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I'm just curious if there's anyone else out there who did NOT register. As of right now, we have no plans to register for anything. This is mainly because my FI doesn't really get the concept of registering for gifts, and thinks that it's rude to basically give people a list of what we want. I originally was pretty upset, because I wanted to have a bridal shower, but I"ve resigned myself to the fact that it might end up being a lingerie shower or just a luncheon with the women in my family and my friends.

So did anyone else NOT register? What are your reasons?

@2Peas--we actually got an engagement present of 4 crystal tumblers. They are totally not FI's style, and I said to him, "That's what you get for not registering!" Then he was like, "Oh, they're not so bad...they're growing on me." But it'll be interesting to see what else we get in the mail...although in NYC, I think cash is much more common than gifts are, so we probably won't get too much random stuff. Too bad--it would teach FI a lesson!

@MissAsB: I actually don't really think we'll get too many gifts, especially if there's no bridal shower. Most people don't bring gifts to the wedding in my area (it's mainly cash/check/gift card), and I can't imagine people would mail them to our apartment...maybe I"m wrong though.

We're taking donations towards our honeymoon fund instead of a traditional registry. A big reason for doing it that was was my FH is very much like your FH, he doesn't like giving people a list of things he wants. I think a honeymoon registry or a honey pot is a really good way to give people who want to give you gifts a guiding nudge if you're not doing a traditional gift list.

@littlemissmoo: that is a good idea, and my FI seems to be more open to that than a traditional registry, although he'd still prefer to do nothing. He's so stubborn!

We haven't registered, and I'm hoping we won't have to.  No one's asked about it yet, and we aren't having any showers (that I know of).  We really don't need much (though Mr. Sew still wants that slap chop...>.>"), so I didn't see a point in registering. 

Miss Sewing: you're actually the first person who has told me they're also not planning to register. Nice to know I'm not alone in this "craziness" as my mom calls it :)

yeah..without a registry you leave yourself open to 'random' gifts, but I think it would be sort of interesting to see what they come up with on their own. lol.  But between a mostly Asian family and a DW, I'm not expecting many gifts.  Maybe money, since that's more the norm for them.  Maybe try not registering, and if your guests hassle you about it, then create one? That's my plan anyway, very reactive, lol.

Well, so far my guests haven't been bothering me about it, just my mom and sister! But FI is really against it, so I don't think he's going to give in.

@Mermaid: I definitely don't think it's rude, and FI thinks it's fine for other people. it's just not something he feels comfortable doing.

@SaraFoxy: FI originally wanted to do a charity registry, but after postiing about it on the Knot and getting flamed, we started to rethink it...apparently "forcing" people to choose between giving money as a gift or giving to a charity registry is wrong?

@shannon: that's basically our reasoning; we have everything we need for right now, plus we don't have the space to store anything new (small apt in NYC). I think if you're comfortable with your decision not to register, then you shouldn't do it just because it's expected.