Post # 1
I have never been in a wedding party so I’m not sure on the cost of being a bridesmaid. Did you bees pay for hair and make up? I planned on treating the girls to a spa day for their nails the day before but is it common etiquette to pay for it all? Any help would be great 🙂
* I am not requesting any special look, whatever they are comfortable with
Post # 3
Other: No my bridesmaids did their own hair and makeup. No one paid for anything. They all said they didn’t want to have it done.
Post # 5
@PinkMagnolia: Thank you! I added it 🙂
Post # 6
@Tiffner: I did pay hair/make-up for bridesmaides, but I do not believe that it is required. I’m fairly sure that the thinking is that if you want a specific hairstyle, make-up, etc. that it is best if you can pay for it, but it is not unreasonable, especially if you are giving bridesmaids choices, for them to pay for their own. But to require it and require that they pay for it is poor etiquette. (Allowing them the option to pay for it or do their own is perfectly acceptable.)
Post # 7
I paid for their hair, and gave them the option of paying for their makeup. I’m not requiring them to get it done, but they all want it.
Post # 8
I paid… but it totally depends on what you want from/for them. My bridesmaids and I were mostly make-up clueless, so I splurged for all of us. Other people are perfectly comfortable doing their own hair/make up and can do so successfully (haha, totally not me).
Post # 9
Mine are all paying for their own hair and make-up is optional (no one is required to get it).
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I gave my BMs the contact info of the gal doing my stuff and told them that if they wanted, she was available to all of them as well; but they would have to pay for it.
1 girl decided to do her own hair & makeup
1 girl got her hair done, and did her own makeup
1 girl got hair and makeup done professionally
In the end, it turned out that it was in my budget to pay for the services and they tipped the stylist seperately; but this was definitely NOT in the plan originally. It also helped that all of that plus my hair was only $285.
Post # 11
I think it’s nice for brides to pay for hair and makeup, but I don’t think it’s expected. I’ve been a bridesmaid twice, and both times, I paid for my hair and did my own makeup.
I gave my girls the option of having someone do their hair (I made clear that this was an OPTION) and paying for it themselves. Same with makeup. I think they’re all getting their hair done and all doing their own makeup.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’s required, but if you are going to insist on them having hair and makeup done, it’s really kind of cold to expect them to pay for it. It’s not fair to have these ladies coming out of their own pockets all over the place to satisfy your wishes. I also think it’s not fair to force girls into having professional hair or makeup; some are just plain not comfortable with that kind of look. I gave my bridesmaids the option of hair and/or makeup, and if they chose either or both, I’m paying for it.
Post # 13
i did not. They weren’t required to have it done. They were free to do whatever they pleased. Instead i spent about $75 on each girl..I gave them gifts that they could have used after the wedding
Post # 14
I’ve never been in a wedding where the bride paid. But then again they didn’t require any look or style. They said do your own thing, professional, not professional…just look good. That’s the route I’m going for my wedding as well.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I paid for their hair/makeup as their gift-gave them the option, if they would like jewelry or beauty, and they both immediately chose hair/makeup. (Still did very special hotel bags for them- flip flops to change into, extra food, etc.)
Post # 16
I paid for nails, hair, and makeup.