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Yes we are planning on keeping our chosen names to ourselves until we actualy have a baby, (we are nowhere near TTC). I agree with you that I don't want people's negative input on the name and don't want thei opinions to color our opinions.
We did think it would be funny to have decoy names that were totally ridiculous just to see people's reaction.
My sister has kept the names of all her kids secret and my brother kept his son's name kinda secret. DH and I don't really care who knows the names we like, but we probably won't be calling the baby by the name we've picked either, just because we want to be free to change our minds last minute! We'll probably just let people know what names we are thinking of. Their input doesn't matter really. I mean so what if my aunt knows a guy at work by that name that annoys her?
My sister is way too secretive, she wants to talk about names all the time and ask for suggestions but won't even hint to whether she likes your suggestion or not. Makes baby name talk very boring. I mean, no one cares THAT much. Then when the babies were born it was a little anticlimactic to hear their names. It really bothers me hahaha
Don't share your baby names if you don't want. But I think for the most part if you say it's the name you've chosen and you're not changing your mind, people are unlikely to say something mean about it.
@Meowkers My brother did that, he had a new ridiculous name for the baby every time you talked to him, it was pretty fun.
We kept the names for both our girls secret until they were born. You are right- it makes it much harder to criticize when they are staring at your newborn!
Yes, definitely. DH and I aren't TTC yet, but we're already thinking about names, and we don't want other people's opinions. Our families are especially opinionated, and they've let other family members know that they don't like baby names that they're considering (let's just say my cousin probably won't be naming her new baby Finn when he arrives in a few weeks). What we name our child is a personal decision between us, and it's already enough to have to get two people to agree on one name. If others don't like what we choose, well, then we're hoping that they have enough tact to keep their mouths shut because they won't know the name until we've already named the baby that.
We are not telling anyone our chosen names until after the baby is born and that is its name! We don't want anyone's opinions.
We talked some about names with family/friends once we had finalized our choices just between the two of us, but I didn't care much about criticisms. Most criticisms are personal feelings, anyway, so I don't really care if someone didn't like our name choices. We also didn't find out the sex until birth, so there was still an element of surprise after the baby was born.
We're keeping the name a secret - that way I don't have to deal with people making rude comments. Plus, since we're finding out the gender, it will be a little element of surprise for our families when the baby does make its grand debut.
I think we'll talk about the names that we are mulling over with friends and family, but I doubt we'll actually know which name we'll choose until we see him. If we suddenly have the name and know we aren't changing it, then I don't really think it should matter if they know; at that point I wouldn't care how anyone else felt about it and they could say what they wanted.
I'm not sure! My husband really wants to keep it a secret-- his brother did. I am not sure I want to keep it a secret-- my brother did not, and I liked knowing the name ahead of time.
The big difference is how our families react. My family would NEVER criticize a name openly. When my brother told us the name, my mom and I chatted with each other about it, but it was more like 'Oh, that will be a cute name, and oh, it's a popular name, but they love it so it will be ok." No one was negative, and we never said anything except positive things to my brother.
My husband's family is very critical and opinionated. They have no problem telling you if they don't like a name.
So I'm wondering if we'd be able to keep the name a secret from everyone, but share it with my parents ...
The only other thing is that I may have a friend that is about 6-7 weeks behind me in her pregnancy. I told her that one of the names I really liked was a family name and I'd always wanted to name a daughter that but now it is a popular name so I'm not sure. She told me she liked that name too. So if we do decide to use that name, I'm not sure if we should "announce" it or not. My fear is that we plan on using that name but we keep it a secret until the birth. And she plans on using that name and announces way before me. It's a family name for me, so I'd still probably use it, but I know my husband would be conflicted.
I plan on keeping both the name and sex a secret, but the problem is I don't think my DH is physically capable of keeping secrets so I'm worried. We swore to each other that we wouldn't tell a soul about our apartment that we're in contract to purchase but DH could NOT keep it to himself and has told almost everyone we know. So I'm not sure how to keep him from telling everyone the name and sex without keeping it a secret from HIM!
I kind of wish I had since I have gotten some negative feedback. I wish people could just smile and nod when they don't like or "get" the name!!
Oh, and the name we chose is not all that complicated! It is Briar Ann.
@heathaah: I've said it before, but Briar is one of my favorites. :) I REALLY wanted to use it for a boy (spelled Brier), but my husband was pretty dead set against it. Meh, I still love that name, and would definitely use it if he ever changed his mind!
Glad I'm not alone. I just have a feeling that when we tell our families that we are keeping it a secret they will keep bugging us about it so I think I am going to have to come up with some names just as a decoy lol. I just hate having everyone's two cents about people they knew that were annoying or even died (MIL is a nurse). I watched a friend recently change the name that she has wanted for her daughter for as long as I knew her juust because of such negative feedback, and the name was very pretty.
@heathaah- What a pretty name!
I would definitely keep it a secret. My FI's brother did that when both of his children were born, but not so much out of hearing critisms but rather a fear that there would be a miscarriage or complications - it would just make the situation that much harder. He asked us opinions of about 3 or 4 names, but we didn't know the actual name until the babies were born.
We chose to keep munchkin's name to ourselves until he was born. All anyone knew was that his middle name would be my husband's fathers first name.
@Mrs. Spring: and @roxy821: THANK YOU! You have no idea how much that means to me!
Yes. Last thing I want is someone name stealing or for it to get popular. I don't usually care about other people's opinions so I am not worried about that. =)
We’re not anywhere close to TTC but we will be keeping it a secret when the time comes. Most people we know did. We’ll for sure find out the sex but keeping the name a secret will atleast leave a little bit of a surprise for everyone else. I’d also like to avoid the negative opinions and the “I once had a dog named such and such” comments.
we will not share the name until after the baby is born. I dont want to hear any opinions about tit whatsoever, and I've realized people are braver with their opinions if they hear the name prior to the baby being born
We have had the name Kennedy picked out pretty much since I got pregnant. If people ask then I tell them what we are going to name her. But most the time I just refer to her as baby girl. And surprisingly even though some people on facebook know (close family/friends)- everyone just refers to her as baby girl. I am quite impressed with the secret keeping abilites of said friends/family. We didn't even come out and say "please don't tell anyone." The only person who has had something negative to say is my grandmother. She told my mom "well that is quite an unusual name, isn't it?" Mom said "it is what they like- so we will get used to it." That was the first I heard of Kennedy being an "unusual" name!
@heathaah: One of DH's cousins is a Briar Anne. I love it! Unique but not out there!
Our family and friends know our favourite names and we're not TTC yet. I'd be afraid someone else would use them if I didn't say anything.
We will be keeping both the sex and name a secret. I think it adds to the surprise at the birth. A friend of ours told everyone the name, sex, due date, and eventually scheduled c-section date. So on the day it was like 'oh, Sarah is here' because we knew everything in advance.
@heathaah: I read your previous post about the name drama and I don't get it at all! I think the name is GORGEOUS- it makes me think of a Disney princess with long beautiful hair:) People name their kids all sorts of crazy things now but I think that Briar Ann sounds classy and beautiful and serene... tell the "haters" to back off:)
FI and I have come to the decision that we are most likely going to find out the sex of our future baby (but FI ONLY agreed to this if the ultrasound tech will write the sex and seal it in an envelope for us to open later, he said he doesn't want to find out in a doctors office) and when we do find out, we want to be able to paint the nursery accordingly.. so naturally we are going to tell family and friends what we are having. But I think I would want to keep the name between FI and I, just because we don't want everyone knowing everything about your precious child before it gets to make an appearance.
My only concern with that plan is that we might 100% set our hearts on a name but because we didn't tell anyone, someone close to us or a family member may have a baby born first and unknowingly name it the same thing. I guess if that happened we would just deal with it at that time.
I always rolled my eyes when pregnant women said, we're not telling people the name, but I didn't tell anyone except my mom once we finally picked a name (which was about a week before the baby came).
I understand why someone would want to keep it a secret, but I think telling people you're keeping it a secret ruffles some feathers. If you don't want to reveal the name (and I understand there are a multitude of reasons why) I think it's best to say, we're undecided. That pretty much shuts people down right there. That's what I said the entire 6 months people knew I was pregnant (although it was true 90% of that time) and everyone pretty much left it alone.
We're not telling the name until the baby is born. I guess I should probably just tell people that we haven't decided on a name yet. I get all excited though when people ask if we've chosen a name, and I say "yes!". ...and then I have to explain that I won't tell them what it is. Oh well. I really don't want to hear people's opinions on our chosen name, so that's why we're keeping it to ourselves for now. Once the baby is here, nobody thinks to criticize the name, they just want to coo over your adorable baby.
I've never heard of people keeping it a secret before! Every baby shower I've been to recently has said something like "please join us..yadda yadda... for Mom's Name + Baby Name'
I usually see gifts with the baby's name on it.
For those of you keeping or who have kept it a secret.. are you willing to share with the bee?
I'm so curious what some of your names are! I think it's because I know it's a secret lol. So I can see why some people get their feathers ruffled when you tell them you're keeping it a secret, probably because they are so darn curious! Haha
ETA- I think when we are pregnant and we have a name picked I would totally be ok with sharing the name online. I think I would need the outlet becausde I'm sure I'll be dying to tell someone and I know that no one IRL knows me on the bee.
We won't be sharing the gender (since we won't know either-team green for us!) or any names until after we have a baby. I don't want any opinions from others, plus I think it will be fun to share the surprise (name) once the baby is actually born! I'll definitely tell the hive, though!
We're undecided at this point. We're pretty set on the boy name right now, but there is still 12 weeks til my EDD. We wanted to do some of our maternity pictures with the name, so I think at least our photographer (who is my SIL) will know. But I did tell my sister and mom whom I am very close with that it's almost definitely the name. I told a few VERY close people. But I also don't care so much about people's opinions, if they don't like it meh, that's their problem - it's not their kid! :)
We finally found a name we AGREE on and that is HUGE progress lol. I don't know about telling DH's family though because they are WAY too picky/opinionated and they did ruin quite a few names for me (like they are insistent on finding a nn for every name, so for Gideon they said they'd call him "Dean" WHAT?!?!).
But I've thought about announcing it at my shower and then just ignoring people's comments. Especially since I'm a terrible liar and of course EVERYONE asks if we have a baby name/what we're naming him. Ugh such an annoying question!!
DH and I will start TTC in 1-1.5 years. I've told several people our options. We have 2 names picked out for a girl and 2 picked out for a boy - we're going to decide which name fits before we make a final decision. We're planning to be Team Green, so we wouldn't be able to tell people a final decision anyway.
Not TTC yet, but I will TRY to keep the names a secret. I get too excited about things though.
My FBIL kept the name of their child a secret and it drove his family crazy! He used an off the wall decoy name to throw us off and by the end we were convinced that was the name. It ended up being Miles William so everyone was happy that it wasn't the complicated name we all were lead on to believe. I thought it was pretty funny how he fooled everyone.
Wellllll....I wanted to keep the names we like secret (we are not preggo...won't be trying for a few months yet) but at our Thanksgiving get-together, I heard hubby telling some family (his dad, uncle, aunt) what we would choose for a boy & a girl...I was bummed :( Apparently I never told him I wanted to keep them secret, but I figured it was implied :/ Oh well...maybe we will change our minds but I doubt it...or maybe his fam will forget, ha
i am pretty sure we are going to keep it a secret. we have told our closest friends and family members the top five names we like, but haven't really told them we have chosen a favorite,
we probably wont!
We're keeping it secret (even if we haven't narrowed down a name just yet). My side of the family are very opinionated and I don't want to hear about their co-worker's friend's cousin that's a skank with that name! As soon as my Mom saw the ultrasound, she's been "going crazy trying to think up a name" -_-
So umm, no ... we're definitely keeping it to ourselves. I even had to remind DH to remind me to not cave and get too excited and blurt it out. I just don't want to hear it.
Plus, even if they don't like the name, it'll be "beautiful" once the baby is born. (Lol, I'm already writing like I'll have a lil girl.)
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Since I seem to be thinking about names today, much better than crying all day yesterday from feeling overwhelmed and like a failure.
Did anyone not share the names they picked up after the baby was born? Is anyone planning on doing this?
I don't want to pick a name and if I say something to family and friends and they have negative things to say about it, I know I'll be upset. But if I wait until the baby is born then it's hard to tell this precious newborn that you don't like their name. I just feel like names are something, at least in my circle, that everyone gives their 2 cents on even if it's not wanted.