Post # 1
I keep seeing all these posts about save the dates and some bees seem very stressed about them. I’m just curious how many bees sent out save the dates and if they would do it again.
We sent them out and if I could do it over again I would not send them. They were a waste of time and money IMO. We also had some regrets closer to the wedding because there were some folks we (by we I mean our parents) decided they didn’t want there anymore but we explained we still had to send an invite. So in hindsight, if I were to get married again, I would not send out save the dates. I would just spread news about my local (I would probably send them for a destination) wedding through word of mouth and send out my invites at 8 weeks.
Did you send them out? Was your wedding local? Would you do it again?
Post # 3
We’re not sending them. My wedding isn’t local for my family or my fiance’s (we live in a city far from both families) but our parents have already spread the word about the date. We plan on sending out invites early (about 3 months out) to give people time to finalize travel plans. Save the dates just felt like too much extra money and hassle to us, so we’re skipping them without regret. 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsBeck: we sent them, because we had a lot of people that would need to travel for the wedding. i’m glad we did, even though USPS lost a lot of ours.
Post # 5
i plan on sending them and look forward to it! i’m only sending it to the 100% for-sure-will-be-invited ones, and don’t intend to spend months choosing “the perfect design” a pretty picture from our engagement photos should do! i’m also not concerned about things like my parents changing their minds simply because i’m inviting the same family friends that my sister did a couple year ago and my parent’s aren’t dramatic and do things like change their mind on old friends… lol
Post # 6
We aren’t sending save-the-dates because we are having two waves of invites. I guess we could send them to guest list A to ensure that more of them will be there…I really don’t want to invite guest list B (a side of the family who were total a’holes to my now-deceased father who I don’t really want at our wedding day)
And now I’m considering sending them…..
Post # 7
@MrsBeck: We did because we had the time (sent them 9 months before). It was another fun crafty project for me. I also liked that it was an engagement anouncement, too so we were able to share our news with everyone. I personally love getting save the dates and putting things on my calendar well in advance. I loved doing mine, and everyone who received one loved them, too.
Post # 8
We did not do Save the Dates. If I had an unlimited budget, I would have loved to have sent them, but I saw this as an area where I could cut. All those little things add up! Ours is also a destination wedding, but we spread the word about the date to most of our closest friends and family, and I mailed our invites about four months in advance (with a second wave about 1-2 months out).
Post # 9
We’re doing them for three main reasons: 1) Everyone keeps asking when we’ll send one out 2) this gives us an excuse to gather addresses earlier 3) I love our e-pics and want to brag.
Post # 10
@MrsBeck: Hi there. I just ordered our STD postcards. Our wedding is not local to many of our guests so we are sending STD’s to our out of town family and friends so they can arrange/anticipate travel. Local guests will not be getting STD’s unless I’m feeling postage rich. 🙂
Post # 11
We are doing them. Getting our e-pics done next weekend. We are getting sick of everyone asking us “when”…plus we have a few family members out of town.
Post # 12
We did not send them. Our wedding wasn’t local, it was in my hometown which is on the opposite end of the country. Our guests came from all over Canada. Most people heard word of mouth when it was and we just sent the invitations early. We still had 120 people show up out of 160 invited which I think is what we would have got even if we’d used save the dates.
Post # 13
We sent them. They were cute and people loved them.
Post # 14
We didn’t send them because we have other things to use that money for. Our out-of-town families were given PLENTY of notice by FMIL because she was so freaking excited about the engagement she couldn’t keep our mouth shut. She did all of our work for us for free. XD
Post # 15
We sent them, but our wedding required significant travel for most people so I felt they were necessary. If we had a local wedding, I would not have sent them.
Post # 16
We sent them and I’m happy that we did. A lot of our guests have to travel for our wedding so it was nice to give them a heads up. There’s only 1 person I sent an STD to who I’d now wish I could uninvite so overall it was good for us.
I went to a desination wedding in Florida a few years ago where the couple just sent the invites out 4 or 5 months before the wedding. That works too…as long as you give people a few months to make their travel plans.