(Closed) Did you pick out your own e-ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you pick out your own engagement ring?
    Yes- My SO wanted me to : (90 votes)
    35 %
    Yes- I asked for a specific ring : (48 votes)
    19 %
    No- My SO wanted to pick it out on their own : (63 votes)
    25 %
    No- It was an heirloom/given to us : (4 votes)
    2 %
    Kinda- I gave my SO a few options to choose from : (51 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @danielleinfl:  My Fiance picked my ring out and I wasnt expecting it at this point at all. I was soo so suprised and he picked exactly what I would have picked for myself. I would let him know what you like and trust that he will get you something amazing that you will love.

    Post # 4
    483 posts
    Helper bee

    I picked out mine … I wish it were a surprise but due to his lack of credit we had no choice otherwise we would have missed out they dream ring for a crazy good price .. I told him he could alter the band in some way or change the setting if he wants it so I have someone of a surprise haha so we will see once he officially proposes

    Post # 5
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013


    I wanted to browse together and try stuff on to see what style looked good on me.  When we went to the jeweler she kept making me narrow my list down.  I was fine with 2 different rings.  There was an 800$ difference.  I wanted to leave and let him make the final decision.  She told us I’d have to wear it for the rest of my life, so I needed to absolutely love it.  So I picked.  I had ring regret for almost 2months (I picked the pricier one)..he had purchased it a different day and hid it from me.  Once he proposed I had no worries about it.  I think I stared at it all day.  The proposal was still special even though I picked the ring.  Since he hid it for awhile, I actually had forgotten how it looked on me.  

    Just tell him you want to try stuff on.  What you think you like (my favorite online was too thick on and didn’t even make my top 3, and the one I chose I had skipped over online thinking I didn’t want round), may change.

    Sorry, no moissante here. 


    Post # 6
    2336 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I would say… yes and no.

    My Fiance knew what my personal tastes and preferences were (solitaire, no diamonds in the band, white gold, princes cut, around 1/2 carat) but I had NO IDEA he was proposing and he went and picked out the actual ring completely by himself.

    It’s kind of a cute story, actually. His mom told me they were worried he wasn’t going to find one, because he drove all over town, to six different jewelers over the course of about 8 hours before he finally found something that he liked and that was ‘me.’ (Picky Fiance is picky!)

    Post # 8
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I designed mine. The day we got engaged my husband’s mother gave me diamonds that belonged to my husband’s deceased grandmother. Prior to receiving those diamonds I was planning on putting a stone in my grandmother’s set from the 1930s. Anyway, I received the diamonds and then my husband actually had to travel back home since at the time we were in a LDR. I designed the ring with my mother at her best friend’s jeweler. I discussed different styles with my husband asking for his input on what to do with the diamonds but he honestly was like a fish out of water. He had no idea what I was talking about and when I would show him pictures I think they all just kind of blurred together for him into one big shiny sparkle. When I showed him pictures of the ring the day I got it he seemed to like it but his reaction wasn’t outrageous. That weekend I flew in to see him and we were having an engagement party where he lives and he saw the ring at the airport – he was blown away. He just kept smiling and he couldn’t find the right adjective to even describe how he felt. He was like, “It’s nice. I mean beautiful. I mean it’s really really gorgeous.” LOL 

    Based on the above, I think had we been in the position to buy a completely new ring and I could pick out whatever my heart desired I think he still would’ve wanted me to pick out whatever ring I liked the best instead of picking it out himself. To him the true measure of doing a good job with the ring or being proud of what he’s put on my finger is my happiness with it and my love for it – and I know he wanted me to get EXACTLY what I wanted. He is just a really sweet unassuming guy like that. 

    Ideally though I would’ve preferred him being able to be with me throughout the process, but what can you do? An LDR is a LDR. 

    Post # 9
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I don’t have my ring yet but I THOUGHT I picked out my ring. However Fiance just informed he found another ring and it is the one I will be getting… I’m a little dissapointed but I trust my Fiance more then anyone and he knows me better then i do sometimes lol.  So I’ll just keep my mouth shut and wait till he can purchess it and I am absolutly sure I will love the one he has picked for me.  But yeah sometimes you just gotta trust your guy to know what you like and that he will pick something you will love, remember this is his GIFT to you and he wouldn’t pick something you hate.  I think you need to talk to him and see what he is comfortable with.

    Post # 10
    136 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    My Fi knows that i’m incredibly picky, and know a fair bit about diamonds (due to my mother, lol) so he wasn’t game to pick a ring for me. That, and his proposal was pretty spontaneous, so the next day we went to jewlers and shopped around a little, and I found a jeweler and designed my own ring πŸ™‚

    It would have been nice to have the surprise, but for me, it was nicer to have the perfect ring.

    Post # 13
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Nope I designed my set. I went far enough to have 5 different sets I would love and have Fiance pick the one he likes out. I told him this and he said

    “ahhhhahhh….No. I love you, picky brat, that would be like telling the sunset not to change color.”


    Lol, he knows me so well!

    Post # 14
    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    You could always leave your favorite on the screen of a computer where he would stubble across it…. Or you could talk to him and give him a list of some that you really like so you know you’ll like it but he still gets the finally say. Just some ideas. Good Luck!

    Post # 15
    823 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I gave my fiance a whole list of rings that I liked and he picked one. The worst part is that I knew he had bought a ring, I just had no idea which one he had picked (out of about 20 or so vintage/antique rings I had found online). He did a great job though and picked one of my absolute favorites. πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
    8216 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Mine was a complete surprise, but to me that just makes it more special because I know how much effort he put into picking the perfect ring.

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