Did you loose your deposit?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’ll likely lose the deposit. Most vendors won’t refund the deposit unless they book another event that same day. Even then, if they are unscrupulous, they might lie and tell you they haven’t booked another wedding that date. 

Ten years ago I called off my wedding at a hotel in San Diego. The photographer refused to refund our money, even though it was 9 months before the wedding. We ended up eating that cost. However, our venue said that they would refund the deposit if they were able to rebook the venue for that date. A month before the cancelled wedding date, we called and asked about getting our deposit back and they insisted they weren’t able to book the date. The next day, I had my sister stop by and inquire about availability for our date–and they told her the date had been booked for months. Imagine the look on their face when I walked in and said “Then you won’t mind refunding my deposit, would you?”  Needless to say, they refunded our money, but they weren’t happy about it. 

Post # 4
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I switched photographers after booking a guy. He had a great deal, but the more wedding photos I looked at, his just weren’t up to par. And another bee actually replied on an old thread of mine about this guy saying he did a poor job at her wedding. So I figured we’d lose the deposit, but actually ended up being able to transfer it towards a photobooth only as he offers those as well. 

Post # 5
22 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I lost $1000 on another venue. We changed our minds. No paperwork was signed but we still lost it.. Small towns. 🙁 It sucks. Was gonna purse it with a lawyer but we live out of state so it’s almost more trouble than it’s worth… What a bitch ha

Post # 6
6073 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mikachii:  Are you emailing or actually calling up this vendor?


We cancelled our entire wedding 4 months before the big day.  We were out $300 in cabin rentals (we rented 6 cabins with a $50 non refundable fee). 


We put $300 down on a photographer, but we used her for engagements (actually we were already married by then) and then went with a DW photographer for the wedding (we got married in Yoho National Park).


So all in all we were out $300 and it was a risk we took going into it.

Post # 11
1422 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mikachii:  Since you’ve already done an engagement, could you maybe use the deoposit for a post wedding ttd session or something like that. I did one in the mountains with a pro photog (with an alternate dress, I was to attached to mine) and then one in the beach with my sister and had a ton of fun!

Post # 13
1422 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@mikachii:  I know, I got a really affordable dress, and I know I won’t wear it again. But I couldn’t ruin it!

I got lucky and found a dress at a thrift store to do by TTD in. 

Our Rock Climbing TTD

Our Ocean TTD – Not as nice, because my sister has a nicer, but not professional camera. And we had some fluke issues with getting the settings right. I think I’ll ask her to do some more next time we are home together. But, it was still a blast. I love underwater, I would definitely look into that!

My dress which I couldn’t trash but did take out on the (dry!) rocks and sand – One thing that I didn’t think about was how HEAVY even my little tulle dress got when I got in the water. And how much sand got caught in it. For a bit I thought that I might be able to do a ttd with my dress if I could get it really cleaned afterwards, but I don’t kow if it would be possible to walk, or to ever get all the sand out in a dress like mine.


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