Post # 1
Bit of background and then 2 questions – Fiance and I live in the US but are getting married in Scotland (where he’s from and where his parents are). Neither of us really wants a registry as we don’t want gifts (honestly). We are both late 30’s and had seperate houses before moving in together so we have LOTS of stuff and the stuff we don’t have is really expensive ($1000 espresso machine). We also know we are asking a lot of people to come overseas for a wedding – we want them to come, not buy a present. My mom and my best friend really want us to register, at least for some things – particularly for those people who will not be able to make the trip but will want to acknowledge the wedding and send a gift.
So, two questions –
1) Did you register? If you did not, why didn’t you?
2) Where did you register? (I like the idea of amazon.com as I can register for stuff that isn’t kitchen stuff)
Post # 3
2. Sur la Table and Macys.
I would register – People who want to buy you gifts will buy you gifts regardless of if you register or not. And, if you register, they will buy you what you want.
Register for what you’re interested in and what you want – you want a $1000 espresso maker? Find a store that has it and register! People often will give gift cards to a store, so you can accumulate them and get your espresso maker!
(I’m currently getting bitched at for not registering for china … not doing it, don’t want it :))
Post # 4
If I were you, I would still register. Whether you want them to or not, people will still buy you gifts. You might as well choose things you like rather than getting random items that you don’t like or have no use for.
I registered at Macy’s and Bed Bath and Beyond. If they buy items off your registry, you can easily exchange them and put the money towards the more expensive things you really want, like the $1000 espresso machine.
Post # 5
We originally didn’t want to register either because we already had everything we needed, we’ve lived together for two years already and thought it would be pointless. His mom talked us into it and i’m so glad we did! Yes, we already have a ton of stuff but it’s nice to get new, nicer things. We registered for a lot of home decoration stuff too.
We registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond and Target. Like I said before, we registered for more home decoration stuff than anything else.
Post # 6
we registered at bon ton and target. also i agree with the other bees…it doesnt hurt to register.
Post # 7
We registered at Target and Crate and Barrel. We focused more on kitchen items, and a few things like bath towels and linens but kept it pretty simple since we also have a crap ton of stuff already between the two of us.
Some people prefer to give gifts over anything else, and I personally like going off of a registry when attending a wedding to make sure it’s something the couple wants or needs, so I thought it would be a good idea for us.
Post # 8
Macy’s…. I love seeing when people buy stuff!
Post # 9
We registered at Bed Bath & Beyond and JC Penney. But we are also a couple in our mid-20s who were moving into a new home, needed a lot of things, and were getting married within an hour of where we live, so a very different situation! I think registering on Amazon is a great idea, that way the gifts can be shipped straight to you.
Post # 10
We didn’t want to either…and thought we had everything we needed. My aunt pushed us to do it and said it would be helpful for older guests who don’t use computers and will want to bring a present…or not or whatever.
Anyway, we did register and we registered at Target. Once we started it we realized we actually could do with some new stuff. We are very content with what we have so we didn’t realize our bedding had holes in it or that our vacuum was the one my roommate in college gave to me and no longer had suction.
So, it worked out. We already were given new sheets and a very nice vacuum and it’s like a whole new house 🙂
Post # 11
I empathize with not wanting to put a $1000 espresso machine on a registry. It feels a little over the top when really you have everything you need and you know that your relatives are on social security/just trying to pay their mortgage and put their kids through school. Why not ask guests to donate to a charity? My aunt did this – it was her second wedding – and it was lovely. I donated to a children’s hospital, felt great about it, honored her and her husband, and got a tax deduction all at once. Win win win.
Post # 12
It’s okay to register, we have a destination wedding too and we told our guests not to buy anything but we posted a registry anyway on crate & barrel and people have been buying things. Our things are small, plates, bowls, juicers, etc….nothing insane.
Post # 13
We’ve done amazon.com. We chose it because we are an international couple, and it is accessible from anywhere, with shipping to his place.
Post # 14
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
We are registered at Target.
When we first got engaged we started a registry on Amazon, but I wanted one for people who preferred to shop in-store too, and between the two we just didn’t have enough stuff to justify having two registries because we’ve lived together 3 years and already have a lot of the typical registry stuff. So I deleted the one on Amazon. But their universal registry is pretty awesome!
We’ve found plenty through Target that isn’t your typical registry stuff – FI wants a surround sound system, I registered for some garden boxes, yard games, a Garmin, etc.
Post # 15
I registered with Amazon, albeit extremely reluctantly.
Post # 16
Amazon and Bed, Bath, & Beyond with about equal amounts of stuff on each registry. FI would have liked to add a 3rd place that was an “in person” place since some of his side isn’t computer savvy, but I didn’t want to have 3 tiny registries and the places that are local for his side were pretty limited. Bed Bath & Beyond is in their town though.