Post # 1
My first bridal shower is coming up, and I was wondering what the general practice is on using, or at least putting away, gifts you receive before the wedding?
My FI and I live in a small apartment, and our families are both plane rides away, so if we don’t at least throw out boxes, we’ll have a LOT of stuff sitting around our place until September! I know that etiquette/tradition/superstition all have reasons for not using wedding gifts pre-wedding, and I totally understand why. But it also strikes me as a little silly and impractical given that we don’t have parents’ homes nearby to stash things.
Any thoughts on this one, bees?
Thanks so much!
Post # 3
We opened ours all up and use everything. If you’re concerned just fold the boxes flat to store them and keep the gift receipt attached to that. Then you also have nice storage boxes for the next time you move.
Post # 4
Well I didn’t have a shower, but I just got a gift last week shipped to our house. Absolutely I opened it up and began using it immediately!
Post # 5
We used things as we got them. Would have been a pain in the ass if we didn’t go through with the wedding, but it wasn’t an issue!
Post # 6
Aside from the Kitchen Aid mixer I got at my shower (I opened that baby right up!) we kept all of the gifts from the shower and the mailed gifts unopened in our spare room. When we got back from our honeymoon and bought out the registry, opened and “unpacked” everything, it was like Christmas and a glorious moving day all rolled into one.
I just did it that way because I thought it would be amazing to have all new kitchen stuff and towels and bedding all in the same weekend. And it was amazing.
Post # 7
@LiliKitty: Great idea!
@JenGirl: Haha – yes – this is exactly my thought process!
@jackieee: This DOES sound amazing, and I think is part of my hesitation! I feel awkward about all of this because I’m the girl who LOVES christmas morning because of all the newness all at once… I never open my gifts before a holiday, so I think this feels strange to get wedding stuff pre-wedding! Oh well – it’s a good problem to have I guess
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I voted other, because I used the bathroom scale before the wedding, but that was it. DH and I both had roommates and he didn’t move in until the wedding, so I wanted to use everything together for the first time (even though he didn’t care about the dinnerware, for ex.)
Post # 9
Nope. Used nothing until we were married. We kept them in boxes and in another room.
Post # 10
I’m not using mine till I get married. Not because I think it’s rude or otherwise, it’s just easier for me to keep everything in one place until I move.
Post # 11
I opened everything and put it away a couple weeks after my shower. I had a free weekend day, and decided to just do it all at once, and get everything our of our spare bedroom. We also hosted an “early Thanksgiving dinner” for our parents and sisters before our wedding, and we wanted to have our new stuff out for that.
Post # 12
Nope – actually we’re using 1 spatula.
We live in NYC but the wedding and shower and all of our gifts are still back in our hometown of Michigan and we’re moving to Vermont in the next few months so we’re not bringing anything to NYC until we’ve moved. I can’t wait to have a new home with NEW STUFF!
Post # 13
We’ll be putting everything away as soon as we write a thank you note for it. I think that’s the best way for me to keep on top of the thank you notes!
Post # 14
We didn’t use anything except a serving platter before we got married…lol
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
We used a couple things, but it wasn’t related to before/after the wedding. It was mostly because we were moving soon and didn’t want to open up a bunch of boxes and then have to repack them later. If we were already in our new house then I wouldn’t have had a problem opening them all and using them.
Post # 16
I did not use anything until after the wedding (and yes my kitchen was a mess for almost a year because of it).
BUT IT WAS VERY WORTH IT IN THE END!
After the wedding I returned a lot of the gifts in exchange for other items on my registry. I realized that I did not need the wine glasses, etc and would rather have had the comforter set…..
You may want to wait and see what you get. You may find that after the wedding that you received gifts that you really do not need. You may also find that there are certain desirable items are still on the registry……..