Did you send out thank you notes?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Did you (will you) send thank you notes?
    Yes : (128 votes)
    96 %
    No : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Other- care to comment on what you did? : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    135 posts
    Blushing bee

    Etiquette says the couple has one year from after their wedding to send thank-you notes.  It’s nice to do it in three months, but guests still send presents up to a year after, so I think that’s where the rule came from.  I’ve given wedding gifts and never gotten not gotten thank-you notes, but I don’t really care.  No one likes writing/sending them and getting your husband to participate is impossible.

    Post # 4
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I know some people that wait months for their photographer to give them the thank you cards that come with their photo package.

    Post # 5
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We did, but I attended two weddings over a year ago and never got anything. One was for a co-worker who never even acknowledged that I’d been there (later at work, we talked at her reception).


    Post # 6
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    I’m TRYING to send thank you notes! I got postcards printed but they were mis-printed twice:/ I will send them as soon as I get the cards!

    Post # 7
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MrsBeck:  I will be sending them, no doubt about it. They are not optional, in my opinion, and honestly, it isn’t a big deal to take the time to write them. I send thank you cards for all gifts I receive. 

    Post # 8
    8678 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I did. I had to wait on a few addresses (Long story short, they were last minute invited to the wedding, not by me) and it took me a couple months to get those. I sent thank yous out after we got the photo thank yous back from the printer and then I just sent the other ones out whenever I got the addresse (I sent them out a week or so ago, our wedding was June 15th, so it was a short delay.)

    Post # 9
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

    I’m not one to faithfully follow all wedding “rules” but even I know that it’s rude not to send thank you notes!  I agree with oldmatron that the couple has one year to do so.

    Post # 10
    2896 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    we sent out thank cards 2.5 months after our wedding. i would have sent them sooner, but our photos were delayed.


    i’ve received thank you cards for almost every wedding i’ve been to. the only one i can think of who didn’t send thank you’s was my sister in law. i don’t know if she didn’t send thank you’s to anyone or if we just didn’t receive on because we didn’t give them a “real” gift. my husband helped pay for the wedding, we bought the arras (coins) for the ceremony, i spend $250 on the dress that i was required to wear, and my husband spent at least $150 on his tux. so needless to say, we really couldn’t afford to give them anything.

    she also asked for money on her invitation, so i think good etiquette is just lost on her.

    Post # 12
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MrsBeck:  I send thank you notes for everything, not just weddings. I can’t imagine life any other way.

    Post # 13
    5259 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My wedding was 4 months ago and I’m just going to send out my thank you in the next few weeks. i have gotten a thakn you from every wedding I have attended except one

    Post # 14
    3828 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am sending them slowly right now but plan to have them all out by the 1.5 month mark after the wedding. 

    There have been a few weddings where i didnt receive a thank you. One i think they forgot us, and the other they didnt send any. SO i am trying to get mine done as soon as possible so my mother will leave me be lol. 

    Post # 15
    1747 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We attended a wedding in June and have yet to receive a thank you note from that one, but I’m honestly not too worried about it. Although etiquette states one year, I would hope most people strive to have notes out within 6 months (less if you aren’t waiting for photos!!)

    I’m nuts and all of mine were sent and received a week after the wedding (Hurricane Sandy postponed our honeymoon…I had time on my hands). 🙂

    Post # 16
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I haven’t yet and it’s been 5.5 weeks… but I’m working on them!  Husband is no help at all, but I expected to do all of them myself so whatever.  (He’s the best, but not the best at this.)

    We’ve had friends in the past not send thank-yous and I think it’s incredibly rude. Especially when we haven’t even attended but sent a gift anyway – how do I even know it showed up?

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