Post # 1
When DH proposed to me we called up our parents right away (we were on vacation out of state). He had asked my parents so they already knew it was coming, however, his mom was very agitated that he did not tell her his plans. More agitated than excited which was disappointing.
She brings this up from time to time whenever she feels we need to keep her more informed about our lives. For example, DH called for a chat a few days ago and told her we booked our honeymoon. She asked when we booked it and he told her a few days before. She got upset and said “well you could have told me.” But he just did… She has done this with other things as well. Things that I don’t think warrant an extra phone call but that we will tell her when we call her up to talk.
Anyways, did your parents know? Did your SO’s parents know? If only one set knew, was the other set upset that they weren’t also in the loop?
Post # 3
My fiance did not tell anyone at all that he was planning to propose! It was a surprise to everyone!
Post # 4
Everyone knew it was coming, but no one, including FI, knew when it would be. He’s a spur of the moment type.
Post # 5
My mom knew- she kind of helped FI out when he was designing my ring. My dad didn’t know though, and neither did FIs parents. Although it wasn’t really a surprise to anyone…
Post # 7
During the planning process DH had only told one person, a family friend who put him in touch with their family jewler. About 3 months before the proposal he told my best friend, because he needed her help getting my ring size. She was so excited, she cried when he told her.
The day of the proposal he took my dad to lunch and told him, but I’m not sure if my dad told my stepmom – although I’m sure he did. DH called his own mom in the car on the way home to propose to me, just to give her a heads up. He tried to wait as long as possible because he didn’t want anyone to slip up.
Post # 8
A bunch of FI’s friends and family knew that he was going to propose, but I don’t think his parents knew (they’re not very close) and my parents did not know. I called them right away and they were surprised but thrilled!
Post # 9
My FH’s parents knew, and I made sure that he knew if he were ever to ask me he had to tell my mother first! I don’t think my Dad knew. FH says that when he talked to her she said she would take care of him (he isn’t very good with secrets!).
Post # 10
My FI asked for my dad’s blessing so he knew. Dad then told my mom who called me to tell me congratulations. Umm mom! She didn’t understand that it was still supposed to be a surprise.
FI waited a couple months to propose and then his mom only found out about the impending proposal by accident.
Post # 11
My parents and his parents knew it was coming. Granted, we had been dating for a little over 6 years, so we all knew it was getting to that point lol.
My center stone is actually my grandmother’s stone (originally) and then it was in my mother’s setting as well before my grandmother passed her huge (I’m talking 4+ carat solitare!) ring to my mom. So FI actually took my grandmother and mother out to lunch when the semi-mount came it and then took them to the jeweler to have the stone set. He stayed with his brother the night before getting it set, so his brother and parents saw the semi-mount before the center stone was in it.
It was really nice to know that he made it such a family affair since family is really important to us both.
Post # 12
My sister found out a couple of days before, because my husband showed her the ring. I think he also told my aunt, but I’m not sure why.
Post # 13
My FI asked my whole family and proposed on a trip downtown with his parents and family friends:) so basically everyone knew!
Post # 14
my fiance only told his sisters beforehand. He wanted to make sure I was totally surprised–and that no one accidentally tipped me off.
Post # 15
Everyone knew. Me included. We talked about it a bunch, had been dating for 10+ years and where about to move in with each other. However, I wasn’t aware that everyone knew so he was still able to surprise me. He took me to dinner after proposing where I was surprised by his family, my parents (who flew to DC from LA) and my closest friends who came from near and far.
Post # 16
SO never wanted to get married so it was a massive surprise to everyone.