Post # 1
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
We didn’t do any negotiating with our wedding vendors. It’s just something that I’m not good at, and probably never will be. My mom on the other hand is a whiz, and I wish I had inherited some of that spunk!
Did you negotiate with any of your vendors? Is negotiating something that comes naturally to you, or something you felt you had to do because of the large cost of a wedding?
Post # 3
We didn’t negotiate, persay… We just made sure to ask every vendor if they had any discounts or specials going on that would lower the cost. Since we live in a touristy area, almost everyone gave us local or "friends of friends" discounts. 🙂 Neither of us would normally ask though, so we took turns with each vendor. That way, neither one of us had to ask more than 2-3 times!
Post # 4
I didn’t feel comfortable negotiating until I had done some research. Once I was prepared, I marched into my venue and negotiated them down about $1000 on a chocolate fountain!!
I do have a personality that doesn’t mind fighting a little to make sure I get a good deal (and get just what I want–not all the extras!) I think it might be easier now because of the economy. You have to make sure you are in a good bargaining position in order to negotiate well, because your vendor should know you have other options.
Post # 5
The only person I negotiated with was the florist because I was so shocked by all the super $$$ estimates I had been given and I decided that I needed a new approach when talking to florists. I basically told her my budget and said "this is all I can afford, what can you give me for this price?" Luckily, she completely exceeded my expectations with her gorgeous floral arrangements!
I don’t know if I would have had the courage to counter offer with a lower number if she (or any other vendor) had given me a number that was out of my budget. I would be paranoid that if I negotiated to a price lower than their typical rate, they would provide me with lackluster service and subpar quality. I certainly hope that wouldn’t be the case though!
Post # 6
My FMIL went dress shopping with me and negotiated the 10% discount up to a 14% discount at the trunk show we attended. They also threw in the extra length I needed at their cost!
Post # 7
I am definitely a negotiater, it’s inherited from my mom!
I’ve already been negotiating with some vendors and once I get a better idea of which ones I definitely want I’m sure I’ll go a little more guns blazing – so to speak.
Some items I"m a little more weary on though. Like a site fee…is that negotiable?? I’d always thought that was a set fee.
I would say photographers definitely yes. Florists yes. And caterers too. And I guess wedding gowns too if there’s a actually a person to speak to.
Post # 8
Likewise, I can’t negociate either. I just shopped around and asked a lot of questions and make sure everything was included in the price.
Post # 9
I did negotiate a few things! Which I have to admit, I’m very proud of! 🙂 I negotiated our DJ down from $1200 to $800 as well as the limo bus for half the price of what we were quoted. I find the best way is to say that you’re looking into other vendors and will get back with them, and that you know the norm is $XX. Our DJ is from Minneapolis and I’m getting married about an hour away from there, so he came down to match the price of DJs in my hometown. The limo bus is from an even smaller town than were I’m getting married, so maybe that is my luck of smaller town pricing? I’m not going to ask questions, I’m just going to accept it and be happy!
Post # 10
I did negotiate with our DJ. He has been the DJ for 2 other weddings from my group of friends over the last couple of years, so I just sort of made a joke asking "so is there some sort of deal where the third wedding is cheaper!?" He laughed, but said "you know, I would be willing to knock x amount off the price".
I’m not a natural negotiator, but because of a tight budget, I figured it was worth asking.
Post # 11
i sure did. I got my DOC for free, my DJ at half price, my hair I got $50 off, and an extra hour of photography for free.
I basically traded services with them. FOr my DOC I designed some paper products for an event she was putting on, for the DJ I did business cards, for the photographer I did a monogram and gobo plate for her wedding, my hair lady I did a business logo and business cards
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
We totally negotiated. We called in a favor for the venue; we asked our photographer to ‘create’ a package that fit in our budget; we got our DJ at his old rate; and I think I got a reduced delievery fee for our flowers. Oh, and free delievery and set up on our cupcakes since they are across the street from our venue!
Post # 13
I absolutely have and intend to!!! I called a venue that my fiance and I really love in photos. We talked about food, choices that were not on the egular menu and getting them for same price as a less expensive entree, got the ceremony fee cut in half! We are going to see it in person on Thursday so maybe i’ll be able to negotiate some more. I intend to do same with flowers and DJ. I got a great rate for photography already. In this economy I intend to save as many pennies as I can
Post # 14
I negotiated, too. Like Mrs. Spring, I live in a touristy area, so I was able to get the "local" discount for the reception venue, saving thousands of dollars, since food and drinks are included.
I used craigslist to find a photographer and found a great one. He normally charges $4500 – I got him for $1100, after a bit of back and forth.
Next, I will be working on the band and the flowers…
Post # 15
That is extremely good! Is this a photographer that has regular work but uses craiglist more for "advertising" Did you have to give up things you wanted to get that rate?
Post # 16
I’ve negotiated pretty much everywhere for everything.
I got 10% off my gown, talked the venue into reducing the food and beverage minimum by half, received $500 off the ceremony site fee, received $100+ off our photobooth, received a free hour from our photographer, our DJ is doing our ceremony for free, I am working on discounts for the bridesmaid dresses, have free delivery for both the florist and the cake, and negotiated 10% off the tux rentals. Every penny counts!
What helps is I have a Friday night wedding. I have been able to negotiate on pretty much everything. I say, just Ask! It doesn’t hurt, the worst they can do is say no.