Post # 1
Current post made me think about couples setting rules for each other.
If you set rules, did they get broken? If they did get broken, what was the aftermath?
Future brides, will you set rules/ will your groom set some for you?
And if you didn’t set rules, how come? How did it turn out?
Post # 3
No rules. I trust my partner 100% to make the right choices without having to dictate what they are.
Post # 6
“Don’t do anything that would make me cry.”
He said, “Never would.”
Post # 7
No rules. But we have been together for so many years that we know each others boundaries and we know what is “acceptable” and “unacceptable” in our relationship.
Post # 8
My rule for FI and his rule for me is the same: no sex!
Post # 9
No worries with this one! We’re having a co-ed bash.
Post # 10
We both thought the whole bach/bachelorette party thing was kind of dumb and juvenile, so we just went out for dinner and drinks with about 10 of our closest friends a couple of nights before our wedding. We had a great time. I should probably explain that we have many shared friends, our friendships aren’t sex-segregated, and we don’t get to see many of these people as often as we’d like b/c we live in a different state now, so the prevailing feeling was that splitting up artificially would have just diminished everyone’s fun.
But in general, I wouldn’t marry a man whose conduct and judgment I didn’t trust implicitly. If a bride can’t trust her fiance to behave with integrity before the wedding unless he’s given a list of rules, she either views him as a child who needs to be told how to behave, or as a moral degenerate who will betray her if he thinks he can get away with it. Which is not to say that she’s incorrect or at fault in her assessment that he can’t be trusted unless given a set of rules for behavior. It’s just that she’s an idiot if she reaches that conclusion and yet signs up for a lifetime of vulnerability to his decision making.
Post # 11
our rule, out of curtesy for each other, no strippers. We respect each other more than that, and the rule is more for our guests to adhere too.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t need to, nor would my FI.
Post # 14
No strippers for either of us. I think that’s disgusting.
Post # 15
Yeah I didn’t give him any rules. He’s a former Marine, married, divorced and single for awhile, if there was something he really wanted to do he’s probably already done it, and wouldn’t be saving it for his bachelor party. As it was he was passed out on the couch when I got home.
Post # 16
don’t get injured (he’s into extreme sports)
the fellas say that can’t promise that entirely, just no serious injuries.