Post # 1
I’m just curious to see how many of you lived together before getting married? My FI and I have been together for 3 years and lived together for the last 2 years. I have never thought anything about it, I think it’s fine. I recently felt kinda dumped on by a friend who is very Christian and made some comments about living together before marriage that made me feel bad. I guess I’m just trying to reassure myself that we’re not the only ones that lived together before marriage 🙂
Post # 2
Yup. We moved in very early in our relationship. We began dating in March of 2012, I was moved in completely by June. We were later married in December of the same year.
Truthfully, I’d never marry someone I didn’t live with. I don’t buy cars without driving them, I don’t buy cakes without tasting them, I don’t buy a house without inspecting it. I wanted to know every one of his quirks, habits and annoyances before I signed up for a lifetime.<br /><br />ETA: I’d tell your friend to piss into the wind. It’s not very Christianly of her to judge, as it’s not her place. Remind her that only Jesus can judge you. [To note, I am an Atheist so I don’t believe anyone should be judging anyone because your life doesn’t impact hers. But if she’s going to get high and mighty on her, I’d remind her that her own faith doesn’t look kindly upon her judging.]
Post # 3
My FI and I live together, have for coming up on 2 years. i have a lot of religious friends who I know don’t approve, but i am happy with our choice. You have to do what is right for you and your life, not what everyone else says is right. So don’t feel bad, you aren’t alone!
Post # 4
I have a very Christian friend who made comments about my FI and I about living together before marriage, but honestly, I couldn’t care less what her opinion was. My FI and I made the decision that was right for both of us by purchasing a house together. After my religious friend made comments to me about our decision I sent her this photo. Don’t let your friend get to you, it’s really not worth stressing about. You are not alone :)<br />
Post # 5
pinkrose23: Is your friend having premarital sex (anal or otherwise)? Or wearing poly-cotton clothing blends? Just curious.
The majority of American couples live together before marriage, so you’re certainly not alone. Personally I think it is insane to marry someone without living together first. Do what works for you.
Post # 6
Yes, i moved in with my SO maybe a month and a half after dating! Been together for 8 years now 🙂
Post # 7
My husband and I lived together before marriage, for years. Don’t let your friend make you feel bad. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to relationships.
Post # 8
Try not to get offended, some people with religious convictions forget that not everyone runs on the same moral compass as they do, you cant feel critical of yourself because you don’t follow a practice you don’t believe in.
The whole not-living-together-virgins-until-marriage thing is pretty old fashion these days.
Post # 9
pinkrose23: Met in October 2013, moved in April 2014, engaged June 2014, will be Married July 2015. So yes, we did live together before we will be married. Thats what we wanted for the both of us, and we’re very happy we did it this way. Some people will always have things to say, its up to you whether you want to let it affect you or not.
You gots to do you girl 😉
Post # 11
We moved into our house…….but after we were already engaged.
He proposed on NYE this year, he put an offer on our dream home in january, closed beginning of february and moved in together end of february.
his family is old school and most of them don’t agree on the living together thing. I don’t give a damn. They don’t have to live with us if they don’t want to.
Post # 12
i do live with my fiance. i honestly don’t have anyone in my circle who doesn’t live with their long time SO. i feel like this is more of a religious and cultural thing. chances are, if you come from a liberal background it won’t really matter. don’t let your friend bring you down!
Post # 13
Yes, my fiancé and I live together. We just got engaged but have lived together for over a year. I love coming home to him!
Post # 14
pinkrose23: I love telling this story!
I met FI on a Saturday (I use the term met loosely, since I’ve known one of his sisters since I was a kid, but I moved away and came back and reconnected with everyone), and went to his house for dinner on Monday. Thursday he took me out to dinner, and Friday I moved in. 3 years later we had my son. 5 years later we got engaged. We’ll have been together 6 years when we get married next year.
I have no shame in my life. My family is happy, my dd13 absolutely loves and respects F and my kids have a great lifeI. We stand on our own and never fight.
I wouldn’t even entertain taking the judgmental comments seriously. IMO, when someone has something negative to say, they’re usually lacking in their own life.
Post # 15
We did not live together and I knew I’d be in the minority, but wow! 85%!