Post # 1
Just wondering how many ladies saw their engagement ring or knew the exact one they were getting before they actually got engaged. I know some women pick them out themselves and some leave it completely to the guy.
My DB has bought a ring and he wants to know if I want to see it. I think it will still be a while before he actually proposes. It was custom made so I’m not sure what it looks like…I mean I’ve told him what kind of things I like but yeah.
So…did you see yours before? I’m not sure if that’s a common thing or not. It’s not bad luck or anything is it!? lol. I’m afraid of it making the actual proposal less special. Thoughts???
Post # 2
I saw it and I was even there when the bought it. I know this isn’t super common, but that’s how we did it. It didn’t take any of the specialness out of the experience for me, but I can see how others might say otherwise.
Post # 3
I did not see any part of my ring before he proposed.
Why not see the setting, and not the center stone (or vice versa)? That way some part of it is new when he proposes?
Post # 4
ali1005: I saw my ring, but did not know that was the one he was going to purchase. It was a surprise as I thought we were “just looking” at rings. So I still shocked when it happened.
If you have no plans on changing the ring, then I’d say keep it a surprise. If he wants you to see it to discuss possibly changing it, then maybe check it out.
gillykat824: It sounds like the ring is already made…
Post # 5
I picked out my ring. He didn’t propose yet, but I know what my ring will be like. If I’m wearing it for the rest of my life, I wanna love it!!!
Post # 6
I picked up my engagement rings – with the FI’s help of course – so I definitely saw them before he proposed. There were shipped to my house actually. Out of the five women that I know who have gotten engaged within the last two years, three picked their rings and two had no idea until their FIs proposed. I can only speak for myself but it certainly didn’t affect how special his proposal to me was. There are so many other variables besides the ring that you can’t predict or expect.
Post # 7
We went to pick out my ring together, and then it got made in my size and my FI picked it up without me knowing. The next time I saw it was when he proposed.
I don’t think there is any superstion that says it’s bad luck, but in a situation like yours I would have wanted to wait. He picked it out for you so why not keep that element of surprise for when he proposes.
Post # 8
ali1005: Yep, we picked out our rings together, so we saw them both together. But then again, once we picked out our rings, engagement wasn’t that far off. We picked out our rings, then after they arrived 5 days later (on Easter) he proposed. I don’t think it’s unsual. especially if you told him ideas of what you like for him to then want to show you.
Post # 9
Well, technically no. He surprised me with a solitaire which I had never seen before until he proposed.
But I changed my mind about it later on, and after discussing it, he got me a half-eternity band that I fell in love with in a store on the spur of the moment. So that ended up being my engagement ring, and since I picked it out, obviously it wasn’t a surprise.
Then this past summer I asked him if we could convert the old solitaire into a halo, and he said yes. So now I’m wearing that one again with my wedding band.
In your case, I don’t see anything wrong with taking a peek at the ring in advance. Or you could let it be a surprise. Personally, since yours was a custom ring, I would want to wait and let it be a surprise for the big moment. If there are any things about it that need to be tweaked later on, you could always take it back to the jeweler where the work was done.
Congratulations on your upcoming engagement, and good luck!
Post # 10
CocoLoco523: It may still be in the process of setting, or the jeweler may have pictures of just the setting. Lots of variables here we don’t necessarily know.
Post # 11
The proposal itself was not a surprise, but the ring was! I’d never seen it and gave him no hints about what I wanted.
Post # 12
Same as PP. We had talked about generalities, but he wanted to pick it all on his own. I think it’s more stressful, but more fun that way!
Post # 13
I saw the diamond and I saw the setting but when it was in white gold and standard size. I haven’t seen it in yellow gold or in my size or with the diamond set in the setting so there is still a little surprise there.
Post # 14
I saw my setting and stone on different occasions. Actually seeing them together when he proposed blew my mind!!! I think taking a sneak peak would be ok. I want to see your ring!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water
I picked out my ring after we looked at several options. I am really funny with jewelry and he knows that so I told him to let me pick the final choice and he agreed.