- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
I am really frustrated with some of my friends. This has been going on since my SO and I got engaged, and has now completely blown up now that we are married.
My two best friends, one of which was supposed to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, both didn’t care for my SO. It’s not as if I married a lazy, drug-addicted douche who treats me like dirt (btw, both of them have men like this in their life CURRENTLY).
Dan is great. He is incredibly sweet. I have a zillion and a half allergies (Red dye, and Iodine–which means food and laundry are a pain in the butt with me), and he has been putting up with these since about 2-3 weeks into our relationship, which really impressed me. After about 2-3 weeks into our relationship, he changed his laundry detergent and washed EVERYTHING…even the curtains, so I wouldn’t have to take benadryl when I slept over. He never forgets Valentine’s Day, Birthdays, or our Anniversary, not once! I work crazy hours and I come home to cute notes, dinner made, and the apt cleaned. He sometimes gets me cute things for no reason at all, just because. He has been there for me through everything. He even was such a sweetheart and let me have two weddings. One specifically for my Vavo (grandmother) whose pancreas is failing. We couldn’t afford a big wedding this year, but I was heartbroken when the doctors told us that she in all likelihood would not be around for my Sept 2013 wedding.
I really couldn’tve asked for a better hubby. But…for some reason, they’ve always hated him. I can’t tell you how many times they tried to talk me out of marrying him. They just don’t get us. We have a pattern, as many other couple’s do. We fight, we vent about eachother to close friends/have alone time, then we both realize what we’ve been saying all along…which is that we’d rather fight with each other, then be with anyone else.
I was really disappointed with both of them, so much so that I didn’t invite them to the 1st wedding (granted, there were 11 people: bride, groom, priest, photographer, parents on both sides, my grandparents, and my cousin who is like a 2nd mother to me). I wanted a Victorian themed wedding. I have always loved them, and my dress is somewhat Modern Victorian.
Right away my bridesmaid friend was jealous, because that is what she wants for her wedding. She tried to take control of the whole thing and got mad at me when I wasn’t doing it her way. It’s not as if I was a Bridezilla–trust me, I was far from that. But it is my day, and I don’t have to pick a venue that costs 3x as much because it’s what YOU want for YOUR wedding. When I went dress shopping with her, she actually tried on more dresses than me, it was frustrating because I wanted her there for input, but she was in the next dressing room more concerned with what she was wearing. By The Way, she’s not engaged, and not even in a relationship. Is it wrong that I found this tacky?? When I went for my fitting she came, and found a dress she fell in love with. So much so, that she was debating on buying it. I was late for work waiting on her to “decide” and finally got annoyed and left without saying goodbye.
I picked out 3 very affordable, Victorian style dresses for my bridesmaids. All of my bridesmaids helped me select them. I didn’t want them wearing something they absolutely hated. Everyone seemed excited that I found some very reasonable choices all of which were under $150, and they all agreed that all 3 dresses were great, they just had to pick their favorite! I told them that they were allowed to pick any of the 3, as long as they were all in the wine color that I had selected. After all of this took place, the bridesmaid in question flipped out. She basically told me that she resented the 3 dresses that I picked out, and that she never said she loved any of them. I showed her emails and aim convos where she specifically said she liked them. She denies this and continues to complain about the dresses.
My Maid/Matron of Honor took the cake though. She threatened not to go on two occassions because she half jokingly said when the priest asks for objections, I think I’m going to be objecting! She also did not care for the Victorian theme and told me she “didn’t want to come to my wedding if it was going to be a drag”. Who says that??? Seriously?? WHO says that?? Needless to say, I had a bridezilla moment and fired her. I decided my cousin would be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She thought I was joking. I wasn’t,
I was thrilled to be married, and even more thrilled at how happy my Vavo was. I was so happy she could be there, you have no idea!!
Just before the wedding, my fired Maid/Matron of Honor had a epiphany and apologized to me. I was happy she did, because we used to be very close. It wasn’t the same as it was before, but I was hoping it would get better. It didn’t.
After the wedding my fired Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaid both told me that they were very hurt that I chose Dan over them. ??? They said they didn’t actually think I would go through with the wedding (despite not having cold feet, I never showed 1 sign that I wouldn’t marry him). They told me that they were hurt and that I was being immature, and don’t call us when everything falls apart.
What the hell??? Where did THAT come from?? (Sorry for the longness…just venting )