Post # 1
I’m so excited, we’ve been getting gifts and my mom is telling me I should NOT use them until we’re actually married! She thinks it’s bad mojo or something. But I love presents and I’m sure our guests actually want us to use the gifts they’ve given us…right?
I also like to open Christmas presents and birthday presents early so of course I don’t want to wait!
What do you think?
Post # 3
We opened ours as we got them, so we could send thank you notes right away rather than doing them all right after the wedding. Much to my husband’s dismay, though, I’m superstitious and refused to actually use any of the gifts until after the wedding.
Post # 4
Same here. We’ve opened them and thanked the gift givers, but I’m hesitant to use them until after the wedding. In fact, we’ll probably hold off on using most of them until we get a house, which won’t be until a year AFTER the wedding.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
Oops, I hadn’t even thought about this when we got married. I just opened opened opened and used whatever I could. I hope it doesn’t mean bad mojo because we’re screwed 😉
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2011 - The Royal Park Hotel
I asked my girlfriend this exact question the other day! She laughed (in a good natured way, of course) and promptly told me to open and enjoy the gifts. It’ll give us something extra to write about in our thank you notes (that we’ve put their generosity to good use)!
ETA: On a related note, my girlfriend also suggested that I take pictures of the gifts we receive (and open) prior to my bridal shower. She said I could display them as a means of recognizing those who couldn’t make it!
Post # 7
You’ll want to open them so you can record what you were given and send a thank you note but we don’t plan on using them. For thank you cards, I’ll simply thank them for being so kind and mention how we plan on using their gift. Ha I don’t know, to me it just feels weird and wrong to use our wedding presents before we’re actually married.
As a guest giving shower and wedding presents, it always comes off as a “no no” to me to hear about the couple using the gift before the wedding. Maybe I’m old fashioned but my mama would say the same thing to me!
Post # 8
Eeek, I don’t want to have bad marriage karma!
Post # 9
I said “open them but don’t use them” because that’s technically correct. However, if we get luggage for our shower (which I know my grandmother is planning on getting us), then we are absolutely packing it and bringing it all for the honeymoon. I mean, that’s the whole reason we added it! We’ll probably not use the majority of our gifts though.
Post # 10
We got a knife set the other day and we’re already using them. Our current set was way too cr*ppy for me to wait until May.
Post # 11
I’m expecting a shower in May and am planning on using the gifts right afterwards. I know it is supposed to be bad luck, but my FIL are coming to visit before the wedding and I would like to have our place looking nice for them.
Apparently, it is bad luck, but it is just a superstition. I’m already living with the FI and planning on doing a first look, so so much for traditions. 🙂
Post # 12
I would probably want to wait because that’s just me (wanting to wait until the actual day to exchange/open presents). However, FH would TOTALLY be egging me to open & use them right away if we received presents shipped to us. : D However, we live in Canada, where it’s more popular to receive gifts at your wedding than to get them shipped to you beforehand, so it may not be an issue. ^.^
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
We opened them and used them! I’m waaaaay too impatient to wait! Plus, I didn’t really see the point it waiting – it seemed a bit silly to me.
Post # 14
Ok, then I might just have to use them! It’s our everyday wear dishes, 10 place settings came today! I’m tired of our hand me down, mismatched plates!
Post # 15
Just keep a really good list! I didn’t and thank you cards were really difficult!
Post # 16
unless there is some note on the outside that says “DO NOT OPEN UNTIL WEDDING DAY” I am opening it. If it’s something I can use before the wedding, I’m using it. I am assuming I wouldn’t be receiving gifts more than a month in advance of the wedding. By then, I’d be 100% sure it was happening, and the danger of returning the gift is zero.