not like the ring.
I needn’t have worried. FI knows how picky I am about my jewelry, so he just popped the question without a ring (and totally out of the blue) as we were going for a walk one evening. It was perfect, and I got to design my dream ring!
ETA: FI and I knew pretty much from our first date that we were a match made in heaven, so that’s why I was having the ring/surprise debate in my head in the first place. I knew he would propose someday, so I guess in that respect I wasn’t surprised.
Post # 4
I had no clue whatsoever. I didn’t know that he had been ring shopping or anything! I wasn’t expecting a proposal for at least another 6-12 months.
Post # 5
I think most people know a proposal is coming. They might not know the exact date or have helped picked out the ring, but I think most couples seriously discuss marriage, and when they would like to get married.
Post # 6
It depends on how you define “Did you know the proposal was coming?”
Did DH and I discuss getting engaged and the fact that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and all of the big questions (money, kids, timing, etc) that go along with that? Yes – and honestly, I think people who get engaged without doing this are a little crazy.
Did I know that DH was planning to propose to me within the next 6-8 months and was at least looking at rings? Yes – as I said, we discussed timing of when we wanted to be engaged/married so this went along with the territory. He’d also gotten one of my friends to ask me some questions about what I liked in rings (my DH is soo sneaky …) although he refused to go to a jewelery store with me (he wanted to pick it out himself – and he did fabulous!).
Did I have any idea that DH was going to propose the weekend he did? No! DH had told me that we’d likely get engaged around Feb. 2010 so when he proposed in Sept. 2009, I completely wasn’t expecting it (he then told me that he gave me the Feb date on purpose to make me not expect it when it really was coming).
So I was not surprised in the least that DH was going to propose to me in the semi-near future but I was surprised when it happened. I didn’t know the exact timing of when it was coming.
Post # 7
I don’t think any of your options apply to me. I didn’t help pick out or design the ring, and no one let it slip (well, technically you could say my dad let it slip, but that’s a bit complicated). I knew it was going to happen while we were on our trip to the East coast, but it was a gut instinct, not a founded knowledge and I had no expectations of the ring (wasn’t sure if he would give me one or if we’d pick one out when we got back).
Post # 8
I didnt know what the ring looked like…i didnt even know he was looking/buying one but i ruined the surprise for myself. My parents were out of town and i needed to ask my mom if i needed to go over and let the dogs out or if my brothers were home. my phone was dead so i picked up FIs to text my mom…well there were several texts back and forth between them, i threw the phone down *swear on my life i didnt read them* but i just had a feeling…what else would he be talking to my mom about? well that following Wednesday he emailed me at work saying pack your bags, i booked a room in charleston for the weekend. That confirmed it for me. but prior to that i had no idea..i wasnt expecting engagement until at least around the holidays this year.
Post # 9
I think you should add more options. I knew it was coming about 20 minutes before it came. He kept trying to find a horse for a horse drawn carriage through the city and when I said, let’s not worry about it, he insisted. It is totally not in his nature to be persistent about things once they become a hassle, so I put two and two together. And BAM, got into the carriage ride, he started cute romantic ramblings about how far we’ve come, and then got down on both knees and yelled out WILL YOU MARRY ME. Totally knew it was coming lol. It wasn’t quite how I imagined it in my mind, but I’ve learned that few things ever are. Had no idea what the ring looked like though. He picked it out all himself, but I was more than pleased.
Post # 10
@Mrs.KMM: Basically yours to a tee!!!
Post # 11
I knew it was coming. I sent him a link to the setting I wanted and also told him what type of center stone, while indicating that I wanted the best quality center stone. Signature ideal cut, etc etc etc
He proposed the day he got the ring.
Post # 12
Well, none of the options really applied to me, because I was (accidentally) kind of sneaky in how I figured my proposal out…
A long time ago when I was in college and e-mail was the only way I could get in touch with him, FI was having trouble receiving links I would send to him. So instead of having to waste precious cell minutes back and forth with “did you get it yet” “no” “okay, I’ll send it again,” FI just gave me his password so I could check myself and avoid the hassle. Like I said, this was probably 4-5 years ago.
We upgraded our phone plans to unlimited about a year later, and left all the e-mailing in the past 🙂 Well about 2 years ago from tonight, actually, I sent him one of those cheesy e-Holiday cards and I wanted to be sure he got it right when he got home from work, so I thought I’d see if his old password worked – and voila! – there was an e-mail from a jeweler staring right back at me. And the subject line had the words “engagement ring” in it.
I flipped out!! It had a picture of the ring, everything (it was to confirm that it had been sized correctly and made to FI’s specifications) I didn’t know what to do lol. I Just knew I was going to get one of those Christmas proposals, with the snow and the celebration etc etc
CHristmas came, nothing. New Year’s Eve, nothing. January came and went, nothing. I was having a breakdown because I knew, after 5 years of dating, I must have done something horribly wrong to make him not want to propose! FInally, on Valentine’s Day he got down on bended knee and I said yes. But of course, I will NEVER let him know I found out! I’d feel so bad because he told me afterwards, that he knew I had always expected a Christmas proposal and he wanted it to be a big surprise! :-/
Post # 13
I was completely shocked – I knew I wanted to marry him, but expected it would have been at least 6 months or so later!
Post # 14
I voted no, but FI and I did talk about the future of our relationship when we were considering moving in together. I guess I knew we were going to get married, I just didn’t know when he was actually going to ask and with what ring or how. 🙂 I was definitely surprised he went out on his own, after he did ask what style I liked, and found a gorgeous ring. I really thought he would have included me in the ring purchasing process.
Post # 15
I picked out the ring, but the purposal was a complete surprise 2 or 3 months later! Of course he teased me multiple times before that, so when he actually got on one knee I laughed at him.
Post # 16
I found out I was pregnant and I knew how he felt about us. It wasn’t a surprise!
It would’ve happened eventually … the pregnancy made it happen sooner. And, before anyone thinks I trapped him, I got pregnant when I was almost 19 due to failed birth control. Definitely not a trap!